# Hey Hey! Expanding My Social Network... **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [October 7, 2009, 10:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-hey-expanding-my-social-network/33067 "2009-10-07T10:14:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![cptnspnky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/6de8d8/32.png) [@cptnspnky](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/cptnspnky)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 10:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-hey-expanding-my-social-network/33067/1 "2009-10-07T10:14:59Z")
Hey, everybody I’m in Oregon, I’m 20, and I’ve been wondering if [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) like the ones advertised on this site actually exist, and, more importantly, whether or not they actually work. I’ve been reading thread after thread about the various phero products and I’ve decided that I’d like to try this out for myself. As much as I don’t really want to admit it, I am a bit shy. I sometimes have a hard time approaching the opposite sex and getting the balls to ask them out. Fear of rejection developed from when I was in high school? Probably. But it has gotten better in the last few years. In terms of what I want to get out of using pheromones, I’d really like to see if a FEMALE would approach ME rather than the other way around for once. It’d be nice to not have to put so much focus on thinking about what I want to say next, but maybe just being able to relax a little bit and have some fun with it. If they work, I could really see this turning into a fun hobby that I can expand my social network with. Thanks ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 10:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-hey-expanding-my-social-network/33067/2 "2009-10-07T10:25:22Z")
HI there, Welcome to the forum. Remember pheromones can only help, largely still depend on you. Girls will not jump on you. For your shyness, I would recommend Shine and IO. Shine will counter your shyness and boost your confident. It will also uplift your mood. IO will open up the girls and make them want to talk to you. YOu will be more approachable. Good luck ---
**Author:** ![LeafStamp](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/leafstamp/32/376_2.png) [@LeafStamp](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LeafStamp)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 10:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-hey-expanding-my-social-network/33067/3 "2009-10-07T10:35:58Z")
Hey cptnspnky 🙂 Pheromones are a great way too boost self-confidence of yourself, and to act as social lubricant. However, a lot of the work also comes down to you. A common saying here is that pheromones only do 10-20% of the work, and that you have to put in the extra 80-90%. That being said, there are some great social products here that might help you. I’d suggest something with alphanol in it (which makes people chatty and more willing to talk). So that would be IO or SpaceLand. If you have this on - people will be more willing to talk for longer (ODs of this have reported people being unable to shut up). In the opposite camp to alphanol is betanol - which can be found in IH. This will make people have a deeper connection with you. As in a “you can tell me anything”. The Freudian slips you get from this are very good 😉 If you can’t fork out for a seperate IO and IH, then go for CTTM2. This is a test mix though, and not covered by the same guarantee. IO is 70:30 alphanol:betanol IH is 30:70 alphanol:betanol CTTM2 is 50:50 alphanol:betanol So you can see what each of the products tend to do. Whatever you do decide to get, you’ll still need to put in some work to overcome approach anxiety and fear of rejection. So, stick your head out there, and say hi to someone, ask them how their day was, or give them a compliment - and ask questions! That’s a great way of getting someone else to do all the work in a conversation 😃 I do stand-up comedy (to be fair I haven’t done it in almost a year, but I’ll get back in it when I have the chance). It was amazing and such a high when everything worked. But on the other hand, it can be brutal up there - you can stand there and deliver 10 minutes of material to absolute silence when no one is digging you. A room full of silent people is the worst sort of silence, especially when you’re on a stage with a light on you and everyone’s staring! The thought that got me through it was that there were between 4-9 other comedians on at any one night. The audience members walking away will have totally forgotten who I was by the time they get home, and only remember the funny ones. You never hear someone walking out after a showcase saying “that show was great except for that one guy who sucked balls”. It’s a “man, remember that guy that said the _insert joke_. He was hilarious!”. Rejection is feared by the person receiving it - but the person giving it away hardly thinks twice and will usually forget that they even rejected you in the first place 😉 ---
**Author:** ![LeafStamp](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/leafstamp/32/376_2.png) [@LeafStamp](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LeafStamp)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 10:39am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-hey-expanding-my-social-network/33067/4 "2009-10-07T10:39:12Z")
Almost forgot my usual plug of IG. IG is an AMAZING product. It’ll make you feel on top of your game, and make others more open to you. My personal favourite mix is IG and ISHINE. Which make me feel happy, and on top of the world - and makes others feel good and happy about seeing me. IG boosts confidence and gives you swagger. Makes you seem like you have it together. ISHINE boosts confidence and makes you and others chirpy. I don’t tend to have a problem with getting people to talk - so I usually skip the IO. But for you, I’m thinking IG + ISHINE + IO or CTTM2 might be a great mix. Hope that helps! ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2009, 8:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-hey-expanding-my-social-network/33067/5 "2009-10-07T20:10:36Z")
Hello and welcome to PheroTalk. I am so happy you were able to discover this most amazing community. We consider each other like family here and are totally committed to helping each other out. There are so many great people here and now another too 🙂. Currently we are in the process of seeking out an additional forum Host or two to help with the upkeep of the forum. With that in mind I will be issuing your GC in just a short while to your email. I would love to be able to personally respond to every new user signing on, but because I want to ensure you get the GC in time I can only reply with this message at this time. I’m sure you are anxious to get started, just like the rest of us were too 🙂. Its cool! Of course I am available to answer any question you might have regarding mones selection by calling me personally on the hotline. Please select extension one and I will be able to consult you one on one. Welcome to the forum. ---
**Author:** ![hohohate](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/hohohate/32/2429_2.png) [@hohohate](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/hohohate)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 5:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-hey-expanding-my-social-network/33067/6 "2009-10-08T05:38:34Z")
I agree with bond on this one. CTTM 2 is a good one as well. Happy Huntings Friend. ---
**Author:** ![Tester5000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e99b99/32.png) [@Tester5000](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Tester5000)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 1:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-hey-expanding-my-social-network/33067/7 "2009-10-08T13:19:52Z")
there is huge social pressure on girls to NOT make the first move. Go and buy yourself a couple of books for girls on how to pick up guys / relationships and you’ll see. be a man - make the move!