# Hello. New to all this, but trying to do it right. **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [July 23, 2009, 9:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-to-all-this-but-trying-to-do-it-right/30932 "2009-07-23T09:34:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![WinnieIllePu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/ecc23a/32.png) [@WinnieIllePu](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/WinnieIllePu)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 9:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-to-all-this-but-trying-to-do-it-right/30932/1 "2009-07-23T09:34:14Z")
Hey there. I’m male (as i think you can see on the side). I turn 20 in about a week. I’m currently living in the Seattle area, where I currently go to college. The reason I’m here is because I’m trying to move on from a bad breakup. Broke up with my ex-girlfriend about a month ago. She…cheated on me. I’ll leave it at that. It’s been hard but now I really need and want to move on from that. I’m finally ready to get out again, rekindle neglected friendships, make new ones, and, hopefully, date again. And generally just get out there and be good to myself again. So a little more about myself and what I’m looking for. It’s a little hard for me to strike up conversations, particularly with women. I guess I worry a little too much about what people think of me. I’ve always experienced this slight social anxiety, finding it hard to talk to new people, but it’s been especially bad lately. I used to be a little more outgoing, and generally funner to be around (though I’ve always had problems approaching women) but it’s been hard for me to act that way for a while now. So I guess I’m looking to pheremones for a push in the right direction. I know I can improve myself socially, but I’d love some help with that. I guess I’m looking for something that would help me meet and talk to people. Something that’ll help me make new friends. And most of all, something that’ll help me date again. What man doesn’t want to be more attractive to women? I don’t know if I’m quite ready for a long term relationship, but I’d definitely like to date and have fun again. I have to admit, I’m still very skeptical about all this. I can’t find any scientific studies proving whether human pheremones work or not. As a science major, that alone is enough to make me skeptical. But, since it hasn’t been disproven, I’m willing to try it out and see for myself. I’m want to give this a fair shot and do it right. You all seem really helpful here, so I’d love any of your suggestions. Both on what to use and how to use them. I tried to do some research, and I’m thinking that maybe AMMUNITION and [Come Talk To Me](https://a314.com/product/come-talk-to-me-cttm/) might be best for me but i still want to hear what all of you think. Just keep in mind that, as much as I’d love to experiment and mix things up, I am still a poor college student. So I probably can’t afford to much at the moment. But yeah, this seems like such a friendly helpful community, I’d love to hear what you folks have to say. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Flirtatious](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flirtatious/32/2270_2.png) [@Flirtatious](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Flirtatious)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 9:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-to-all-this-but-trying-to-do-it-right/30932/2 "2009-07-23T09:43:18Z")
Hi! And welcome! Great intro! I’m sorry for your breakup. I can imagine you’re sceptic. I was too. I experienced my first hit when I least expected it and exploring ever since! 😉 I think [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) would be great for you. It gives of a “I’m open for conversation”-vibe and make you more approchable. Next to that it seems to make people happy and relaxed to be around you. Have lots of fun! ---
**Author:** ![AlexanderG](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alexanderg/32/891_2.png) [@AlexanderG](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/AlexanderG)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 9:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-to-all-this-but-trying-to-do-it-right/30932/3 "2009-07-23T09:46:56Z")
Hi Winnie, Start with the social products like Instant Honesty, Instant Openness. [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) is a personal fav for mine. Ammo is the great all round attractant - I suggest you read about this too. Check out [the Mens Guide](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/mens-pheromone-guide-revised-6-15/12168)and let us know if you have any more questions 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 9:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-to-all-this-but-trying-to-do-it-right/30932/4 "2009-07-23T09:52:06Z")
Hi there, Welcome to the forum. Thank you for the long introduction. I wil suggest you strat with IO, IH, Shine and AMMO. Since you find difficulty to strike conversation, IO will help you to open up the girls and make them want to talk to you. Shine will boost your confidence and counter your shyness. It kinda lighten your mood and the mood of the peoe around you. IH will make the people closer to you. They will feel bonded with you. This can build relationship. As for dating, AMMO will help in getting the girls attracted to you. It is well buffered and can be used at most occassions. Good luck to you ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 9:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-to-all-this-but-trying-to-do-it-right/30932/5 "2009-07-23T21:55:16Z")
Hello Win. Just wanted to pop in and say hello and welcome aboard. > [@](#): > > I have to admit, I’m still very skeptical about all this. I can’t find any scientific studies proving whether human pheremones work or not. As a science major, that alone is enough to make me skeptical. But, since it hasn’t been disproven, I’m willing to try it out and see for myself. I’m want to give this a fair shot and do it right. Its perfectly normal to be skeptical. Most people are in the beginning. As for the scientific studies you are probably just looking in the wrong places. We have a studies and abstract section here for members who find studies outside of the forum so they can place a link for the group and discuss it. This is a good place to start. Next Pubmed is great. You need the chemical names of the [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) for the best research results though. There is actually a great deal of research being conducted and many molecules have been proven to cause a response. Ammo and Cttm are both great products. You can get them in the small to-go size to test them out just about free with your GC when it comes. You may want to consider Ishine as well for a warm inviting charismatic charm. I hope to see you down in the forum and if you need anything just ask. Have fun Tisha ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 10:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-to-all-this-but-trying-to-do-it-right/30932/6 "2009-07-23T22:52:20Z")
Hi there and welcome to the forum. Such a well articulated intro deserves some extra love so look out. I think you’ve gotten some really good advice here and I do have to agree. [Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/), Ishine, and some CTTM would rock. It’s really a fun-loving sexy guy that everyone wants to talk to mix. I think it might be exactly what you’re looking for. Of course you can get them all in to go bottles. The only difference between a to go and a full size is the size. To Go’s are a great way to sample product without having to shell out to much cashola 🙂. If you like them go for the big sizes. And as always if you need more advice and would feel more comfortable you can always reach me on the hotline. **Welcome, your GC is on its way** ---
**Author:** ![WinnieIllePu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/ecc23a/32.png) [@WinnieIllePu](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/WinnieIllePu)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 10:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-new-to-all-this-but-trying-to-do-it-right/30932/7 "2009-07-23T22:54:25Z")
Alright. I’ll probably end up getting AMMO, CTTM, and Instant Shine. Probably in the to go sizes (unless anyone recommends otherwise) as soon as I get my GC. I don’t mind that it’ll go over the GC amount, I wouldn’t come here if I didn’t have a little money to spend at least. So if you guys had any more suggestions, I’d still love to hear it. [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) and Instant Honesty both look really good, but it’s my understanding that CTTM is basically a mix of the two, 50% Alpha Androstenol and 50% Beta Androstenol. And as for the studies, i did find some preliminary research that looked very promising (the only reason I could work up the balls to actually trying it myself). I just couldn’t find any hardcore peer-reviewd scientific studies. But I’ll be sure to check out the Studies & Abstracts section. Hard evidence is always appreciated. So how exactly is the best way to find what works for me? One at a time first? In increasing amounts? Should I avoid mixing them together until I experience each by itself? I can’t wait to test these out. I’m already planning to write up a report with my results. Thanks again everyone. Edit: And thanks a lot Steve. Didn’t see your post there as I was typing mine. I’ll be waiting anxiously.