Hello Mirabella,
Good to have a female member on board 
Welcome 
I see you have tried pheros for some time there(1 year), so you must be a experienced user anyway this is a great place to learn & conduct your own test on pheros here
Ok for you situation, i agreed with Robbie recommendation on Instant Shine & Instant Sexiness there as it work best in your situation there. Instant Shine will help deal with your shyness & Instant Sexiness will help increase your sexual attraction Here is a link for more info on Instant Sexiness as well as the other women pheros available here> Womens Pheromone Guide
Hope that helps. See you