# Hello - new - question.... **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [May 16, 2011, 3:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-question/50335 "2011-05-16T15:31:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![CB2553](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e47c2d/32.png) [@CB2553](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CB2553)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2011, 3:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-question/50335/1 "2011-05-16T15:31:51Z")
Hello, I am new to this whole [Pheromone](https://a314.com/shop/) thing. I just purchased TUTH, IO and IH. I should be receiving them tomorrow. Any advice would be very appriciated, I am 32 years old, 6’-2" 195 lbs, I weight train 6 days a week - in pretty good shape… I am looking to attract my babysitter, she is older then me she is 38 years old i see her twice a day and get pretty close to her. i dont plan on acting on any reaction she may have but just would like to know if she is interested… If she isnt maybe just get her interested. If anyone has any questions for me please let me know. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![1Alpha](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/1alpha/32/190_2.png) [@1Alpha](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/1Alpha)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2011, 4:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-question/50335/2 "2011-05-16T16:57:39Z")
Hi CB2553 and a warm welcome to the mone forum! For that situation, I’d suggest to use up the IH. If you are already talking to her regularly and can have a good convo without mones, then, just check her reaction to the IH by itself. If convo’s are a bit strained from the getgo, then, the IO to get her talkative first. Mones like this will help in sending a signal that your easy to talk to and ready to have a meaningful conversation with her and she can trust you with her conversations. BUT, they will not override her free will or make her do what she doesn’t want to… The thing is, it can help to know what she is thinking about your relationship. By your description, physically, your in a great place. So, you need to know if that’s what she is looking for or if she is even looking…🙂 Tell us a bit about your personality as well as hers to see if there are any other points we can help ya with… mones are related alot with your attitude and personality… Cheers and hope to hear from you soon! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![ClintX2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9e8a1a/32.png) [@ClintX2](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ClintX2)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2011, 8:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-question/50335/3 "2011-05-16T20:06:13Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk CB2553! , As far as choices go I think you have chosen well! 🙂 **Instant Honesty** will help you to gain a deeper bond and connection with her. It will also help her to trust you more. **Turn up the heat:** Turns things sexual. **[Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/)** really helps people open up to you. Since you have already ordered two things that will really help you are keeping a journal (this will help you to see what works best for you) and using this thread: [https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-find-your-sweet-spot/22146](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-find-your-sweet-spot/22146) as a guideline to help you find your sweet spot (the number of sprays that gets you your best results) I’m curious, how did you find out about this site? ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2011, 10:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-question/50335/4 "2011-05-18T22:18:01Z")
Welcome to pheromonetalk CB! Now, you received all the advise you need for now. What am wondering is why would a 32 yr old man doing with a babysitter? **Your gc was issued! 😉** ---
**Author:** ![CB2553](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e47c2d/32.png) [@CB2553](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CB2553)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2011, 1:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-question/50335/5 "2011-05-19T13:15:52Z")
Thank you all for the help. Unfortunitely the bottle of IO the spray top doesnt work… I have to send it back for a new one. I will see what happend with the IH though. havent used it yet. Hey Mickaela, Just curious that all. no intention of doing anything. just one of those things I need to know. I get mixed signals from her so i just want to know, either way it doesnt matter. she is older than i am by the way its not a 18 year old or anything. > [@kelsey](#): > > Welcome to pheromonetalk CB! > > Now, you received all the advise you need for now. > > What am wondering is why would a 32 yr old man doing with a babysitter? > > **Your gc was issued! 😉**