# hello!!! New here **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [October 12, 2012, 6:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here/57015 "2012-10-12T18:35:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![rina23x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/65b543/32.png) [@rina23x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/rina23x)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 6:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here/57015/1 "2012-10-12T18:35:33Z")
Hello I’m marina and I’m 29and live in San Antonio. Alittle about my personality, I’m shy until you get to know me. I used to be very confident when I worked but since I’ve been out of work to care for my disabled child I’ve inverted and don’t want to even look at guys in the face. I also gained weight and have been dealing with some depression. I hope to regain my confidence back and be able to talk to men the way I used to. Maybe someone can give me some pointers on being confident. Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![ashg101](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/53a042/32.png) [@ashg101](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ashg101)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 6:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here/57015/2 "2012-10-12T18:55:52Z")
Hey Marina! How are you? Not to deter from the topic but I have a tendency to help people based on my situations. I used to have depression. Have you tried vitamin b? It did wonders for me. I am just throwing it out there though. You would like to gain confidence and feel good. No problem! We are all here to help. Have you tried mones before? And firstly how did you hear about this forum? Instant sexiness is a top pic for the ladies- it will help you. Make sure you make an effort to show someone you are interested though- then the mones will do rest. [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) I read will uplift and make you feel confident so that is a suggestion too (peers- please let me know if this is suitable for women). Instant lines in general should be good like honesty. Hope all is well. ---
**Author:** ![rina23x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/65b543/32.png) [@rina23x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/rina23x)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 7:34pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here/57015/3 "2012-10-12T19:34:20Z")
I actually just started b12 a couple of days ago. Working out seems to help I just really have to push myself to get out of the house. Thanks for your advice. I really want to try [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) to build my confidence back up. I do need to put myself out there and show im interested. ---
**Author:** ![Spinach](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/spinach/32/348_2.png) [@Spinach](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Spinach)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2012, 12:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here/57015/4 "2012-10-13T00:58:25Z")
Hi Marina, welcome to the phero community! Gorgeous name, btw. 🙂 I feel for your situation. Staying at home and focussing on one task for so long must be very draining. As you know you will need other fixes for clinical depression, but I hope that the pheromones’ feel-good factor can give you a boost on your way back to total confidence. 🙂 The first product I think you should consider is Instant Shine. It gives off a youthful, fun and radiant vibe but not only that, a lot of users get mood-lifting effects from it. Personally I don’t get as much of an ‘instant happy rush’ reaction as some I’ve read about, but I do find that the atmosphere becomes lighthearted and giggly, and that it doesn’t take much for my mouth to stretch into a huge, wide grin! [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) is another you could look into - it gets people chatty, plus gives you an approachable, easygoing air. For the attraction part I suggest giving IS/A a go. Instant Sexiness comes in two versions, A and B. A is the more assertive, alpha, ‘Angelina Jolie’ vibe, and B has the sweet, passive, kittenish Marilyn Monroe vibe. Depending on your personality you can use one or the other, or sometimes both, but if it is the straight-up confidence you are looking for, perhaps you would like version A better? Also, this is unrelated to pheros, but you might find this TED Talk interesting 🙂 [Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are | Video on TED.com](http://bit.ly/PXSgIB) Please come back to us to let us know what you decide on, and how they go for you. Also if you need any further guidance, we’d be happy to help. I hope to see you around! - Spinach P.S - Yes, Ash, the socials (IS, IH, IO) are all unisex products. 🙂 Also TUTH. ---
**Author:** ![rina23x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/65b543/32.png) [@rina23x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/rina23x)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2012, 5:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here/57015/5 "2012-10-16T05:43:15Z")
Thanks for the advice. Im on edge about getting back on antidepressants. I felt great on them but $70 a month is a lot of $$$. Working out seems to be getting by for now. ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 1:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-here/57015/6 "2012-10-17T13:48:59Z")
Welcome Marino, Being woman is beautiful and we women are the flowers of the earth. The fact that you have this huge responsibility means that you are strong, which adds to your beauty We should be confident no matter how we look and what things we were born with but that doesn’t mean you stop working and improving on yourself In the end there will always be someone prettier and smarter and faster and a better cook etc so if you are happy with you it will also encourage others to be happy with you as well It took me a long time to learn this and don’t be fooled by my looks , I had insecurities by the millions because of my parents Love you because we are all made special and unique and every key has a lock so I pray you find that lock I suggest you start with is/b to make you feel comfortable with yourself Shine to make you feel refreshed and give of that vibrant, youthful vibe Ppl are attracted to youth especially men Keep us updated so we can continue to assist **Your gc was issued!**