Hi Amir. Welcome on board.
I´m also a newbie, only have been using mones for about 8 weeks. Anyway, i can tell you that the proeduct that works best for me and gives me more consistent hits and keeps my mood where i want ti to be is Instant Gentleman.
Some people say it´s A314 smaller brother. It gives you the respect, but in amore cool and relaxed way.
I can also tell you that it has a sexy aura that A314 does not seem to have by itself, althoug some people seem to get it from A314 also. Being yourself a young folk, and reading your bad experiences with heavy -none mixes, i guess IG, combined with IS, may give you the vibe you are loking for.
I find the following thread to be very informative about IG, compared to A314: A314 vs Instant Gentleman: a married man in his mid-40s compares the two
Right now, IG is out of stock, but it will be available soon.
Anyway, there are more advanced user around the forum that can give you better advice.
Hope this helps.
Talk to you soon.