# Hello **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [November 11, 2011, 10:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277 "2011-11-11T22:18:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![bionicgrov](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/edb3f5/32.png) [@bionicgrov](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bionicgrov)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 10:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277/1 "2011-11-11T22:18:04Z")
Hello everyone. I have been a long time lurker and decided to register and start posting. I am male, 33 years old, live in the Southeastern United States and married with two wonderful kids. I have been reluctant to post here because I guess I am just intimidated with everything, but it seems like most posters are very helpful and open and that is exactly what I will need help with. I came across this site after looking for things to help put the spark back in my marriage and love life, and have been extremely curious ever since. I have a good marriage, but over the last 5 years my wife and I have been at opposite spectrum’s as far as being physical. She is very modest and shy, and I am the same way, but I want her to be open in the bedroom and to express herself. She never lets me know when she is “in the mood” and I was hoping that maybe [pheromones](https://a314.com/) could help. So there you go, I would love to hear some suggestions. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 10:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277/2 "2011-11-11T22:21:51Z")
Hiya - Welcome to Pherotalk. Glad you finally raised your head! 😃 Don’t be put-off. Using and evaluating pheros is pretty straightforward once you get the hang of things. Have you read this thread? It contains all the basic info for effective use: > [@An Introduction to Mones: Names, Size, Strength, Use, Effects & Duration](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/an-introduction-to-mones-names-size-strength-use-effects-length-of/43003): > > Welcome to an exciting world of [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/). By joining our community you have taken a HUGE step in progressing a science that is cutting edge and still in its infancy. This community is globally important in recognizing pheromones, and Neuroinfluence Technology ? and their impact on human communication. There are thousands of posts here and thousands more users. Each one of us, including you, adds a unique dynamic to the community from our individual perspectives, experiences and our research an… In the meantime, I would suggest TUTH and some of the bonding/mood lightening socials as a good place to start. [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) for fun and feelgood confidence IH for increasing the closeness and intimate bonding between you Neither of these contain none, which if your wife is shy/reticent, may intimidate her initially but as the social pheros take hold, you could make good use of TUTH for enhancing sex or Ammo for reminding her of the all-round worthwile/sexy guy she has. Again, her modesty may mean the heavier status pheros like A314 may initially be too much but the light suave/status of IG could also help remind her of good fun qualities in your relationship? Hope to hear good results soon. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![1Alpha](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/1alpha/32/190_2.png) [@1Alpha](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/1Alpha)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 10:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277/3 "2011-11-11T22:28:19Z")
Another lurker?!? Well, I’m glad that you grew out of that phase! 🙂 A formal welcome to you, sir! That’s fine, many posters around here are looking for different effects using mones. In your case, it’s similar to what I use my mones… I’d suggest some IShine and IH to start with. As you are both on the shy side of things, IShine, I think, would get things a bit more fluid with IH helping in just opening her up to you in a deep way. It may take some time for the effects to be felt, as she has a built in view of who you are/should be… This new mone signature may need to be accepted by her. You do need to be a bit more ‘Shiney’, smiley, open with her to get behind the mone signal of these two products. Though, if an issue is in the bedroom, you can try out TUTH to get things hot and heavy… after the comfort of IShine and IH have taken hold. Hope things work out for you! Let us all know how it went to better guide you on the mones you apply! 🙂 > [@bionicgrov](#): > > Hello everyone. > > I have been a long time lurker and decided to register and start posting. > > I am male, 33 years old, live in the Southeastern United States and married with two wonderful kids. > > I have been reluctant to post here because I guess I am just intimidated with everything, but it seems like most posters are very helpful and open and that is exactly what I will need help with. I came across this site after looking for things to help put the spark back in my marriage and love life, and have been extremely curious ever since. I have a good marriage, but over the last 5 years my wife and I have been at opposite spectrum’s as far as being physical. She is very modest and shy, and I am the same way, but I want her to be open in the bedroom and to express herself. She never lets me know when she is “in the mood” and I was hoping that maybe pheromones could help. > > So there you go, I would love to hear some suggestions. > > Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 10:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277/4 "2011-11-11T22:30:13Z")
Hi and welcome to the forum! To get the spark back in your marriage, definitely go with [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) and Turn Up The Heat. Instant Honesty will help rekindle and strengthen the emotional bonds that are so important in a marriage, by helping to bring out deeper communications between you. Turn Up The Heat will help spice things up in the bedroom. It will help with her arousal and she will respond much more willingly to you. I would suggest using the Instant Honesty first, it will bring her to a place where she feels really comfortable with you again, this emotional connection is important for most ladies to feel sexual desire for their partners. I hope this helps, and just ask if you have questions! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bionicgrov](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/edb3f5/32.png) [@bionicgrov](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bionicgrov)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 10:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277/5 "2011-11-11T22:33:42Z")
Thanks so much for the fast responses!! I think I will read up some more on IH and TUTH before ordering. But I will definitely be ordering soon! ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2011, 11:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277/6 "2011-11-11T23:05:19Z")
> [@bionicgrov](#): > > Thanks so much for the fast responses!! I think I will read up some more on IH and TUTH before ordering. But I will definitely be ordering soon! Okay, but wait until Mickaelia comes around (in the next couple days) to give you the $25 gift certificate before you order! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bionicgrov](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/edb3f5/32.png) [@bionicgrov](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bionicgrov)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2011, 9:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277/7 "2011-11-14T21:46:52Z")
> [@Sillykitty](#): > > Okay, but wait until Mickaelia comes around (in the next couple days) to give you the $25 gift certificate before you order! 🙂 Ha. Thanks for the reminder. ---
**Author:** ![1Alpha](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/1alpha/32/190_2.png) [@1Alpha](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/1Alpha)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2011, 9:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277/8 "2011-11-14T21:59:53Z")
I was also curious… you mentioned that you’re a long time lurker… how’d you get here in the first place?! Wish you well with your mones! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2011, 9:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/53277/9 "2011-11-15T21:27:42Z")
Welcome to pherotalk Bion! I am so glad you decided to introduce yourself and start getting out of your shell and I know that these pheromones will definitely start some spark in your relationship. Good luck _ **Your gc was issued! 🙂** _