# Hi everyone **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [July 2, 2009, 6:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335 "2009-07-02T18:10:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Phoenix117](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/9dc877/32.png) [@Phoenix117](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix117)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 6:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/1 "2009-07-02T18:10:18Z")
Hi guys my name is chris and I am a 20 year old male. I go to school in northern california. My whole life I have been called ugly and constantly rejected by girls. Many times several girls wont even be my friend. I feel life has kicked me in the ass pretty hard. One day one of my friend told me about [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/). Of course I was skeptical and truth be told I may be too ugly for any sort off effect but I thought I would try it out. Yes so as you would imagine I have never even kissed a girl before and I would really like to change that because my girl promblems is a big part of the depression i am facing right now and if I changed that my life would be so much better. I used to be very shy and not care about my appearance. Well to be a little positive this year I had more friends that are girls than ever, I want to start dressing better and try to do sumthing with my hair. I hope pheromones will give me the attitude of just forgetitng the past and going after any girl I want because I know im ugly but i have a great personality and I have been told I am funny by hundreds of people. Girls just need to see that I am for real no messing around. I choose the name Phoenix because I hope Pheromones give me a new life and confidence because hopefully its my turn now. I hope pheromones will do this for me. ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 6:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/2 "2009-07-02T18:14:35Z")
Hi and welcome to the forum Chris! I’m sure you’ll love it here, there’s heaps of great people to chat to, loads of fun phero reports to read 🙂 Phero’s do work, but I think most of us were a bit sceptical when we started out, that’s only natural. With Androtics you are getting great products though so no need to worry. Could you tell us a bit more about what you are hoping to use phero’s for? Is it mainly for dating or do you want to boost any other areas in your life? General social situations, work/studies, self effects etc? If you tell us a bit more it’s easier for us to point you in the right direction. ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 6:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/3 "2009-07-02T18:41:40Z")
Hello there, You have definitely come to the right place, but keep in mind that pheromones will only do about 10% of the work for you. 90% is all you 🙂 Would you still consider yourself to be shy? Do you have trouble talking to girls? Do you have a particular girl you are wanting to attract? good luck and I’m glad you joined us! Tiffany ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix117](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/9dc877/32.png) [@Phoenix117](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix117)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 6:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/4 "2009-07-02T18:42:33Z")
> [@Xiphoid](#): > > Hi and welcome to the forum Chris! > > I’m sure you’ll love it here, there’s heaps of great people to chat to, loads of fun phero reports to read 🙂 > > Phero’s do work, but I think most of us were a bit sceptical when we started out, that’s only natural. With Androtics you are getting great products though so no need to worry. > > Could you tell us a bit more about what you are hoping to use phero’s for? Is it mainly for dating or do you want to boost any other areas in your life? General social situations, work/studies, self effects etc? > If you tell us a bit more it’s easier for us to point you in the right direction. Oh sure no promblem. Well i just need more confidence in life I would like to use them to not be so awkard in social situations. Also hopefully help me give off a strong impression to get a job (im sure some of you now how it feels) so i just need more confidence to ask girls out and a way to break off awkard social conversations. Also if these can give me more confidence that is also something I desire ---
**Author:** ![MuskCloud](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f07891/32.png) [@MuskCloud](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MuskCloud)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 6:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/5 "2009-07-02T18:46:14Z")
Hi Chris At least half the secret of attraction is your attitude to life, if I say so myself. If you are feeling down, believe me, women will pick up on that and ignore you. This makes the vicious cycle worse, as they confirm what you already believe. Notice that I said ‘believe’ and not ‘know’. You just need a little boost in your self esteem. It’s good that you’re aiming to improve the way you dress and your hairstyle and pheros will be part of your wardrobe. 🙂 The usual advice in your situation would be the socials, [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), Instant Honesty etc to improve communication. Work on that before jumping into the dating game with both feet. I’m going to go out there and suggest that you could go out on a limb and get the Instant Jerk for that swagger and bad-boy confidence that you lack right now. 🆒😃 Whichever way you choose, good luck with your personal revolution. Too bad there isn’t a thumbs up smiley around here. We’re all backing you, Chris. 😃 Musk ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 6:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/6 "2009-07-02T18:47:20Z")
Well, I think you should definitively try Instant Shine 🙂 It’s a great all rounder that boosts your mood and confidence at the same time as it gives you a socialble, happy & bubbly vibe. It basically makes you shine! Another great one to try if you want to get a li’ll boost when chatting to girls is [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/). It’s a social phero and it increases the _quantity_ of converstation making yourself and those around you more comfortable and chatty 🙂 For the sexy vibe to help you attract the girls I’d try Ammo. It’s great as it’s got the -none for that sexy vibe, but also social buffers to make it a sexy rather than overtly sexual “come shag me now” type vibe. Oh, and re-read MuskClouds post above mine… It has ALOT of wisedome in it! Confidence, a positive outlook on life & being fun to talk to is a lot more important to girls that just looks. Hope that helps ---
**Author:** ![REEPER6969](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/reeper6969/32/2133_2.png) [@REEPER6969](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/REEPER6969)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 6:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/7 "2009-07-02T18:48:25Z")
I tell you right now man. You are in the right place. These people know what they are talking about. I’m glad you found this place. A great place to be. Take it easy man. You’ll do great. Got lots of faith in you man…🙂 ---
**Author:** ![fantisto](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/fantisto/32/2102_2.png) [@fantisto](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/fantisto)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 7:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/8 "2009-07-02T19:01:10Z")
Don’t think yourseft as ugly Chris. yes, one can be born ugly, but not ugly always, improve your look, style yourseft, you will become a new person, the handsome one. Yes, feeling not good enough might draw away our confidence. so here are the boosters: [Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/): attracts more girls to you, you will notice more glance and eye contacts as seems like you have something special. IO: help to break the ice, make people want to talk with you more comfortably, so do you chattier. IS: boost your confident and warm charisma Have a greet time, improve ourself, as I mentioned in my signature \> I’ll always be myself, a better myself. ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 7:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/9 "2009-07-02T19:17:08Z")
Chris the very first thing, before anything will work, is internalize that you are not ugly. Anyone who calls someone a name, makes rude comments about them, mean, lies, dishonest, disingenuous has serious internal conflicts themselves and in due time will attract exactly what they put out. Some here call it the law of the universe, Karma, God’s Law, but the fact of the matter is you need to first seek happiness within yourself. Let’s face it, my friend, there are those out in this world completely for selfish reasons look to hurt others, but always remember they can only hurt you if you allow them access to your reality. You my friend, are not ugly, you are a beautiful soul who just needs to find it within himself to believe that. I used to think the same way as you, until I realized with a lot of help from true friends, that true happiness can only come from within you. Think of it this way: If you will be happy after you hit the lottery, you will never be happy. You are seeking strength and happiness from an outside source and once you win the lottery, you will only be happy if this happens, or that happens. It’s a vicious cycle to want happiness from outside sources. Learn to appreciate the amazing things you already have in your life and life will unfold as amazing before you. Do not focus on what you don’t want or have or life will keep giving you more of that. I highly recommend you might try using the Silva System to really help you appreciate yourself. It’s been a long time since I got it, but I’m pretty sure you can get it for a $1.00, right now. I think the way it works is you go to the page and leave your email but dont buy and they will email you a special. Anyway it helped me and I am sure you will find what will help you. [The Silva Life System by Jose Silva of The Silva Method, formerly Silva Mind Control](http://www.silvalifesystem.com/products) Irregardless of the method and way you choose to follow your journey I believe IMHO that first you need to first work on yourself. Pheromones are only a tool and will only provide a way to amplify yourself. Before you start with mones you definitely need to change your internal picture of yourself. Mones are not capable of changing who you believe yourself to be. More than happy to help you the best I can.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 7:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/10 "2009-07-02T19:20:05Z")
I would start with [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/). It will help you to be more confident and appealing to other people. I always get a lot of smiles when wearing this one 🙂. Next I would suggest Ammo. It will help you attract girls without coming on too strong. Lastly, for work, I would recommend A314 for achieving respect. Tiffany ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2009, 8:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/11 "2009-07-02T20:11:15Z")
> [@Steve](#): > > Chris the very first thing, before anything will work, is internalize that you are not ugly. > > You my friend, are not ugly, you are a beautiful soul who just needs to find it within himself to believe that. I used to think the same way as you, until I realized with a lot of help from true friends, that true happiness can only come from within you. I totally agree with Steve 🙂 I also think that no matter what you look like there is someone out there for everyone. We all have different tastes and preferences where appearance is concerned. Some like slim people, others like curves. Me personally I’d much rather date a guy with a few extra pound than one that’s skinny, (I always tend to go for big & tall for some reason 🙄). But that’s just me, what floats my boat might not do it for someone else 😛 Bottom line…It’s really is what’s on the inside that counts! _You don’t love someone because they are beautiful, a person is beautiful because you love them_ ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 9:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/12 "2009-07-03T21:02:44Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk Phoenix117! Steve totally nailed it on the head. You can’t get any better advice than that and surely coming from a man with loads of experience. My sister always say I like ugly dudes although I don’t see them as ugly because not only are they confident in themselves but they are confident enough to let their personality shine so it’s hard for me not to notice what wonderful people they are. Make sure you let the world know from today who you are and let your light shine. Your GC was already issued! ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 12:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-everyone/30335/13 "2009-07-04T00:19:30Z")
Oh and try some A314