# Hello! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [July 1, 2013, 1:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/59474 "2013-07-01T13:41:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Lemonade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ac8455/32.png) [@Lemonade](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lemonade)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2013, 1:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/59474/1 "2013-07-01T13:41:37Z")
Hello guys this is Chris from San Diego and I want a little boost up I will be going to College pretty soon and still have had no luck with girls it seems I lack the initial confidence to initiate conversations with girls. I have been close several times but I start too late to being open with girls I like. Any tips guys? ---
**Author:** ![ryanmercer](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ryanmercer/32/1569_2.png) [@ryanmercer](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ryanmercer)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2013, 4:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/59474/2 "2013-07-02T04:10:16Z")
[Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) and Ammunition should serve you well. I’d personally toss in some Instant Shine too just for the self-effect (but I get a good self-effect from it). I also always recommend the following three threads to newcomers. They to me are essential and must read threads. [An Introduction to pheromones; Names, Size, Strength, Use, Effects & Length of](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/an-introduction-to-mones-names-size-strength-use-effects-length-of/43003) [The Snook’s big book o’ pheros for rookies](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-snooks-big-book-o-pheros-for-rookies/5879) and [What pheromones can do and what they cant Updated](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-pheromones-can-do-and-what-they-cant-updated/9558) ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2013, 8:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/59474/3 "2013-07-02T08:34:57Z")
Using pheros for confidence/self effects is a strange thing - mainly because any effects can vary widely between individuals and also between individual pheros. Some get a great deal, others nothing at all - So I’d be wary of suggesting pheros on those grounds alone. Then there is the matter that some of the pheros most noted for confidence self effects **are not** the best ones to help you talk to people as they can come-off as aggressive/overly horny, or aloof/remote/standoffish. So it can be a self defeating effort. Then there is the matter that some self effects can be very fleeting, with you getting used to them rather too quickly. **However** other pheros do help create opportunities that you can more easily take advantage of by stepping-in and talking to/opening on people and those advised above are all good. Use them, in conjunction with other more solid and long-lasting methods to improve you confidence and you will have far better results overall - one supports the other very effectively. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lemonade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ac8455/32.png) [@Lemonade](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lemonade)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2013, 8:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/59474/4 "2013-07-02T08:49:20Z")
So for my purposes do you think I should experiment with self effect applications then? I don’t think I need something for girls to be open with me lol the girls I’m interested are confident and open to begin with, I just don’t respond with them because I almost feel intimated at times by some girls that are like that. /: Edit: Sorry Mobocaster missed your post I’ll update my response. Thanks for putting your time guys appreciate it! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2013, 6:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/59474/5 "2013-07-11T18:05:30Z")
Welcome Lemonade, This is a super informal and not so tailored response if you will. I would luuuuuuuv to spend more time assisting you especially since you are a newbie. We are short staffed and these gift certificates are done manually. It takes a great deal and I am back logged. I am hoping that when I catch up on my work, I can start answering these intro threads the way I use to In fact, I am hoping that soon, someone more experienced than me can come in so I get to do what I am great at, customer service. Thank you for giving [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) a chance. Your gc was issued!