# Hey Y'all. New Asian guy with issue here. **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [June 23, 2010, 5:33am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-yall-new-asian-guy-with-issue-here/39511 "2010-06-23T05:33:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![DominicEcho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/439d5e/32.png) [@DominicEcho](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/DominicEcho)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2010, 5:33am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-yall-new-asian-guy-with-issue-here/39511/1 "2010-06-23T05:33:56Z")
Hello everyone, I’m an Asian guy with the age of 19 going on 20 soon. First of all, I’d like to apologize in advance if my grammar is a bit funny since English is not my first language (or second language for that matter), so bear with me here. 🙂 I’m hopeful to learn more about [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) as it might improve my life greatly (more on that later). To tell the truth, I’ve been roaming around the forum for quite a while now and it is certainly a warm community with a lot of bright and brilliant people. Therefore, I’m quite comfortable sharing my secret with y’all that I’ve never **EVER** told anybody in my entire life before. Hopefully this wouldn’t offend anyone, to put it simply, I’ve just found out recently that I’m gay. It’s hard for me knowing this truth about myself and lately, it’s been draining my confidence and social skills. You might think I’m overreacting so I should tell you a bit about my life here. As a child, around grade 3, I’ve always known I’m different, you know, with my female-like behavior and stuffs. I get mocked and laughed at by all my friends all the time. So, my childhood was pretty bad, feeling as an inferior, lesser and insignificant. My father scold me all the time, told me that a man shouldn’t act queerly and tried to teach me to be more manly and so I did. My high-school life was an improvement, I was the typical jock of the school and fit in with everyone else just fine. I joined the basketball team and make great friends with my team member. I also joined modeling company, doing few shots for commercial poster and magazine. Moreover, I had a girlfriend who I’ve been courting for a long time and we would go on a date and make out. Yes, life was great. I was the person who everyone turns to and can respect. I don’t feel like a minority anymore but deep down, I knew something was not right and so did my girlfriend. During prom night, I didn’t show enough “affection” for her and not so long later we broke up and she immediately went after one of my friends which make me hurt badly. Not going into too much detail, I later realized I’m gay. Lately, I can only imagine myself with other men and I only have erection with them so yeah, I’m pretty sure I’m gay, the thing I’ve been avoiding all my life. (On top of that, I just couldn’t help but falling for westerners especially Europeans.) My father and I have drinking night once in a while and when he’s drunk he would always tell how much he hates gays which is putting a lot of stress and pressure on me. Not only that, my mother frequently talks about how man is suppose to be with woman whenever she sees gays around the town. So telling my parents is out of the question. Not having anyone I can turn to, the feeling I used to have as a child start coming back, feeling like an inferior. I start losing confidence about myself when I’m outside. I noticed myself very, very socially awkward whenever I’m with friends at clubs/bar or elsewhere. To conclude, I’m here because I would like to improve my social life and along the way, find a person I could really love. I’m pathetic, I know that, but I hope you can imagine the pain I’m going through. I was hoping pheromones could make me feel that feeling again, being the center of attention and one who people can respect. I was hoping to find a guy that I can relate to also. It is hard enough to find a soulmate being straight, it is 10x harder being gay (so I’m hoping here that pheromones can help me in this part). To clarify a little, I’m perfectly normal as a male, no girly stuffs, I just happen to like guys (and it still feels a little weird, like it’s something wrong). Normally, I wouldn’t post my problems on the internet. Heck, I rarely touch my computer but this is an exception. Now that’s out of my chest, sorry for the very long intro. Anticipating to make friends here and thank you for your time reading this stupid life of mine. PS. My Asian name is hard to spell so just call me Dominic or Dom. Thanks Steve and Mickaelia for adding me as a friend. ---
**Author:** ![hillke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7bcc69/32.png) [@hillke](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/hillke)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2010, 5:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-yall-new-asian-guy-with-issue-here/39511/2 "2010-06-23T05:43:33Z")
Dom, I can only imagine what you’re going through. It takes a lot to be as open as this, even if it’s only the internet… Welcome to the forum. 🙂 Pheromones can have a wide and large effect on people and then not so much on others, but the general trend is the same. Center of attention and respect are the core building blocks of A314, which happens to be out of stock. There is, however, a test spray version, check the store for MX347 in the search box. That has the same stuff, but in a spray medium instead of oil. It should work the same, and it will allow you to see if it really has an effect without having to buy the $60 original. Other than that, I always recommend the instant series. ISHINE is a great mood and confidence booster for yourself and those around you. IO and IH really help people to let their guard down and have flowing open conversations. Those are always great for any situation. Those would be a good jumping off point for you to get started. Also, with your introduction, you should already qualify for a $25 gift card. You’ll likely get it tomorrow. Again, welcome to the forum! I hope you find what you’re looking for! If you still have questions tomorrow, you should give Steve a call at the shop, he really knows his stuff and loves to help people out. ---
**Author:** ![DominicEcho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/439d5e/32.png) [@DominicEcho](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/DominicEcho)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2010, 6:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-yall-new-asian-guy-with-issue-here/39511/3 "2010-06-23T06:02:37Z")
Hey, thanks so much hillke for the warm welcome and the understanding 🙂. Yeah, I was aiming for A314 too (which is out of stock) but if it’s MX347 you’re recommending as an alternate, I would give it a try. Instant series sound great!! but it seems IS is out of stock now so I better wait for it so I can just order everything once. Thanks again hillke 😉 ---
**Author:** ![TheMedLife](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/themedlife/32/443_2.png) [@TheMedLife](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TheMedLife)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2010, 7:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-yall-new-asian-guy-with-issue-here/39511/4 "2010-06-23T07:01:01Z")
Hey Dom, welcome to the boards. Asian parents are usually tough, especially with these type of issues. One way or the other, they’ll accept it sooner or later (most likely later). [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/), from what I’ve read, can make you feel cheered up. Ammo + IShine + IO seems like a great combo which I will soon be using myself. Anyways, make new friends who can understand where you’re coming from and those who doesnt understand or accept you for who you are arent friends then… GL ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2010, 7:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-yall-new-asian-guy-with-issue-here/39511/5 "2010-06-23T07:03:48Z")
> [@hillke](#): > > Dom, I can only imagine what you’re going through. It takes a lot to be as open as this, even if it’s only the internet… Welcome to the forum. 🙂 > > Pheromones can have a wide and large effect on people and then not so much on others, but the general trend is the same. Center of attention and respect are the core building blocks of A314, which happens to be out of stock. There is, however, a test spray version, check the store for MX347 in the search box. That has the same stuff, but in a spray medium instead of oil. It should work the same, and it will allow you to see if it really has an effect without having to buy the $60 original. > > Other than that, I always recommend the instant series. ISHINE is a great mood and confidence booster for yourself and those around you. IO and IH really help people to let their guard down and have flowing open conversations. Those are always great for any situation. > > Those would be a good jumping off point for you to get started. > > Also, with your introduction, you should already qualify for a $25 gift card. You’ll likely get it tomorrow. > > Again, welcome to the forum! I hope you find what you’re looking for! If you still have questions tomorrow, you should give Steve a call at the shop, he really knows his stuff and loves to help people out. Just as a friendly reminder. MX347 has a faster diffuse rate and it takes some playing around to get used to. Moreover, You can find AMMO in the store by typing on the search box on the upper left hand corner of the [https://a314.com/](https://a314.com/) website. I would try and get that as your social interaction starting point. These aren’t individual molecules and they have steering agents in them that give you the best results out there. I highly recommend that you do that because esp with the spray versions, you won’t be tempted to spray away like a madman like how many of us have done with the full sized bottles. That being said, once you get the MX347 and AMMO you can check to see their reactions for them. You can check out my journal and I have detailed reports on the differences noticed between MX347 and A314. Good luck and enjoy testing. ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2010, 7:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-yall-new-asian-guy-with-issue-here/39511/6 "2010-06-23T07:05:50Z")
Dom, You can try the Women’s forum and browse, or even ask what works well for them around men. There is mystery boy geared towards you but I believe that is out of stock. The women here can offer you a myriad of options based on the pheromones they wear and reaction that they receive. Good luck ---
**Author:** ![DominicEcho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/439d5e/32.png) [@DominicEcho](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/DominicEcho)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2010, 8:07am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-yall-new-asian-guy-with-issue-here/39511/7 "2010-06-23T08:07:53Z")
MedLife, yes they can be pretty tough hahahah. Anyway, AMMO also seems like a great product, I’m going to try it out too. PS. it’s just too hard for me to tell anyone, also my friends the truth, so now I’m just going to keep it a secret (which is not healthy I know). I’ll see what I can do. Thanks for your advice 🙂. Mustang, thank you so much for your information. Gonna check your journal out. Also, you got me thinking, would [pheromones for women](https://phera.com/) work fully on a man like me. In terms of attracting other men, I mean… hence, using Instant Sexiness. I should do more research here. Well, thanks again everyone. I think I’m progressing toward the right direction here. ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2010, 8:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hey-yall-new-asian-guy-with-issue-here/39511/8 "2010-06-23T20:20:57Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk Echo! Now, from living in a West Indian culture I understand the fact that you feel so out of place and so down about this is not the fact that you are gay but that your culture and everyone around you especially your parents frown upon it. We have quite a few persons on this forum who are either gay or bisexual and so you can say this is not a shock to us and we welcome you warmly to this forum. Not as a gay dude but because you are you and we should love each other no matter what differences the person has. _HUGS_ To be honest , because of my faith I am not sure what stands I take on gay people but I have a friend who is gay and I do not hate anyone. Pheromone usage and the journey into pheromones is all about progress, when you become more aware of your surroundings, you become more aware of the persons around you and yourself. Just to add to what my team said, mystery boy is a great product and is mostly used by the gay community here soooooooo we now have some 5ml bottles in stock I suggest you grab one or two. Welcome again and I do hope you learn and grow from joining this forum. YOUR GC IS ON IT’S WAY!