# Hello from a new member! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [April 25, 2011, 4:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-new-member/50029 "2011-04-25T04:01:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![kenji1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3ec8ea/32.png) [@kenji1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/kenji1)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2011, 4:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-new-member/50029/1 "2011-04-25T04:01:09Z")
Hi everyone, I’m a 28yr old Male, living in Sth East Asia (It’s hot here!). I started looking into [pheromones](https://a314.com/) out of sheer curiosity and since starting to read this forum a few days ago, I see it goes much deeper than I could have imagined!! My interest in using pheromones is twofold: I’m in a leadership position at work but I’d like to step up to a higher position and would love an edge with how people might see me as a natural leader. From what I’ve been reading, A314 seems appropriate for this. Also, I’ve been married for two years but already things are cooling down 😕 I’d like to find something that works to bring me and my wife closer together. Anyway, it’s nice to be a member and hope to learn a lot more soon!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![xev](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xev/32/1993_2.png) [@xev](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/xev)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2011, 4:16am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-new-member/50029/2 "2011-04-25T04:16:21Z")
Hey kenji1: Welcome to the forum! I think that A314 is definitely a good choice for fostering an alpha vibe at work, if you can match the phero signature it gives with your speech, body language, etc. In terms of the wife, why do you think things are cooling down? Have you drifted apart as friends? Or is the friendship fine, but the physical aspect has cooled? For the former, I’d suggest [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/), as it helps to foster deeper communication and intimacy. For the latter, turn up the heat would be good, particularly if you can get her to relax a bit with the instant honesty first. ---
**Author:** ![sheik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d2c977/32.png) [@sheik](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sheik)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2011, 4:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-new-member/50029/3 "2011-04-25T04:26:18Z")
Hi Kenji, I’m from the same region too! I’m currently testing A314 but i’ve had more time testing with IG. A314 is more authoritative than IG. I guess the choice depends on your style of management. While both A314 and IG help me to get things done, A314 appears to be a bit intimidating to some. A314 will place some distance between you and less confident people. A314: Do it right now. IG: Do it for me, bro. I keep both because i believe they are useful in different situations. Try them! I think IH is a fantastic product. I’ve had people whom i’m not close to tell me things which i still cant understand why. It really helps foster the feeling of togetherness! TUTH can also REALLY help ignite some passion if you get the sweet spot right 😃 Do consider instant shine as well because it puts everyone in a good mood. I wish they add it to all their products lol. Read up the stickies if you have already and don’t be shy about posting more questions or your own reports! ---
**Author:** ![kenji1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3ec8ea/32.png) [@kenji1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/kenji1)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2011, 4:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-new-member/50029/4 "2011-04-25T04:28:41Z")
Thanks for the reply! I think it’s more to do with the friendship side. We don’t seem to be able to communicate as well and while we don’t really argue too much, we’ve lost what used to be the strongest part of our relationship. IH sounds good…hopefully it can get us talking properly again. ---
**Author:** ![sheik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d2c977/32.png) [@sheik](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sheik)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2011, 4:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-new-member/50029/5 "2011-04-25T04:32:00Z")
Shine + IO + IH Good feel + chattiness + bonding Seems like a kick ass combination to me 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![kenji1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3ec8ea/32.png) [@kenji1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/kenji1)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2011, 4:39am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-new-member/50029/6 "2011-04-25T04:39:56Z")
Thanks for all the suggestions! I think I’ll try A314 first but if it seems to come one too strong I might give IG a shot. Also, I think the bonding aspect of IH is more what I’m looking for than chattiness (we can still talk a lot but it just doesn’t feel as close). ---
**Author:** ![Astrea](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/astrea/32/1928_2.png) [@Astrea](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Astrea)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2011, 4:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-new-member/50029/7 "2011-04-25T04:44:17Z")
> [@sheik](#): > > Shine + IO + IH > > Good feel + chattiness + bonding > > Seems like a kick ass combination to me 🙂 Sounds like it to me, too!😃 ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2011, 11:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-new-member/50029/8 "2011-04-26T23:19:36Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk Kenji! I would say xev’s recommendations go with the products I would definitely recommend for you. What I want to add is that if you are shy then A314 will not work for you as well as it should. The good news is you can work up to it by using Instant gentleman or Ammunition which is a real confidence boaster. Let us know what you decided on and how it works out for you. **Your gc was issued! 😉**