# Hello! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [July 8, 2008, 9:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121 "2008-07-08T09:05:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Sir-Sol](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@Sir-Sol](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sir-Sol)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2008, 9:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/1 "2008-07-08T09:05:11Z")
Hey there everyone, or to anyone reading this x]. I’m an 18 year old sophomore in college, Filipino male (straight), and reside in California. I’ve enjoyed reading everyone’s experiences so far, whether they are applicable to me or not, 'cause it seems to me that everyone is downright honest - I appreciate honesty :]. Now more on myself - I’ve been single for a while now after an end to a serious relationship, and I told myself that I would not be looking. (So I’m single and not looking. Yet I admit I get pretty lonely XP.) The problem is I feel that ever since I got into that relationship I’ve projected an aura in which people don’t seem to bother getting to know me, as if I am _still_ in a serious relationship. I actually drifted apart from many close friends because of that relationship… These days, it’s difficult to befriend people, females especially, for who knows what reason. I’d really just like to find people who I can relate to on a personal level, with the intent of creating strong friendships. Actually, I kind of want them to find me, if that makes any sense. Anyway, I appreciate any suggestions on any thing, or even a quick glance at this XD. Have a good day! ---
**Author:** ![K24](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/k24/32/1513_2.png) [@K24](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/K24)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2008, 10:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/2 "2008-07-08T10:01:50Z")
Hi Sir-Sol, welcome to the forum buddy 🙂 At your age and for your situation I’d highly suggest you look into the social products as a start, [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) and Instant Honesty are two highly recommanded social products, you can’t go wrong with those. IO is a chatty communication pheromone, use it as an ice breaker with the ladies, and IH is used to create deeper communication with people and friends. another aone i recommand is instant gentlement, it is less serious than A314 but still gives you that alpha vibe, good for people your age and should help you in your situation. if you have any more questions don’t hesitate to ask, we are here to help you 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2008, 10:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/3 "2008-07-08T10:01:51Z")
Hi Sir-sol, Welcome to the forum. To befriend people, I recommend you try out IO. It is a conversation maker. People will like to talk to you. IH is for quality conversation. It makes the conversation last longer and more personal. It create bond between you and people talking to you. Shine is good for mood uplifting. People will feel good around you. It also boost your confidence socially. If you have any question, just ask. The people here are friendly. Good luck. Welcome again. Cheers ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2008, 10:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/4 "2008-07-08T10:11:40Z")
Hello and welcome to the forum. I agree with the recommendations so far - try the social products first so you can start to reconnect with people. Then once you can do that things will fall back into place. You may alsowant to think about [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) - it will give you a cool/smooth air and maybe make you seem a little older. ---
**Author:** ![Sir-Sol](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@Sir-Sol](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sir-Sol)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2008, 9:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/5 "2008-07-08T21:59:12Z")
Thanks for the response everyone! I like the descriptions, and I think I will actually try out Instant Openness and Instant Honesty. I really like the description of [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/), as it seems very appropriate for my taste ;]. I will definitely try that in the future. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2008, 12:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/6 "2008-07-09T00:35:19Z")
Hello Welcome to the forum 🙂 I also thing IO and IH are a great place to start. You may want to look into Ishine as well, its warm charismatic and uplifting. Keep in mind while I know you would like them to find you, you need to make yourself available to find. Look open to people approaching you. Participate in life 😉 Be sure to read “what mones can do and what they cant do” the link is in my signature below. 😃 **Your GC is in your email box** 😃 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![Sir-Sol](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@Sir-Sol](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sir-Sol)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2008, 4:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/7 "2008-07-09T04:30:50Z")
I will consider IS also! Hmmm, tisha23, what do you mean by making myself available to find? I wonder how to be approachable, if anything. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2008, 9:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/8 "2008-07-09T09:47:21Z")
Well if you dont go out and mingle with people your not available to find. Looking approachable is easy, make eye contact, smile, have a open body stance. People will be more likely and comfortable coming to you when you practice these. There is a body language link in my signature below, It will help you read others and maintain a positive personal body stance to make interacting with others easier. Communication is not just verbal. We communicate through mones and body language as well. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![zapper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a88e4f/32.png) [@zapper](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/zapper)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2008, 9:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/9 "2008-07-09T09:54:40Z")
Hey Sir-Sol Welcome to the forum! I don’t have much to add to what’s already been said but I will say this - I also have a problem with being approachable. I’ve been told by countless people that I am extremely aloof, and many times my facial expression borders on the “Don’t Talk To Me” aura! I’m also very reserved. I don’t actively try to project this image, it’s just the way I am I guess. I’ve also gotten into trying pheromones to try to fix this, but what everyone says is true - it’s not so much what you are spraying on yourself but how you act after that as well. I’ve had only limited success with [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/), but I firmly believe that it’s more because I need to actively try to put a “Shine” on my dealings with people first, before the pheros can work! Sorry I can’t recommend more products or give you more advice but I just wanted to let you know that. Good luck and I hope the products help! ---
**Author:** ![Sir-Sol](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@Sir-Sol](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sir-Sol)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2008, 10:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/15121/10 "2008-07-09T22:28:56Z")
Ah, it’s good to know I don’t feel the same way, Zapper. Thanks for the advice. :] I will try to be more approachable… how? I’ll figure out on my own eventually, hehe.