# Hello.. looking to see a change in others, without changing myself. **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [December 31, 2009, 10:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-looking-to-see-a-change-in-others-without-changing-myself/35178 "2009-12-31T10:43:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Cu\_Sith](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/cu_sith/32/1937_2.png) [@Cu\_Sith](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Cu_Sith)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2009, 10:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-looking-to-see-a-change-in-others-without-changing-myself/35178/1 "2009-12-31T10:43:23Z")
Hello, community. I’ve just now ordered some A314, some IH/m, and a small portable spray bottle of TUTH. I’m BRAND new to [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/), and SO skeptical, but optimistic about the whole thing. I mostly get complimented on about my curly hair, my dark eyes, my “cute” face, my butt, or just who I am in general. Usually the compliments arent to me though.. usually a girl will tell someone that I’m pretty well acquainted with. I was actually inspired by a videogame I’m playing, in which your character can consume pheromone coffee to gain points in “Charm.” It’s a JRPG; I’m kind of nerdy 😛. To describe myself.. my scenario.. I’m 20, about 5’9" and 140lbs. I’m slim, but fit. I’m somewhat shy. More quiet than shy though. I’ve been told that I’m intimidating, and I could understand if people think I’m stuck up. I’ve been told that I have an old soul; I’m pretty mature for a person who spends most of his time playing games 😛. I just got out of a 3 year relationship; not really depressed or on the rebound or anything. It’s actually nice to be single again.. that was my first and only relationship, and I do get a pretty good amount of attention from the opposite sex, so I’d like more experience and the relationship end was pretty much welcome. People usually won’t take the time to get to know me. Perhaps I may not seem interesting. Or maybe they’re intimidated or scared to ask. I’ve been told that I usually either look like I have something on my mind, I’m depressed, or I’m upset, even when I’m actually in a good mood (which is most of the time haha). But, I love hearing the things that people have to say about me. It always catches me off guard and is so flattering.. That was my motivation behind picking up IH/m. I work for an electronics retailer as a cashier, and I’m the only male in my department. I get along with pretty much everyone in my department, though there is one girl that I would really like more attention from. She’s 25, but very youthful. Everybody I know thinks she has the biggest attitude in the world, but she’s the sweetest person in the world to me haha. I would like for her to think about me when I’m not around as much as I do of her. More attention from her would be pleasant too. I’m also curious as to how customers may react differently when I’m wearing different pheromones. And what kind of behaviors from me will be more accepted with certain pheromones. I definitely had to get some A314 to see what all the fuss was about haha. I guess this is mostly experimenting for me.. life is mostly experimenting for me haha. I like to see what I can change around me without changing myself. Pheromones seem like an interesting tool to change my surroundings. I’m mostly escaping into fantasy worlds, but I’d like to have some more fun in the real world too 🙂. Anyways, thanks for reading about me, I hope you guys can give me some good input! O yeah, also, I’d like to increase peoples’ curiosity about me. Anyone come up with a Pheromone mix for a mysterious aura? I’ve been told that I have a mysterious air, but I’m curious and would love to attract more interest. THANKS! ---
**Author:** ![Cherub](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/cherub/32/1282_2.png) [@Cherub](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Cherub)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2009, 12:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-looking-to-see-a-change-in-others-without-changing-myself/35178/2 "2009-12-31T12:10:19Z")
Hello and welcome also happy new year… I’m on my iPhone so I will keep it short.. You gave a good description of yourself and I think A314 will suit you well for the mysertious James bond kinda effect and give you a alpha male sig… Best if luck and welcome aboard! ---
**Author:** ![tezza23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tezza23/32/1375_2.png) [@tezza23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tezza23)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2009, 12:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-looking-to-see-a-change-in-others-without-changing-myself/35178/3 "2009-12-31T12:43:03Z")
Hello and welcome. If you’re already unapproachable, A314 may not help. Although the IH may help with that, I would have gotten IG and [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) instead. Being mysteeerious is fine, but if you are unapproachable it won’t help you at all. ---
**Author:** ![MVKBUGATTI](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/50afbb/32.png) [@MVKBUGATTI](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MVKBUGATTI)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2009, 2:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-looking-to-see-a-change-in-others-without-changing-myself/35178/4 "2009-12-31T14:55:20Z")
Hi and welcome! First of all, I hope you’re enjoying the holiday season. It won’t be long before it’s NEW YEAR DAY. IG ([Instant Gentleman — Classy, High Value Male Pheromone - Alpha A314](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/)) is underrated, yet it has a softer effect than say A314. Many people prefer [A314](https://a314.com/product/a314-classic/) for respect, status and it’s multi-facets. Yes, I own [A314](https://a314.com/product/a314-classic/) however I already have a lot of the attributes that describe A314, so I buffer it. [IG](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) is more of that **cool** **guy** vibe. Younger ladies love those cool guys, it’s also reported that it make younger men appear more mature looking.🙂 Also, consider [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/), IO ([Instant Openness – Ice Breaker Pheromone for Men - Alpha A314](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/)) , and [IH](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) are all good buffers for [A314](https://a314.com/product/a314-classic/) . [IG](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) is a good buffer as well. Whatever you do, use one product alone by itself for a few days in the beginning and go slow and keep a journal of your findings: who, what, when and where type of historical information. 🙂 with regards, MVKBUGATTI ---
**Author:** ![conundrum12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@conundrum12](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/conundrum12)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2009, 8:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-looking-to-see-a-change-in-others-without-changing-myself/35178/5 "2009-12-31T20:42:55Z")
It sounds to me like one of the things you will need to focus on is congruency. You say people have trouble approaching you because of your demeanor or potential vibes you give off despite the fact you are happy most of the time. The most [social pheromones](https://a314.com/product-category/social-pheromones/) won’t help much if you never smile and never look approachable. Good luck! Hopefully you will enjoy the real world as much as your fantasy worlds. As to a mix, I often use 3 cttm2, 2 ammo, 1 a314 (optional), 20 mcg p74. It makes me more attractive to girls, approachable, conversations lead to a strong bond, and the a314 gives me a vip feel. ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2009, 9:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-looking-to-see-a-change-in-others-without-changing-myself/35178/6 "2009-12-31T21:39:17Z")
Hello and welcome to PheroTalk. I am so happy you were able to discover this most amazing community. We consider each other like family here and are totally committed to helping each other out. There are so many great people here and now another too 🙂. I will be issuing your GC in just a short while to your email. I would love to be able to personally respond to every new user signing on, but because I want to ensure you get the GC in time I can only reply with this message at this time. I’m sure you are anxious to get started, just like the rest of us were too 🙂. Its cool! Of course Steve is available to answer any question you might have regarding mones. Please call our hot-line and select extension one and Steve will be able to consult you one on one. Welcome to the forum. ---
**Author:** ![Cu\_Sith](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/cu_sith/32/1937_2.png) [@Cu\_Sith](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Cu_Sith)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2009, 11:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-looking-to-see-a-change-in-others-without-changing-myself/35178/7 "2009-12-31T23:00:33Z")
Thanks for all the tips and input, everyone 🙂. I did also pick up some [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/), but unfortunately, AMMO, which I REALLY wanted, is out of stock ☹. O well, I shall experiment with what I’ve got first haha. This is all very exciting, I can only hope not to be disappointed. Realistically, I’ll be satisfied even if the effects aren’t positive; I just want to see that the pheromones do anything at all 😛.