# Helloooooo **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [July 1, 2009, 5:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308 "2009-07-01T17:08:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![chibibambi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@chibibambi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/chibibambi)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2009, 5:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/1 "2009-07-01T17:08:33Z")
Hi All , I am so glad that I am finally able to post. My name is May and I am from Hong Kong. I was introduced by a friend to join this site. More about myself… I’m 26, single, and hope the pheros here will help boost my self confidence n make more new friends. I’ve heard alot about [pheromone sprays](https://a314.com/product-category/spray-pheromones/) and oils in the past and I was completely skeptical about the whole subject…I have been reading this forum for a while now… Hopefully , I can decide on what to purchase and try out 🙂😛 ---
**Author:** ![Mco-gnv](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mco-gnv/32/229_2.png) [@Mco-gnv](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mco-gnv)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2009, 5:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/2 "2009-07-01T17:23:08Z")
Hi May, welcome to the forums! Instant shine is great for confidence, and IO is great for meeting new people. Most of the [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) here are spray based, with the exception of a314. I suggest you take a look at a few of the links in my signature, including the Pheromone Guide, and What Pheromones can and can’t do. If you see any products that pop out at you, or if you have questions about any particular ones, don’t hesitate to ask, as we are here to help. Cheers, -mco; ---
**Author:** ![chibibambi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@chibibambi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/chibibambi)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2009, 5:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/3 "2009-07-01T17:33:35Z")
Hi there , Thanks for your reply. I have actually been using my roommate’s pheromono for a while. So far , I have used MX335 together with [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) or Instant Sexiness B I am hoping to find something that will help to attract more guys as I haven’t had a BF for a while ☹. (No one has shown interest as well) ---
**Author:** ![moonwhisper](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/moonwhisper/32/1735_2.png) [@moonwhisper](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/moonwhisper)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2009, 5:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/4 "2009-07-01T17:45:12Z")
Hi May and welcome to the forum. If you’ll tell us a little more about yourself and your personality, we will be able to make some solid recommendations for you and you will qualify for a $25 gift certificate to spend on pheromones. Are you shy or outgoing? Do you have any problem meeting people for the first time or approaching new people? Do you have a specific target person in mind when you wear pheros? Do you plan to wear them for socializing, or for work, romance, etc? Hope to hear back from you soon. ---
**Author:** ![chibibambi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@chibibambi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/chibibambi)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 2:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/5 "2009-07-02T14:01:09Z")
Hi there , That will be great. I really really need advices from you guys.😉 Maybe coz my family owns a big manufacturing company , men tend to ignore me as they feel intimidated . Some friends have mentioned that I look too serious too ☹😕 Socializing seems a little hard for me as I don’t really know how to start or have a good conversation with people. My guy friends always sees me as their “brother” rather than someone that they can date while my female friends always feels that I am too masculine and thus I don’t have a lot of female friends too. I really hope to make more friends and be able to connect to people around me. (Pls pardon my bad english as english is not my first language 😉) ---
**Author:** ![moonwhisper](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/moonwhisper/32/1735_2.png) [@moonwhisper](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/moonwhisper)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 2:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/6 "2009-07-02T14:18:23Z")
Oh, I sympathize. I have struggled with that same problem for my entire life. I am the baby in my family and had five older brothers and no sisters. So I spent most of my childhood being ‘one of the guys’, working and playing right alongside them doing whatever they did. It carried over, and I have a hard time building good friendships with women. They all seem so shallow and catty, at least too much of the time to suit me. My solution was simply this: I can’t change me, or won’t change me to please others. I had to learn to get over it. I know that sounds harsh, but it was the only way I could make peace with it. I am still very much a tomboy, but I have learned that it is just as easy for me to be sexy and alluring as the next girl. I just won’t ever be able to put out a ‘please protect me and take care of me’ vibe. That’s ok with me. I have an awesome husband now who loves my independence and strength. Maybe the trick was just waiting until I found that right guy. My best friend is a man, and even though I have girl friends, none of us are that close. In the beginning this bred some jealousy for the husband, but that’s not always a bad thing. 😉 He gets very amorous when he’s jealous… marking his territory maybe. > [@](#): > > men tend to ignore me as they feel intimidated . Some friends have mentioned that I look too serious too ☹😕 > [@](#): > > My guy friends always sees me as their “brother” rather than someone that they can date This may have more to do with appearance than with personality. I don’t know anything about you so I may be way off base here, and if so please forgive me. But taking care to appear feminine will change their perspective. I am not recommending major changes, because you deserve to be loved for exactly who you are. But maybe trade in the chapstick for a lipgloss, practice your smile in front of a mirror until you can make is alluring, work on eye contact and learn how to use your eyes to catch their attention. There is loads of information online about body language and how powerful it is. Absolutely do NOT apologize for being a strong, capable woman who is not easily intimidated. That is not a fault! Okay, I’m getting down off my soapbox now… 😃 As to recommendations: Instant Sexiness is the one to give you a confident feeling and a sexy aura. There are two varieties. I/Sa will give you a confident, dominant, authoritative sexiness that brooks no resistance. It is the one I wear because it is more congruent with my personality. I/Sb will soften your image and make you seem more girly, softer, playfully sexy. You will probably have to try both to decide which one works better for you. Instant Shine will add some sparkle to your personality, make you seem youthful and fun, makes people feel good. [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) for helping keep the conversations flowing, Instant Honesty to delve into deeper, more intimate conversation. I can’t wait to hear what you choose! Please come back and tell us. And don’t worry about your English at all, it is very good. Easy to understand, even your spelling is good. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![chibibambi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@chibibambi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/chibibambi)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 2:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/7 "2009-07-02T14:33:22Z")
Thank you so much for your comments and will definately look into my body languages and my appearance. I am thinking about getting MX135 as I have tried using this once (my room mate’s) and people seems more friendly to me when I have this on. Do you think that I should get IS/A or B? I think I am very much an A girl but I am afraid that it will only make me much more intimidating. ---
**Author:** ![fantisto](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/fantisto/32/2102_2.png) [@fantisto](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/fantisto)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 2:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/8 "2009-07-02T14:35:34Z")
Nope, that’s alrite, your English is great. You mentioned you useed to use Intant Sexiness B and IShine together with MX335? Have you try to find sweet spot of each product by itself? IShine and [Instant Sexiness B](https://phera.com/product/kitten/) should be great products for you! As IShine boost your confidence and make people feel good, Instant Sexiness B project a soft smooth sexy female vibe, great for soften you personality (as you mentioned your too masculine) For improving yourself being in social settings, I would recomment instant openess, it make people more comfort and chatty, so do u, this is what people here use to break the ice. Not just phero could help, you too have to help yourself. If you think that you are too masculine, I would also suggest you try to soften your personality, walk, your voice tone and everything that make other think you are musculine. Maybe practicing sometimes infront of the mirror? Sorry if I am too straight to your personal things, but just curious to say what it may help. Actually I myseft will find it is hard to fall in love in a girl with high masculinity eventhough she may looks like a Perfect10. sorry again if this might affect you. Have fun! ---
**Author:** ![chibibambi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@chibibambi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/chibibambi)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 2:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/9 "2009-07-02T14:48:25Z")
Hi fantisto, Thanks for the recommendation . I think I will try out instant shine and I/S B. Hopefully these 2 products can help me. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![moonwhisper](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/moonwhisper/32/1735_2.png) [@moonwhisper](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/moonwhisper)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 2:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/10 "2009-07-02T14:54:13Z")
As I was reading Fantisto’s post, I started thinking about the walk. There’s definitely something to that. If a person just trods along it’s not attractive or even interesting to watch. But there is a certain feminine sway while walking that turns heads no matter what else is going on. Just don’t overdo it. Then you’ll just look silly. It all takes practice. And more practice. Go somewhere where nobody knows you and try new things. Don’t worry about getting it perfect the first time, just watch people’s reactions to you and then try something else. See what happens. It is worth the time invested and if you’re not in your regular environment you won’t feel like you’re making a fool of yourself. Sometimes softening our image is as simple as changing the cut of our clothes to something that clings a little more to our silhouette. Or changing the way we wear our hair. I do believe that most of it is in the bodylanguage. ---
**Author:** ![chibibambi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@chibibambi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/chibibambi)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 3:03pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/11 "2009-07-02T15:03:38Z")
Hi both , Haha.. in fact , I just bought a book on body language as I know that this is something I have to work on. Hopefully with some hardwork and together with [Pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/) , I will be able to improve my relationships with people 🙄 Once again , thank you for the comments 😃 ---
**Author:** ![fantisto](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/fantisto/32/2102_2.png) [@fantisto](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/fantisto)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 3:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/12 "2009-07-02T15:26:34Z")
Yeah, keep practicing. My guy idea on a girl: - Clothing is important, choose clothes that make you look like a cute (sexy?) girl (or maybe model 😃), not to look like a guy. - Posture (walk, stand, sit) and body languages (I used to have a girly/gay hand body language when I was teenager, even my gf and most of my female friends teased me on this) - Hair can help one with there look (sometime hair can make a man look like a gal/gay, or a gal look like a man hahaha) - Guys love gal who always have a cute smile on. (I remember that I and many guys in high school were crazy falling in love with an average girl who always smiled all the time - hmmm good memory hahahaha) ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 10:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helloooooo/30308/13 "2009-07-02T22:42:28Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk Chichibambi! Since you were introduced to this site by a friend I hope you pass on the knowledge and goodness by introducing another friend of yours. 😛 You have been well taken cared off by my pheromones sweetheart so I went ahead and just issued your gift certificate. Have fun testing and researching all the information we have on here. Your GC has already been issued!