# Hello There...She's Caught My Eye!!! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [May 12, 2009, 7:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893 "2009-05-12T07:44:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Mr.Ghost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@Mr.Ghost](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Ghost)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2009, 7:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/1 "2009-05-12T07:44:43Z")
Well, I’m an 18 year old guy that lives in Kansas (Lol Kansas), and I’ve just recently been looking up information about [Pheromones](https://a314.com/), and stumbled onto this site. Anyway, I may as well go into detail about my situation now. Well, I started working for a retail store a while ago, and it’s fun, but these past few months someone caught my eye. I’m not really any good at the dating scene or anything, and I don’t have enough self confidence to ask her out yet. I mean, we do flirt occasionally, and I enjoy the time I get to spend with her during our breaks. I know there are a lot of taboos around dating coworkers, but it doesn’t stop there, get this, she’s also a single mother of a 6 month old son. Yeah I know. xD First off, I want to point out that I’m not uneducated, I actually graduated highschool two years early, which might be one of the reasons I missed out on the social dating scene. I’m not saying this to be cocky or arrogant, I just don’t want people saying, “Don’t be stupid, stay away from the single mother.” I’m not worried about the money that I may have to pay if I become a “perceived father figure” either, this retail job is just for the experience of having a working job, I’m actually a director for a trading company, so even if she says no when I ask her out, I can leave the retail job if it makes her uncomfortable. Whew, Okay. I’ve just been reading up on these pheromones, and I think they might be what I need for that extra confidence boost, and maybe for helping me climb the ladder in either of my jobs. Also, I’m not interested in sex that much, so I think ones like Turn Up The Heat might be wasted on me. With all this in mind, does anyone have any recommendations for which pheromones I should try first? ---
**Author:** ![pupy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bc8723/32.png) [@pupy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pupy)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2009, 7:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/2 "2009-05-12T07:56:05Z")
Hey there! Welcome to the forums. I guess the question is… are you trying to get a certain reaction out of her? (Ex. Would you like her to make the first move?) The “socials” are probably your best bet here, especially since you said sex isn’t at the top of your list. (That’s actually a smart thing to do, since lots of people think pheros will get them laid instantly.) Instant Openness and [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) are the two I can think of… Instant Openness will make talking just that bit easier, and Instant Gentleman will give you a more “suave” appearance. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2009, 7:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/3 "2009-05-12T07:57:11Z")
Hi and welcome! Thanks for the great info. Based on that, I do have a few suggestions that would definitely help your situations. Ammo is a great everyday, all around product that will enhance your confidence and your sex appeal. It can be worn comfortable in any environment. [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) helps ease the starting of conversations, and Instant Honesty adds depth and intimacy to conversations. If you have trouble initiating conversation, Instant Openness would be a good one for you, and if you have trouble getting past superficial conversation, the Instant Honesty would be good. You can even use both. For work, A314 is the hands down winner. It will increase your confidence at work, and also increase the amount of respect you get. In fact, it can work so well that you can be perceived as unapproachable. In that case, it can be softened with Instant Openness or Instant Honesty. ---
**Author:** ![AlexanderG](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alexanderg/32/891_2.png) [@AlexanderG](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/AlexanderG)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2009, 8:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/4 "2009-05-12T08:37:19Z")
Hi Ghost, welcome to the forums, you’ve got some great suggestions here 🙂 I suggest you have a good read of [The Mens Guide](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/mens-pheromone-guide-revised-6-15/12168)and let us know if you have anymore questions. The lovelly Tisha should be online again soon to provide the gift certificate 😉 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 1:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/5 "2009-05-13T01:15:10Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 2 years early, that’s great but your right you probably lost out on a lot of socialization experiences. No worries though, you can always make up for it now. I think AMMO IH and Ishine would be great for you to use. AMMO for its attractiveness and sex appeal. IH for deeper conversation and feelings of connection. Ishine for a warm upbeat charismatic vibe. They will help increase feelings of confidence as well so that will help. **Your GC is on its way** 😃 If you have any questions or need help just ask. See you in the forum Tisha Hostess/Guide ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Ghost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@Mr.Ghost](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Ghost)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 1:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/6 "2009-05-13T01:46:55Z")
Wow, thanks everybody, I think I’ve made my decision on what to get first. I’ll be starting with Ammo first, then probably mix in [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) and Instant Shine later on. I’ve been doing a lot of lurking since I signed up, and there is so much information to take in, its a little overwhelming. Again, thanks for helping with my decision. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 2:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/7 "2009-05-13T02:13:43Z")
It’s our pleasure, Mr. Ghost!! And if you have any more questions about anything at all, just ask 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![dmkolb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/58f4c7/32.png) [@dmkolb](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dmkolb)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 4:27am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/8 "2009-05-13T04:27:09Z")
I’m not meaning to be an ass if I come off that way but you sound very unsure of yourself just from what I read. It shouldn’t matter what you do for a living. You don’t need to impress anyone here or her because you’re the director of some company. If she can’t appreciate you for you don’t waste your time. Your 18 you’ll meet someone else I promise. Also saying you’ll change your job if she doesn’t like it. You’re giving her control and power before you’re even really with her. Most women don’t want a guy that gives them everything they want. They want someone they can’t control (even though they try) knows what they want, goes after it, and doesn’t change who they are. Now this may have mixed reviews but as young as you are you have much to learn about relationships. Do a Google search for David Deangelo. Sign up for his free email news letter and start reading them. I have read his material for years and it works. It works extremely well. This was before I found pheromones. This stuff might even work better with it. Anyway I think your shooting yourself in the foot before you’re even out the door. Take a look at his stuff and try some of it. I think you’ll have better success with women in general than the road your on now. Best of luck man. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 4:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/9 "2009-05-13T16:28:17Z")
> [@](#): > > I’m not meaning to be an ass if I come off that way but you sound very unsure of yourself just from what I read. It shouldn’t matter what you do for a living. You don’t need to impress anyone here or her because you’re the director of some company. Try harder. Telling us what he does for a living helps us understand his personality and environment. I am all for PUA techniques, hell women invented them, but think about it. Just the very fact that a person looks into PUA indicates they are unsure of themselves. If they werent they wouldnt need David’s help and thats whats he is counting on. People come here to improve and we all were unsure of ourselves at some point. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![dmkolb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/58f4c7/32.png) [@dmkolb](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dmkolb)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 5:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/10 "2009-05-14T05:38:21Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > Try harder. > > Telling us what he does for a living helps us understand his personality and environment. > > I am all for PUA techniques, hell women invented them, but think about it. Just the very fact that a person looks into PUA indicates they are unsure of themselves. If they werent they wouldnt need David’s help and thats whats he is counting on. > > People come here to improve and we all were unsure of ourselves at some point. > > Tisha I think your missing my point. He’s talking about changing his life around for a girl he hasn’t even talked to yet. Women don’t want someone they can control. Come on deep down you know it’s true. They want a guy that takes charge and doesn’t settle. Maybe they see it as a challenge. No I idea. What I’m saying is be yourself, and be confident in who you are. It’s unattractive to come off as insecure and unsure of yourself. Pheromones or not if you come off as this way it wont matter. Your right everyone at some point is unsure of themselves. You have to work past that and improve. It can be done and you’ll notice a difference in other people around you just based on this. As for being unsure and that’s why guys including myself look at David’s stuff, I don’t agree. Of course some guys are. I was as a kid, but his stuff is so out there and nuts it can’t possibly work and it’s a blast to read. Crazy part is it does. It’s kinda like self improvement. I’m in a relationship. Did it help me break the ice and get my girlfriends attention. Absolutely. Does it all change once your in a relationship? Yes. 75% of his stuff no longer works in a relationship and will probably destroy it. But getting the girl is the first step. Be a strong and confident guy. Don’t change for anyone and go after your dreams. If someone tries to change you make sure you want to change or move on. Hope that clears things up. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Ghost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@Mr.Ghost](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Ghost)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2009, 4:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-there-shes-caught-my-eye/28893/11 "2009-05-15T04:21:25Z")
Well, it was my day off today, and my pheros came in the mail (The chocolate was great xD), so I decided to give [Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/) a test drive. I started with just one spray to my chest, and let it settle for a bit before I headed out. I then drove to a Sam’s Club near where I work to pick up some Red Bulls for my brother, and got a comment from the cashier saying how good I smelled. Then I figured, since I’m already near work, I’ll go see how her day is going so far. So I walk into the store and wave and start walking towards her. Then, just as I’m about to ask her how her day is going, she asks me for my phone number o.o. I’m like “Uh, what? Oh, sure.” 😮 It completely took me by surprise. Now, I’m not sure whether or not it was caused by the Ammo or my previous flirting that spurred this question, but it was an amazing moment. And now I’ll just keep using my pheros to keep her interested.😛 Anyway, we stayed and chatted for a few minutes before the manager came to say hello to me. She was pretty friendly with me too, which is sort of usual for her, so it wasn’t too much of a difference. After that I said goodbye to both of them, and the girl who now has my phone number said she would call me in the next few days, so here’s hoping I don’t die while waiting. 🙄 Oh, and dmkolb, I’m a submissive kind of guy, I just don’t feel right if the girl isn’t getting her way almost all the time. It’s not something I want to fix, it’s part of who I am. Thanks for the advice anyway though.🙂