# Help for a divorced 40 year old guy. **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [July 28, 2013, 12:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/help-for-a-divorced-40-year-old-guy/59665 "2013-07-28T12:06:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![supo25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c68b51/32.png) [@supo25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/supo25)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2013, 12:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/help-for-a-divorced-40-year-old-guy/59665/1 "2013-07-28T12:06:18Z")
I am recently divorced and not in a hurry to jump right back in. Its been a long time since I dated and I was doing some reading. I came across an article about [pheromones](https://a314.com/) and it made me curious. Not having found this site immediately, I orders the first product I found that seemed somewhat legit. It is called Primal Instinct. I have read a few posts on here that have me concerned. I don’t want to smell liked I pissed my pants, and if I get too much on me, rejection will not be good for me right now. I’m indecent shape, good looking, not intimidated to start up a conversation. But, I am not 25 and I’m not running 10 miles a day anymore either. My interest in this is as a confidence booster. please don’t interpret this as being arrogant, but in my 20’s I couldn’t make it through a day without `getting a hit.` Now, I have to work hard to get a smile. Will this Primal Instinct push people away if I use too much? If I get out, and feel like people smell something bad, can I wash it off? What is the best product for simple passive daily use that won’t make me come off as an alpha male to guys, but still illicit a smile from a beautiful woman? Can I cut primal instinct with mineral oil and slowly add more? I work in law enforcement, and if this stuff has a tendency to exaserbate tension, it could cause more problems than its worth. (I don’t need to give a meth and testosterone filled teenager anymore reason to be upset with me. Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions would be appreciated. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Dragon](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/miss_dragon/32/866_2.png) [@Miss\_Dragon](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Miss_Dragon)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2013, 2:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/help-for-a-divorced-40-year-old-guy/59665/2 "2013-07-28T14:44:39Z")
Hello, Supo! Just from what you say about yourself, you sound pretty hot! So don’t worry, I’m certain you’ll do fine! But we can certainly guide you. Since Primal Instinct isn’t an Androtics Direct product, we won’t really be able to speak on it very much. It won’t be something that we’ve focused our testing on, and we won’t know much about the ingredients. But we can certainly match you with some Androtics Direct products to suit your needs, no problem. Initially, it sounds like you would do well with [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/). It isn’t a strong status enhancer, so you shouldn’t run into alpha issues with other men. But it will make women see you as a pleasant, confident, trustworthy gentleman. Ladies love that! If you are hoping to go a little stronger on the attraction end of things, you could try Ammo. It’s specifically an attraction product, and you could either use it alone or layer it with IG. As far as smell and clothing and all, one of the first guidelines of phero product usage is that you want to avoid spraying it on clothing. You should spray it on exposed skin. Not all pheros build up, but some of the male ones do, and it’s far easier to wash them off of your skin than out of your clothes. But if you do get them on your clothes (like if it’s cold and you have no exposed skin), washing with oxy-clean should take care of that for you. As far as using too much, just start slow. Start with one spray, record your experiences in a journal on this forum, and gradually increase the dosages. That way, you will slowly learn at what point you hit “too much”. And by then, you will know how to use the product well. Don’t worry, people only really see those dramatic negative effects when they go way overboard. If you’re less concerned with seeing sexual interest and would instead like to see more social effects, I’d suggest trying some of the socials. IO and IS should do the trick for you. IO makes people more inclined to be chatty and sociable with you, and IS makes everyone’s mood more pleasant. Both of these pair well with IG. I’m looking forward to hearing what you go with! And please keep us updated on your experiences! ---
**Author:** ![supo25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c68b51/32.png) [@supo25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/supo25)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2013, 3:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/help-for-a-divorced-40-year-old-guy/59665/3 "2013-07-28T15:08:39Z")
Thanks for the comments and the compliment. I’m willing to give this stuff a try, and [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) sounds more like my pace right now. Maybe I’ll buy a bottle of that. My main concern was smelling like a locker room and making any tension at work worse. Can you honestly say that these products have an unquestionable effect on your daily interactions with people? So my Irish Spring soap, a nice smile, a funny joke, a new pair of shoes, and a squirt of Instant Gentleman is my post divorce game plan. I’ll give it a go. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Dragon](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/miss_dragon/32/866_2.png) [@Miss\_Dragon](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Miss_Dragon)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2013, 3:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/help-for-a-divorced-40-year-old-guy/59665/4 "2013-07-28T15:27:29Z")
I like that you use Irish Spring! I love the smell of that on a man! And I also love a classy pair of shoes on a man. Good game plan! Paired with a joke and a smile, you are bound to be a lady-killer! AD products always come in a carrier scent (unless you specially order otherwise), so locker room smell shouldn’t be something you encounter. And yes, these products unquestionably affect my interactions with people. In my signature at the bottom, you can read my journal where I discuss some of my experiences. As an interesting anecdote, I had a bottle of [Instant Sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) sitting on the table next to me the other day while I was trying to write a paper for grad school. That particular bottle had been a little leaky. I could NOT focus my mind at all, and my own engine started getting really revved! I got so frustrated, because I could not get the paper done at all that night! When I realized the bottle was the culprit, I put it away and was eventually able to focus and get the paper done. But any time that bottle is sitting out near me, I start to go into “one track mind” mode again, lol! ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2013, 1:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/help-for-a-divorced-40-year-old-guy/59665/5 "2013-08-01T13:51:24Z")
Welcome Supo, This is a super informal and not so tailored response if you will. I would luuuuuuuv to spend more time assisting you especially since you are a newbie. We are short staffed and these gift certificates are done manually. It takes a great deal and I am back logged. I am hoping that when I catch up on my work, I can start answering these intro threads the way I use to In fact, I am hoping that soon, someone more experienced than me can come in so I get to do what I am great at, customer service. Thank you for giving pheromones a chance. Your gc was issued!