Hi spyderwoman 
Welcome!
Well, I’m not Xev, but I can suggest a few things. You might do best to stick with the consumer line at first and leave the TAF for a bit later. 
Instant Shine for a bright uplifting feeling for you and those around you. Instant Openness to encourage conversation and Instant Honesty for deeper connection/communication. Instant Sexiness/A gives off a sexy confident alpha-woman vibe and Instant Sexiness/B for a softer sexy vibe.
It’s important to test them individually at first, starting with one spray, until you find your sweet spot . That’s the number of sprays (dose) that works best for you. It’s different for everyone.
Take your time and read the sticky’s at the top of the women’s forum. Then read this - Congruence? What's That?
Hope that helps, have fun!
Bella