Welcome hero,
I suggest you try some combos of the social products: Instant Openness, Instant Honesty, Instant Shine and Instant Gentleman.
We’re not supposed to recommend advanced products to new members so I will probably get into trouble, but I have to say when I use Spaceland I am a heck of a lot more talkative and comfortable around others 
I suggest you read about these products in the mens guideand let us know if you have any more questions.
Good luck