# Hello from Mars! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [January 10, 2010, 9:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-mars/35364 "2010-01-10T09:11:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Redpanda9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c57346/32.png) [@Redpanda9](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Redpanda9)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2010, 9:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-mars/35364/1 "2010-01-10T09:11:38Z")
Jk, i’m not really from Mars, just an 18 year old guy from Moreno Valley, California. To start off with, I’m an awkward person. I don’t know how to make friends but sometimes I do make some but then whenever I look back on it, i dont know how. And I am so awkward that I really don’t have any friends that are girls and there is only 1 I can talk to but she goes to a different school and lives in a city about 45 min away, so I just text her sometimes (like a few times a month). My friends say I’m funny and stuff but i can’t seem to be funny when I’m with a girl because I’m really shy. I wasn’t always so shy, my parents told me that when I was very young, whenever we went to the mall or something, I would walk up to teenage girls and ask them to come to my birthday party, even if it was like7 months away! (of course none of them came because I didn’t give them details and they knew I was just being a little kid). I don’t want to be awkward anymore, sometimes I am so nervous that I stutter and can’t do long conversations but I want to. I’m good at listening, just not talking. I can’t go up to a girl I dont know all that well to ask her something, but I can easily go up to a guy and ask him something. I’m also not good at parties and I can’t really join into conversations, unless 2 or more of my friends are in it. I think that [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) can really help me stop being so awkward and be able to make more friends and talk to girls. PS: I’m 100% sure that i am straight. ---
**Author:** ![tezza23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tezza23/32/1375_2.png) [@tezza23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tezza23)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2010, 12:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-mars/35364/2 "2010-01-10T12:28:23Z")
You’re not really from Mars? That’s so disappointing!.. Ah, you _feel_ like you’re from Mars, eh? Yeah, I have social anxiety too. First of all, reduce stress. Take up meditation, Yoga, something like that. Second, make sure your nutrition is adequate, grass-fed meat (if you can afford it), veges, water. Avoid cigarettes, caffeine, alcohol. They all mess with your brain. You may be deficient in things like vitamin B and D, and may need more of certain amino acids like glutamine, tryptophan etc. Google “Nora Gedgaudas Primal Body, Primal Mind” for a lot of useful info. Thirdly, remember to breathe. When you are tense, you breathe more shallowly and quickly, but making sure your breathing is slow deep and regular will calm you. As far as meeting girls goes, body language is key. Google “jeans\*joe eye contact” for a cool free resource on attracting women using eye contact. Now… as far as pheromones are concerned, I’d try Instant Shine. It puts a smile on my face and is attractive to everyone. I love it to bits. [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) is another good one. Instant Openness I _don’t_ recommend based on my own experience, because it makes my own social anxiety worse. Your mileage may vary, but try it in 5ml first if you choose to try it. I have found A314 very helpful to me, in terms of its self-effects, but I’m a bit reluctant to recommend it to a new user because it’s fairly pricy compared to the others and not everyone gets self-effects from pheromones. Instant Gentleman has similar (although definitely not the same) effects so you can try that see how it goes. Overall, always remember that it’s 10% pheros, 90% you so do act congruently with the pheros… go out, and put yourself in social situations, and do those things to reduce your anxiety. It will get better. ---
**Author:** ![Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gone_with_the_wind/32/2227_2.png) [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gone_with_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2010, 1:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-mars/35364/3 "2010-01-10T13:19:48Z")
Welcome to the forum. Very good advice in the post above. Both ih and io help to get conversations going, and sound like they would be helpful for you. IG will add a smooth, comforting masculine aura. A314 has the same base but is more distancing and harder for young guys to pull off, so I’d wait on that one. You’ll probably get the desired effects from IG. And IG is available in a small to-go size for inexpensive testing, whereas a314 is not. Tell us what you decide on and how they work for you. ---
**Author:** ![MVKBUGATTI](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/50afbb/32.png) [@MVKBUGATTI](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MVKBUGATTI)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2010, 2:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-mars/35364/4 "2010-01-10T14:52:35Z")
Hello and Welcome Redpanda9! You may want to try IG ([Instant Gentleman — Classy, High Value Male Pheromone - Alpha A314](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/)) . It will give you a capable, masculine aura that will probably help with your confidence. Also, I suggest you try consider [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) ([Instant Openness – Ice Breaker Pheromone for Men - Alpha A314](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/)) . It will help to break the ice, and also make you more approachable. Pheromones cannot do most of the work for you. What pheromones do is accentuate or draw attention to what you already have. You must do most of the work, but the pheromones will give you that extra edge. Talk to your self and look in the mirror and speak positive and motivate yourself. :)Start talking to people of all ages whether they are guys/girls-young/old, there’s plenty of opportunity to do that. The more you do so the more you’ll grow, please make a conscious effort to do it.🙂 Hope this helps, and just ask if you have any questions! best regards, MVKBUGATTI ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2010, 7:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-mars/35364/5 "2010-01-10T19:28:56Z")
Hello and welcome to PheroTalk. I am so happy you were able to discover this most amazing community. We consider each other like family here and are totally committed to helping each other out. There are so many great people here and now another too 🙂. I will be issuing your GC in just a short while to your email. I would love to be able to personally respond to every new user signing on, but because I want to ensure you get the GC in time I can only reply with this message at this time. I’m sure you are anxious to get started, just like the rest of us were too 🙂. Its cool! Of course Steve is available to answer any question you might have regarding mones. Please call our hot-line and select extension one and Steve will be able to consult you one on one. Welcome to the forum. ---
**Author:** ![nobrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90ced4/32.png) [@nobrain](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/nobrain)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 4:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-mars/35364/6 "2010-01-11T16:10:36Z")
> [@Redpanda9](#): > > I’m good at listening, just not talking. You’re gonna be ok! While a big talker make a more powerful first impression, a good listener is #1 (and much more rare). Give yourself a break. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be good around the girls. The reason you’re having trouble talking to the girls is because you’re attaching intimacy too early. I’m betting there is a female in your life you do not have a problem talking to – your mom, maybe a sister, maybe a… The problem with girls comes in because of the fear of rejection – of being awkward. You don’t have this problem with guys because you are not attaching anything. The reality is you’re going to have to get over it. Yes, get over it. Don’t put yourself in an “I’m awkward” bubble. Make goals for yourself. “I am going to approach 3 girls today”… It sounds silly, but TRY IT. Nike got it right – JUST DO IT. Will you be nervous!? YES! Will it be uncomfortable? YES! Might you look silly to the girl? Maybe. But the only way you are going to truly get better is practice! Make it a mission. In the beginning challenge yourself. DO NOT MAKE THE GOAL something to do with the girl’s response. That you cannot control. Free yourself from the burden of trying to impress them or be “smooth” with them. It is clear from your post that you know how to make conversation… Dude, have no fear – the gals are just dying to hang-with good listener!