# Hi Everyone **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [March 17, 2009, 3:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147 "2009-03-17T15:39:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![sexlessinva](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f05b48/32.png) [@sexlessinva](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sexlessinva)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 3:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147/1 "2009-03-17T15:39:46Z")
So glad to have found this forum! My reason for learning about Phermones came as a necessity as my wife of over 10 years informed me that she was no longer attracted to me and had fallen out of love with me. No relations in 6 months was killing me and she wants out of our marriage. I tried the Phermone advantage and was hoping to find a forum for it but found this instead and I think I want to switch to Androntics as soon as my supply runs out of the other stuff. I really think this community is very helpful. Long story short, I did as the instructions said and was very patient for about a week. I noticed that the product was slowly working at calming her down enough to really talk about things. Even though she has not changed her mind I was actually able to talk my way into a “one last time” in bed which really surprised me. I can’t tell if it was pitty or the Phermones or a little of both. Since then she was been really nice to me but not changing her mind. I am not sure I can change her mind from an emotional stand point. As far as i can tell we are still headed for divorce but on the brite side she has not gone to an attorney nor does she really want to talk about it. Its very confusing. She has wanted this for 3 years and maybe dragging feet since we have 3 kids. We are kinda living like room mates in a way. I shall continue my experiments as I feel I have nothing to lose. Also Steve O’s posts on David DeAngelo are excellent and I have purchased his stuff, the best I have read. Who knows maybe a miracle will happen before we get to the paperwork! ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 3:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147/2 "2009-03-17T15:43:03Z")
Hi there, Welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear about the divorce. What [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) have you tried? I suggest you try IH and AMMO. Ih will enhance the relationship. It can make her closer to you. It will also make her talk to you honestly, deeper and meaningful. AMMO will make her attracted to you again. It has sexual attraction too. Good luck to you ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Feel\_Good](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mr.feel_good/32/1148_2.png) [@Mr.Feel\_Good](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Feel_Good)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 3:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147/3 "2009-03-17T15:47:35Z")
Hey there, welcome to the forums! Yeah, seconded on being sorry about the divorce. ☹ It really sucks when that happens… i was a kid amongst the divorce and it remains no fun for us either. But hopefully we can lend a helping hand! I pretty much agree with James’ idea, while adding Turn Up The Heat. But you should keep TUTH by the wayside until your 95% sure you’ve won her over to another chance at the bedroom. Then spritz yourself with some (look around the forums for a similar aged experienced user and check what they use, if you dont have time to experiment) and let the fire happen! But until that point, keep to the [Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/) so you don’t come off as sex-crazy ex. 🙄 ---
**Author:** ![sexlessinva](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f05b48/32.png) [@sexlessinva](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sexlessinva)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 3:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147/4 "2009-03-17T15:54:03Z")
> [@jamesbonded](#): > > Hi there, > > Welcome to the forum. > > Sorry to hear about the divorce. What pheromones have you tried? > > I suggest you try IH and AMMO. > > Ih will enhance the relationship. It can make her closer to you. It will also make her talk to you honestly, deeper and meaningful. > > AMMO will make her attracted to you again. It has sexual attraction too. > > Good luck to you Hi Jamesbonded, I have been using Phermone Advantage. Thanks for your suggestion, I think I will order IH and Ammo and give that a shot at the same time before my time with her runs out. I feel if I can get her connected to me emotionally once again I may have a shot at saving this. I have done everything I can as a husband and father. Getting married makes you have to shift gears a little from the PUA mentality as you kinda have to be a little bit of a wuss but I think I lost myself somewhere and never balanced out. I need an edge to get her open minded enought to see the new me and realize I am different. I am a more the way we were when we met, that attracted her. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 3:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147/5 "2009-03-17T15:56:11Z")
> [@sexlessinva](#): > > Hi Jamesbonded, > I have been using Phermone Advantage. Thanks for your suggestion, I think I will order IH and Ammo and give that a shot at the same time before my time with her runs out. I feel if I can get her connected to me emotionally once again I may have a shot at saving this. I have done everything I can as a husband and father. Getting married makes you have to shift gears a little from the PUA mentality as you kinda have to be a little bit of a wuss but I think I lost myself somewhere and never balanced out. I need an edge to get her open minded enought to see the new me and realize I am different. I am a more the way we were when we met, that attracted her. > Thanks! Good luck to you. Hope things getting better ---
**Author:** ![sexlessinva](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f05b48/32.png) [@sexlessinva](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sexlessinva)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 4:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147/6 "2009-03-17T16:02:37Z")
Hi Mr.Feelgood, I am 39, do you think that I have to experiment with a greater dose than normal or am I still within range of normal application? I will take a look around. I would also like to see a section on Married Guys that are trying to save their relationships and not really trying to pick up women. Maybe this is already out there, I will take a look or perhaps start a thread. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 4:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147/7 "2009-03-17T16:54:37Z")
Hello and welcome to the forum. A lot of guys come to the forum looking for the same thing as you are - trying to fix a marriage. I am in my mid-40s, married 20+ years with kids. You have gotten some pretty good advice with the pheros so far but it can be a little more involved at this point as you know I am sure. I marriage is all about relationship. Even with the pheros it will still be 90% you doing the work to salvage your marriage. But I am sure you can - I have seen others do it. You will find that my postings are from that old married guys perspective. Check out the thread in my signature block for married guys. It has strategies and pheros you can use with them. Diamond is also married and has said numerous times that thread helped him immensely with the same situation. Also read the first thread in my signature block to get a feel for what you can realistically expect. The big idea to take away is that you should really use the social products (& maybe Ammo) to re-establish the relationship and communication first before you jump into sex again. Do not try to brute force the issue with TUTH. Let that come later. Once you do the reading come back and ask any questions - the mens forum would be a great place for that. I am in and out of here most days and will get back to you as soon as I can. You can even PM me and let me know the post is there. Diamond is also a good sounding board and Tisha will give you a great female (married many years w/ family herself) perspective as can Dianne or Bella. Good luck ---
**Author:** ![sexlessinva](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f05b48/32.png) [@sexlessinva](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sexlessinva)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 11:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147/8 "2009-03-17T23:39:29Z")
Thanks BossShank, I read your links and they are very informative. I understand that this is no magic potion but a tool that will assist in reaching a goal for me. I am trying to go at this without much expectation and hope for anything positive that may come of it. I am trying really hard not to over interpret the nice things she does for me because in the past after addressing issues I took kindness to mean everything was OK. Now I know she is just being nice but the problems are still there. The biggest issue as you can imagine is that she has no emotions for me, no love and no attraction. I don’t really buy the no love part but I think she is just trying to get her point accross about how serious she is about this. We have even taken our rings off at this point. We still watch TV together and sleep in the same bed so I feel all hope is not lost. While I still have close interactions with her still I want to put that time to good use with communications using IH. I wonder how much time it will take to see progress. Its been so long since we have had “relations” (aprrox 6mo) and now she does not even undress infront of me. Even though all signs seem to point to her having an affair I know she does not have that kind of time since we have 3 kids, but who knows. I cannot function thinking that way. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 2:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/27147/9 "2009-03-18T02:09:55Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 I am sorry about your situation. While mones can help you get to the bottom of what is going on and arouse her they wont change her mind if its made up already. Only you can do that. They will aid you in effort though. I agree with BH, Don’t go for TUTH right now. I suggest Ishine and IH defiantly and some A314. If you have questions just ask and be sure to read Bosshanks links as well as a member named Diamond, journal in the men’s section. You will find a lot of helpful info both of these. **Your GC is on its way 😉** Best of luck Tisha Hostess/Guide