Welcome Holy!
You’re right instant openness and instant honesty would assist you. I would also like you to consider Ammo, and excellent attractant.
If you’re looking for the alpha edge over the jocks, I suggest you read into A314 - gives off a strong manly, trustworthy vibe. Be sure to hit the gyms as well and I’d recommend you study some pickup artists, there are many out there, from experience I can recommend Venusian Arts and David DeAngelo.
If you have not already, be sure to read The Mans Guideand come back and tell us about your results 