# Hello **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [January 7, 2008, 5:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/8102 "2008-01-07T05:45:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Mr.Man](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mr.man/32/2126_2.png) [@Mr.Man](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Man)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2008, 5:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/8102/1 "2008-01-07T05:45:09Z")
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**Author:** ![Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gone_with_the_wind/32/2227_2.png) [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gone_with_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2008, 5:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/8102/2 "2008-01-07T05:47:22Z")
Welcome. Look over the product descriptions for a314, io, and ih. They may have something of interest for you. Also read over the stickies at the top of the men’s forum. ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2008, 5:51am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/8102/3 "2008-01-07T05:51:59Z")
Hi Mr Man, welcome to the forum. You have found a great source for information on pheromones and an awesome group of people ready and willing to help you along. For the Shyness, I would probably recommend [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), which can act as an ice breasker and make it easier to get conversations started. It will also have that self effect on yourself as well. Another great product would be A314. It give off an alpha male in control vibe, and I think could help you with your self confidence as well. Picture a James Bond type. However, you will also need to be able to pull off that image for it to really work well. It sounds to me like you just need a shove and between those 2 products I think they could help you get on track. Another great phero choice would be Instant Shine, which will give you and those around you a happy, feel-good effect. Just remember that pheromones cannpot overcome our personal miscomings. They are not magic bullets, but more like octane boosters are to gasoline. Again, wewlcome to the forum. If you have any questions, just ask. ---
**Author:** ![jpballerina](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jpballerina/32/1004_2.png) [@jpballerina](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jpballerina)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2008, 6:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/8102/4 "2008-01-07T06:14:56Z")
I totally agree with Mark. There are some great products here to help you feel more confident and to appear more attractive to the opposite sex (he gave some good suggestions as well). But I thought I’d just add this: This is my age old analogy, but pheros really aren’t anything more than a make-over. It does make you more attractive, it does make you more appealing, but we women are pretty complex, and that is not enough for us to go throw ourselves at some random guy. As sexy and attractive as a guy may be (which he does, with a little ammo or a314 to back him up), if he sits in a corner all night nursing a beer and giving off a nervous, desperate vibe, we will steer clear, no matter how sexy he seems. So pheros are not a magic solution. They are a great springboard (especially something like [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), which gets people talking!), but it does take coming out of your shell and believing that if you’re rejected, there must be something wrong with that girl. 😉 There are some fabulous things out there to help you out, but despite what Pherlure may advertise, NO phero out there is going to have random women coming up to you and begging for sex. You have to help us out, because we’re pretty complex. But once we get a smile from you and start to smell those pheros . . . well, who knows what may happen! 😃 Welcome to the forum! ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Man](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mr.man/32/2126_2.png) [@Mr.Man](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Man)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2008, 2:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/8102/5 "2008-01-08T02:46:33Z")
Thanx for all the helpful replies…they are greatly appreciated. ---
**Author:** ![Mohammad\_Shah](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mohammad_shah/32/873_2.png) [@Mohammad\_Shah](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mohammad_Shah)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2008, 4:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/8102/6 "2008-01-08T04:00:09Z")
> [@jpballerina](#): > > NO phero out there is going to have random women coming up to you and begging for sex. …but just imagine how nice this world will be if Androtics invent this kind of pheros!😛 😃 😃 😃 Btw, Mr.Man, welcome to the forum!🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2008, 4:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/8102/7 "2008-01-08T04:32:03Z")
Welcome Mr.Man. You have gotten a lot of good advice here. Being a younger guy [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) may be a good choice for you also in the social realm. Be sure to read the Stickies. They have a lot of good info. Just remember the old golden mantra of testing: Pick one product. 1 spray, watch for results, repeat for a few days then go up to 2 sprays. Repeat. Also remember: MarkL and jpballerina are right - chances are if you do nothing, nothing will happen, even with pheromones. You have to interact with the people around you in order to see the changes in their interactions with you. Pheros can give you an edge, but you have to DO something to take advantage of that edge. And you an certainly find a lot of advice here on that too: good grooming; friendly, direct contact; funny, intielligent conversation on anything from currnet topics to something appropriate to the situation. Another rule of thumb: a lot of people who know you best MAY be the least effected as they already have a very concrete perception of who you are, your relationshionship, etc.. Then again, they may give you the old “What is different about you?” Just be ready for the first in case it happens. In some extreme cases, Moms have been known to get grumpy as their child has somehow changed. But to answer your question: Yes they are real and yes they work. But not like some kind of Harry Potter magical potion. It is real science with real effects, but you have to figure out the effects as they relate to you and then you need to take action to take advantage of those effects ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2008, 3:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello/8102/8 "2008-01-09T03:25:55Z")
Well I wanted to first welcome you to the forum. Now that’s out of the way I will have to say A314 is a great way to boast confidence but also can KILL your confidence if you are not careful. You see it’s like this: A314 will give that Alpha, I’m Bond, James Bond vibe all the way through and through. It causes those around you to think that you are better than them, higher value. With that said I highly recommend only one drop under the nose so that you get the advantages and yet are still approachable. I say this because if you are the man then you also need to do all the talking. Doesn’t sound like you are there yet. So maybe 1 drop to get the results of confidence, but tempered with some CTTM or IO. It will keep everybody talking around you and at the same time your high value status. You also might try some IFM. This will help the women be comfortable around you. BUT, in the same sense, start off easy and keep up the work with the other work you are doing. I will be issuing you the gift certificate tonight.