# Helo **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [January 5, 2007, 12:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helo/1422 "2007-01-05T00:03:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![fabien](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/fabien/32/1405_2.png) [@fabien](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/fabien)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2007, 12:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helo/1422/1 "2007-01-05T00:03:51Z")
Hi my name is Fabien I’m originally from France. I live in Israel and for many years now I ‘m thinking of spicing up my mates life and finally I’m taking a chance and try a different angle so I’m open for ideas so please do share (but only educated suggestions) Thank you all Fab ---
**Author:** ![Carrie](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/carrie/32/1537_2.png) [@Carrie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Carrie)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2007, 12:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helo/1422/2 "2007-01-05T00:28:01Z")
Welcome Fabien! Are you talking about spicing things up in your romantic partnership? Turn Up the Heat is the probably the best suggestion in that department. You may want to try some other things, too, for increased intimacy and communication, like Instant Honesty and [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/). ---
**Author:** ![fabien](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/fabien/32/1405_2.png) [@fabien](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/fabien)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2007, 1:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helo/1422/3 "2007-01-05T13:06:14Z")
Thank u Carrie 4 your suggestion but increased intimacy and communications is not 4 me It would feel like cheating. I this area I prefer gain it on my on but it the bad room my experience showed me that (generally speaking) male libido is higher then the female, so I’m just trying to even things. So if u have some idea in that mater please share Thanks Fab 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2007, 12:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helo/1422/4 "2007-01-06T00:15:03Z")
> [@fabien](#): > > Thank u Carrie 4 your suggestion but increased intimacy and communications is not 4 me It would feel like cheating. I this area I prefer gain it on my on but it the bad room my experience showed me that (generally speaking) male libido is higher then the female, so I’m just trying to even things. > So if u have some idea in that mater please share > Thanks > Fab 🙂 I think you may have misunderstood Carrie… you said something about spicing up your mates life? are we to understand you are wanting to “even things” by having her libido turned up? when you said it would feel like cheating to have something encourage communication and a more intimate relationship, are you thinking [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) cause you to feel or do something you would not ordinarily do? I might be misunderstanding, but I am going to clear something up 🙂 Pheromones wont cause love where love is not already present. Pheromones wont make someone do something they do not already want to do. Where pheromones are helpful is the same as lighting the candles and putting on some heavenly cologne…they create a mood and support an atmosphere going in that direction already…not forcing. Your body is making and releasing pheromones as we speak- is that cheating? If i have misunderstood, let us know in more detail what you hope pheromones can do for you, and in the meantime Carrie’s advice would “even” the playing field for you both if that is what you are desiring. Let us know,maybe we can be more helpful. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![fabien](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/fabien/32/1405_2.png) [@fabien](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/fabien)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2007, 9:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/helo/1422/5 "2007-01-06T21:49:31Z")
Hi Lor, First of all I want to apologize for my English and use this opportunity to thank you all for taking the time to share with me your insight. Now Lor, what I meant was that I like the challenge of increasing intimacy and communication on my own, without external aid (mood lighting, music, incense, etc.). If I had difficulty with my girlfriend in the fields of intimacy and communication, I wouldn’t choose to be with her, but that’s just who I am and I’m not trying to put down those who operate otherwise. I also have some knowledge about the way pheromones work and their influence. I’m not looking to depend permanently on external aid; I’m just trying to get somewhere. To get to the point, my girlfriend thinks something is wrong with her because she is not sexual, but she wants to be. She grew up in a conservative environment and did not experiment with her own sexuality or body, so I am trying to help her develop this side of her and her libido. It’s not even that she’s not sexual; it’s more that she has inhibitions. Parallel to my efforts to help her in this area with the aid of pheromones, we are tackling the challenge psychologically and physically. I hope I was more clear this time. Thanks. Fab PS: Carrie, I know that Rilke excerpt – it’s a favorite of mine 🙂