Welcome John,
Tez has told you what would work best for your relationship, and I agree Ammo would be a good start.
For the friends, try instant openness and instant honesty. Read more about Instant Gentleman it’s one of my favs. For parties consider Spaceland 
If you have time, be sure to read The Mans Guide It will tell you more about the MX/Putatives - but you should experiment with the trialed and test consumer products like Ammo first.