# Hi from the midwest! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [December 3, 2009, 5:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-from-the-midwest/34570 "2009-12-03T05:09:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![psychberry](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/psychberry/32/2363_2.png) [@psychberry](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/psychberry)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2009, 5:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-from-the-midwest/34570/1 "2009-12-03T05:09:31Z")
I’m a 19-year-old female engineering college student originally from Chicago. I’m shy upfront, but it doesn’t take much for me to be comfortable with someone. After I get the feeling someone doesn’t find me annoying, creepy, or not worth talking to… I become quite outgoing. However, I can still be socially awkward, especially around guys I like. My friend introduced me to pheros several months ago, and a few days ago she and I decided to order one for me from here. (She decided I should get MX274, it came in the mail today with bonus Instant Honesty) Originally I really wanted to try pheros because I have had a huge crush on this guy for a while and I thought that since he and I are both awkward, pheros would help push us along (assuming he likes me back). I don’t know if it’s school-stress-related or something else, but I feel that my crush on him is dissipating. I don’t actually want it to… he’s a guy that I enjoy liking! But that’s besides the point, I think. There are other things pheros could help me with even if things with that guy don’t work out (and I really hope things do work out). Such as I do enjoy flirtatious attention, but I’ve been told (and believe) I’m too intimidating, serious, and have no idea how to flirt back. I’m **only** attracted to smart guys, but the well-balanced ones just never respond to me! I know I’m an attractive, intelligent, fun girl, but it’s exhausting to always be the one going after the guys. I was hoping [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) would make them more comfortable with me. ---
**Author:** ![Olfact\_Amorous](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/olfact_amorous/32/434_2.png) [@Olfact\_Amorous](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Olfact_Amorous)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2009, 5:16am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-from-the-midwest/34570/2 "2009-12-03T05:16:39Z")
Hey there, If guys find you intimidating you should probably give [Instant Sexiness B](https://phera.com/product/kitten/) version a whirl because it’ll soften that serious demeanor perception. Combine that with some instant shine to keep things upbeat and perhaps some instant openness to open the communicatin channel. I know how you feel and its even worse for me b/c if you can’t flirt properly as a guy your kinda a sittin duck. P.S. I hope everything works out for you b/c really my personality is just like yours and I just got rejected myself today but it would lift my heart to see someone who needed a little push to succeed =) ---
**Author:** ![jessejester](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jessejester/32/1683_2.png) [@jessejester](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jessejester)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2009, 5:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-from-the-midwest/34570/3 "2009-12-03T05:21:12Z")
Hello psychberry, Welcome to the forum. That was a really good intro, and be sure to thank your friend for introducing you pheros. Some of the girls will be by soon to offer you some product advice, but until then , take some timr to look arond the forum. Take a look at the sticky’s at the top of the womens forum. There is some great info there. Please dont be afraid to ask questions, you have found a great community, Again, Welcome ---
**Author:** ![tezza23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tezza23/32/1375_2.png) [@tezza23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tezza23)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2009, 5:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-from-the-midwest/34570/4 "2009-12-03T05:46:05Z")
Hey psychberry, There’s a very good book on flirting for women called _The Fine Art of Flirting_. That may help. Some pheros like [Come Talk To Me](https://a314.com/product/come-talk-to-me-cttm/) Mix 2 will attract attention and get people talking to you. One phero I particularly recommend is Instant Shine, it makes you seem, well, shiny. Some people (including me) get self-effects from it, uplifting my mood and making me less serious. So give that one a go. Good luck and have fun. ---
**Author:** ![Cherub](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/cherub/32/1282_2.png) [@Cherub](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Cherub)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2009, 5:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-from-the-midwest/34570/5 "2009-12-03T05:47:31Z")
Aloha and welcome to the forums!I’m new here also and this is a great community…I’m sure you will find answer to all your questions here so far I have…everyone has been really helpful and made me feel very comfortable and at home here! Happy testing and best of luck to you! ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2009, 7:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-from-the-midwest/34570/6 "2009-12-03T19:25:01Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk Pshyberry! What a very interesting product for ordering for the first time. MX274 is going to bring you some mind blowing results just ensure you report your findings. I am not sure about you, it’s all nice and all to chase some dude and although they might have some great qualities that keep us for a while if he doesn’t show some interest it’s gonna die down eventually. I am not sure how long it has been but by now you should know whether or not he likes you back. I suggest instant sexiness/a , it is not exactly your personality type but you want to portray this sexual vixen that will have the guys running to you. Instant sexiness/b will come in handy at moments when you feel like being your soft, mysterious self. You will want to pair off the instant sexiness with CTTM 2 as it makes guys approach you more. CTTM 2 is an communication [pheromone](https://a314.com/shop/) that in my experience assist in intimate moments and allows for free flowing conversations. You received a great freebie of Instant honesty that is great for deeper level of communication as well. MX135 is forum favorite of us females . This product is subtle sweet in smell but packs a powerful punch in making you the center of attention. A woman is a special creature and so if this guy is not interested don’t waste all your God given time on him and as hard as it is move on. We are here to share and learn from each other’s experiences and be there for each other. Your GC will be issued soon! ---
**Author:** ![psychberry](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/psychberry/32/2363_2.png) [@psychberry](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/psychberry)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2009, 5:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-from-the-midwest/34570/7 "2009-12-04T17:17:34Z")
Thanks for the warm welcome and advice, everyone! I made a second order with the gift card. MX135 (sounds amazing, I’m super excited) and [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/). Can’t wait to try them out! I’ve started using MX274 and already have had some interesting results. I’m excited to see if anything happens today with its use! > [@kelsey](#): > > I am not sure about you, it’s all nice and all to chase some dude and although they might have some great qualities that keep us for a while if he doesn’t show some interest it’s gonna die down eventually. I am not sure how long it has been but by now you should know whether or not he likes you back. > > A woman is a special creature and so if this guy is not interested don’t waste all your God given time on him and as hard as it is move on. Thank you, you’re so right 🙂 The issue is our personality types… it seems true for both of us that when it comes to our feelings we’re much more defensive and shielding of them than open. We’ve been casual friends for a few years but only recently did we become a little closer and I thought I felt a spark. But when it comes to those kinds of friendships, it’s so hard to tell when he’s being nice and friendly versus flirtatious, and things like that. But you’re right, my feelings seem to be dying down because I don’t realistically see anything happening. The feelings just happened to die down at the worst possible time. School is so stressful that it always made me happy to talk to him, but now I don’t feel that giddiness when I talk to him and school is still stressful. It almost feels like a lose-lose situation.