# Hello! New here and looking for guidance **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [June 26, 2013, 6:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here-and-looking-for-guidance/59436 "2013-06-26T18:19:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 2
**Author:** ![monesmadedoit](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/monesmadedoit/32/325_2.png) [@monesmadedoit](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/monesmadedoit)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 8:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here-and-looking-for-guidance/59436/2 "2013-06-26T20:33:52Z")
> [@thelostfox](#): > > Hello, > > My name is Andy and I’m actually looking into this mostly because I have a great friend who’s a woman and we have been on the fence about dating for almost 6 months now. We are both about 30 years old, divorced (not to each other 😛), and have kids. I know how I feel about her and really want to start something more, but she is not sure due mostly to bad past experience. I’m interested in seeing if there might be something that could give me a slight edge to win her over. I’m really not looking to just hook up with her, I would like to just a get past the great friends area and into the more then friends area, long term relationship. I was thinking about trying Pheromones in order to help with this but really wanted to talk with people who have tried this, maybe even had similar goals as mine and see if this could possibly help. If I end up trying this it would be used on a date level (movies, dinner, est ) and not for like a club or any intense type areas (we both like book stores more then dance clubs). Any ideas to help on this matter would be greatly appreciated. > > Thank you, > Andy Hello Andy! There are several directions you could go in. Let me give you one. That would be IG + IH. IG signals that you are a stable, high value man. IH adds some depth and bonding that nearly every woman likes. Women have used it for years themselves just for that reason. If you want a touch of -eNone for the sexual spark, A314 would give you that along with status. 314 and IG both play well with IH, but IG doesn’t have None. Three sprays of IH with either of the other two (especially 314) can do great things if you’ll give it 4 tries or so over one month. > [@A314 vs Instant Gentleman: repost of the comparison, linking to the original thread](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a314-vs-instant-gentleman/23600): > > \*\*You may view and post in the original thread here: \*\*[https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a314-vs-instant-gentleman/11070](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a314-vs-instant-gentleman/11070) Myself: Athletic, mid-40s, Married with children This is a compilation of thoughts on the differences between A314 and [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/). A lot of this is based not only on my experience but also on some PMs between myself and Renny. So if you like this post and decide to share the love – er, rep points, please do not forget to send Renny some too. For those of you who are not fam… Old thread, but still worth it. The 314/IG/IH thing has been around a while. Popular. Note Bosshank’s comment. Let us know what you think. There isn’t much None in 314, but it’s a factor. You could get the three items to cover all your bases. However, even if you get the 314 oil, I think most men would say IH is something valuable to steer it with. Adds real depth. --- _[View the full topic](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here-and-looking-for-guidance/59436)._