You do have a unique situation, lol.
In your situation, I would get A314, Instant Honesty and Instant Shine. First test them out individually, to familiarize yourself and become comfotable with the effects of each. This post should help How To Find Your Sweet Spot (How to find your sweet spot...).
Then try different combinations, I’m thinking the A314 with one or the other (or even both) of the social products. To give you a bit more respect, but still stay friendly.