# Hi how is everyone in mones land? **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [July 27, 2012, 10:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-how-is-everyone-in-mones-land/56240 "2012-07-27T10:49:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![uatreat84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/8797f3/32.png) [@uatreat84](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/uatreat84)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2012, 10:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-how-is-everyone-in-mones-land/56240/1 "2012-07-27T10:49:58Z")
28M here from the SW part of the country (would name a particular state but tend to travel between all of them for work). I am coming here to see if I can help balance my life. While reading the misc posts I have found that it seems my overall mones production is imbalanced. (more in my journal to come) I hope to begin to balance my overall interactions with people so I do not see such extreme swings and in the process help better myself both mentally and physically as your emotional state tends to have long term affects on your physical state. My main question on this post is as follows; is it possible to have extreme differences in your chemicals so you may extrude IG type mones but not IH or visa versa? IE the bad boy persona vs LTR or IJ vs IH? Thanks! -Noob ---
**Author:** ![CoolKat](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/coolkat/32/501_2.png) [@CoolKat](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CoolKat)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 10:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-how-is-everyone-in-mones-land/56240/2 "2012-07-28T10:21:14Z")
Hey welcome to Pherotalk! Without seeing you in person, I cannot tell how you really are? Do you feel like you are alway a nice guy and gets taken advantage of? Then, you might be more of IG type of guy. I would use ammo or a bit of TUTH to give you that bad boy sexual edge. What do you think? Formally introduce yourself for that $25 giftcard, so you can give it try! Sounds good? ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 9:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-how-is-everyone-in-mones-land/56240/3 "2012-07-30T09:00:20Z")
Yes, people do demonstrate quite wide differences in phero production and they also change with age. However, personality and situational factors also have very significant influence and its maybe easier to start looking at phero use to complement your natural attributes in your different lifestyle situations first. So a bit more info about your personality and how/where you want to use pheros would go a long way towards our being able to give you better pointers. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![uatreat84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/8797f3/32.png) [@uatreat84](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/uatreat84)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 9:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-how-is-everyone-in-mones-land/56240/4 "2012-07-30T09:22:42Z")
Well alittle about myself… hmmm… Personality : I actually have two personalities. My “work” personality and the “real” me. My work personality is a take no sh\*t from anyone, polite but sure of myself and my decisions. I work in a very stressful industry and have people twice my age reporting to me, so there is always a underlying current of resentment and bitterness. I have had to shelve my nice side to insure I don’t get stabbed by co-workers as one of my old bosses now works for me and constantly tries to undermine my authority. My at home personality is that I will do anything for my friends, I have a weird sense of humor and love to be spontaneous. I always seem to make female friends, but they usually either put me in the ONS category or the friends category. Even they cannot explain why I am not a good fit for LTR with them, they say any other girl would be lucky, etc. Situational Factors : I was in a LTR for several years and it ended horribly (had to call the COPS it became so negative). I then left to work in a warzone for a year with no female/normal social interactions… and now am back trying to integrate myself into society. I find there are many times that I just either cannot keep up the light bantering because I am unused to it, or I come across as a moody/brooding person since I have become fairly introverted from my time overseas. I want to both bring out the old me, along with making the exterior be presentable and reflective of my inner personality. While I know this will not be a end all/be all fix, it may allow me to build back my inner confidence/reliance and thus create a positive spiral of inner growth supporting exterior growth. IE people view me as more outgoing, and thus talk to me more… ergo I become more outgoing, reinforcing the image. ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 12:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-how-is-everyone-in-mones-land/56240/5 "2012-07-30T12:08:14Z")
Welcome to pherotalk Treat, I think what you are saying or what I gather from your introduction and from the additional information is that you are trying to find that balance for your love life. That alpha male at work and that nice guy with your friends to merge and make the kind of guy that women don’t say no to and don’t want to let go without loosing yourself. It is kind of hard for me to imagine that you are so tough at work and some of that doesn’t come out when needs be in relationships. I have some suggestions in mind for [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) and advice but since I have never handled a situation like yours before I strongly suggest you pop into the men section and the men will definitely guide you into the right direction. I know we have something here for you. _ **Your gc was issued!** _ ---
**Author:** ![uatreat84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/8797f3/32.png) [@uatreat84](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/uatreat84)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 12:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-how-is-everyone-in-mones-land/56240/6 "2012-07-30T12:20:14Z")
Mickaelia, I def understand the confusion, the promotion at the job is fairly recent (three months) so it has yet to affect my personality on a deeper level. To put it bluntly I have to be extremely fake at work and thus the reasons for the dichotomy in my personalities. I am planning on starting a Journal and thus hopefully it will help out! Also hope some of those men with the exp can chime in as my situation is def unique. BTW you rock on the GC!!! Thank you!