Hey blurtheplanet welcome to pherotalk 
for the sex-appeal thingy ammo like clint said, since youre 37 i think you should buy the heavyammo . The confidence thingy is going to be IShine, it is positive energy in a bottle.
a314 is very good product indeed, like clint said the leader vibe.
And when youre coming out to strong and want a more toned down respect you should have IG is a very good status booster also but not so much the I am dominant type a314 is.
Scent of eros is good for comunications, and if you want to give androtics a shot in that area you have 3:
IO, IH and cctm2- the last one I cant tell you much I never used it. The IH is when you want to have more intimate talks, and IO is for the chatty open laid back talks
Also I would suggest for you to read this thread:
it will help you out with the mones. may even help you with the ones you already bought.
If you have any doubt just ask.
Best regards
Falcos