# Hello from NY **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [August 20, 2009, 1:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723 "2009-08-20T01:46:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![bluejune82](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c68b51/32.png) [@bluejune82](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bluejune82)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 1:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/1 "2009-08-20T01:46:42Z")
Hello ladies and gents! So I’m a 30 yr old single mixed race female. I am painfully shy, actually I’m only shy when meeting new people or in groups. Once I’m completely comfortable with the guy I’m very outgoing and playful. I’m having a really hard time meeting people in NYC (where I live) mostly because of my shyness. There is nothing wrong with me in the looks department. 😉 I get hit on all the time, however I always get really nasty disrespectful comments…and I never dress slutty in anyway. C’mon, do guys think I would really give them my number after such comments? WTF!?😠 I stumbled across this site and thought I should experiment with this stuff. I’m kind of getting bored with experimenting with vitamin supplements and the latest crazes and stuff. I love conducting my own little researches and feel I can use my free time to experiment and report my findings here. So this is what I’m looking for: - I need to attract men ASAP - I need to loosen up and become more outgoing - I need something that will bring out my wild side. Something I haven’t seen since 10 years ago. I need my sex drive back. Note: I’m on BC pills, if that means anything to anyone. Can you guys help me out pretty please??? I am very skeptical about the whole [Pheromone](https://a314.com/shop/) thing, but am very curious. Thanks!!🙂 -Blue ---
**Author:** ![reddog](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/reddog/32/2091_2.png) [@reddog](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/reddog)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 3:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/2 "2009-08-20T03:46:29Z")
The ladies will chime in here … Instant sexiness (there are 2 … ladies a little help here), Instant shine (x2) concentration … will put you in a feel good social mood, Instant Openness will put everyone in a chatty mood. The [social pheromones](https://a314.com/product-category/social-pheromones/) are really great at opening you up to others. ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 3:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/3 "2009-08-20T03:54:12Z")
HI bluejune, Welcome to the forum. I recommend IO, Shine, MX300 and [Instant Sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/). Shine will boost your confidence socially. It can also lighten your mood and the mood of the people around you. IO will make the men want to talk to you. It makes you more approachable. You will enjoy more conversations with men. As for the respect side, MX300 will make the men respect you more. They will think you are trusted, respectful and capable. Hope you get no disrespectful comments again. Instant Sexiness is to make them feel you are sexier and more attractive. IS A is for more dominant and tougher vibe whereas IS B is for softer and more feminine vibe. Good luck to you ---
**Author:** ![Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gone_with_the_wind/32/2227_2.png) [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gone_with_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 5:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/4 "2009-08-20T05:13:09Z")
> [@bluejune82](#): > > …Note: I’m on BC pills, if that means anything to anyone. > > … BC pills will alter your hormonal balance. Artificial [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) can give you a more “natural” signature, but that is only half the equaltion. You will also perceive others differently when you’re on BC pills. It is possible that in a more natural state the things you find offensive now would not be offensive to you. It is common for males here to note differences in female responses correlated with the phase of the menstrual cycle. If those cycles are suppressed then it is possible some of the responses are altered. Just something to think about. ---
**Author:** ![tezza23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tezza23/32/1375_2.png) [@tezza23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tezza23)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 6:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/5 "2009-08-20T06:56:18Z")
Hello there… If you’re shy (as I am), you may be attracting negative attention with your body language. Looking down, shoulders forward, while you walk gives a “victim signal” and will tend to attract people who want to treat you badly. If you hold your shoulders back, head up, and look people in the eye you’ll come across as much more confident and deserving of respect. You will also feel more confident. Of course, I haven’t seen how you walk so I could be talking garbage, but shyness does show in your BL so that’s something to think about. ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 5:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/6 "2009-08-20T17:24:11Z")
Hello and welcome to PheroTalk. I am so happy you were able to discover this most amazing community. We consider each other like family here and are totally committed to helping each other out. There are so many great people here and now another too 🙂. Currently we are in the process of seeking out an additional forum moderator or two to help with the upkeep of the forum. With that in mind I will be issuing your GC in just a short while to your email. I would love to be able to personally respond to every new user signing on, but because I want to ensure you get the GC in time I can only reply with this message at this time. I’m sure you are anxious to get started, just like the rest of us were too 🙂. Its cool! Of course I am available to answer any question you might have regarding mones selection by calling me personally on the hotline. Please select extension one and I will be able to consult you one on one. Welcome to the forum. ---
**Author:** ![tezza23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tezza23/32/1375_2.png) [@tezza23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tezza23)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 11:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/7 "2009-08-20T23:43:19Z")
> [@](#): > > I need something that will bring out my wild side. Something I haven’t seen since 10 years ago. I need my sex drive back. For this, you _might_ try TUTH. Just when things are beginning to “heat up”, i.e. actual foreplay is beginning, you spray a little of this on him, or a light bulb so it gets in the air. This stuff does turn women on, but don’t use it by yourself because it’ll make you horny and unable to sleep. A 5ml to-go bottle is $7.95 in the store, so you can easily try it out. ---
**Author:** ![bluejune82](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c68b51/32.png) [@bluejune82](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bluejune82)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 1:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/8 "2009-08-21T01:57:18Z")
> [@tezza23](#): > > Hello there… > > If you’re shy (as I am), you may be attracting negative attention with your body language. Looking down, shoulders forward, while you walk gives a “victim signal” and will tend to attract people who want to treat you badly. If you hold your shoulders back, head up, and look people in the eye you’ll come across as much more confident and deserving of respect. You will also feel more confident. Of course, I haven’t seen how you walk so I could be talking garbage, but shyness does show in your BL so that’s something to think about. Yes. I’m sure I’m giving off that vibe, but those guys are usually shocked when I tell them off. Although I walk with my head down, never give eye contact I don’t take crap from people. I have a very quick nasty tongue. No one ever expects it. I’m hot or cold there is no in between with me. ---
**Author:** ![moonwhisper](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/moonwhisper/32/1735_2.png) [@moonwhisper](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/moonwhisper)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 3:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/9 "2009-08-21T03:00:07Z")
Tezza makes an important point about body language. My mother used to always say that you could get away with just about anything as long as you went about it confidently and without apology. She was right. Look people in the eye, it is the sign of being alpha. Don’t necessarily stare the down and be obnoxious about it, but don’t show fear. And smile. For no reason, at whomever you meet. Now in two easy steps you have become more alpha and more friendly. You may be surprised to see who’s approaching you now. Okay…getting off my soapbox. lol As to pheros. Instant Sexiness is a **must** for you. There are two versions, A & B. If the one you’re looking at in the store is not marked with a letter, then it is A. Instnat Sexiness A is an alpha, dominant sexy mix. It is confident, in-charge and some compare it to Angelina Jolie in a bottle. It makes me want to strut, gives me the confidence I need to approach anyone, and I just love it. I wear it all the time. It is a womanly, seductress type of sexy. Instant Sexiness B is a softer, more playful type of sexy. Some compare it to Marilyn Monroe. It is delicate, tender, demure and yet still very sexy. It is a matter of figuring out which one is more congruent to your own personality. Wear the one that seems most like you. Or get them both with your GC and try them both out, that is the best way to know which one you like. Instant Shine and [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) are other good products to try. I hope you have fun with it and tell us how it went. ---
**Author:** ![tezza23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tezza23/32/1375_2.png) [@tezza23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tezza23)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 3:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/10 "2009-08-21T03:37:36Z")
> [@](#): > > My mother used to always say that you could get away with just about anything as long as you went about it confidently and without apology. She was right. This reminds me of a story I heard from my grandfather - he ran a large hotel, and in the lobby there was a large clock hanging on the wall. One day, a bloke in workman’s clothes with a ladder walked in, put the ladder up on the wall, took down the clock and walked out with clock and ladder. He stole the clock right under everyone’s noses! No one stopped him, they all assumed that he was there for legitimate reasons. 😮 🙄 So if your BL is better, not only will you get fewer people giving you s\*\*t, making sarcastic responses less necessary, you will get approached by better quality guys that you may want to date. ---
**Author:** ![moonwhisper](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/moonwhisper/32/1735_2.png) [@moonwhisper](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/moonwhisper)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 6:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/11 "2009-08-21T06:17:18Z")
A pleasant countenance and confident body language communicate that you are of high value and will attract higher caliber men. It will also attract lesser caliber men, but they are often too off-put by your social status to approach. ---
**Author:** ![Datarule](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/50afbb/32.png) [@Datarule](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Datarule)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 8:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-ny/31723/12 "2009-08-21T08:15:26Z")
> [@bluejune82](#): > > Yes. I’m sure I’m giving off that vibe, but those guys are usually shocked when I tell them off. Although I walk with my head down, never give eye contact I don’t take crap from people. I have a very quick nasty tongue. No one ever expects it. I’m hot or cold there is no in between with me. Hi Bluejune, I think that might be the problem too, without knowing where do you go (bar, supermarket, bookstore, etc., when guys hit on you and leave you nasty comments, I can’t really be know what your situation is, but maybe a few spray of [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) to light up the environment will give you better result.