# Hi there! I'm a newbie who needs lots of help...but beware, I wrote a book! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [June 30, 2010, 4:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there-im-a-newbie-who-needs-lots-of-help-but-beware-i-wrote-a-book/39724 "2010-06-30T04:45:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Jwlz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f08c70/32.png) [@Jwlz](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Jwlz)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 4:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there-im-a-newbie-who-needs-lots-of-help-but-beware-i-wrote-a-book/39724/1 "2010-06-30T04:45:28Z")
Okay, so it’s not exactly a book…more like a manuscript. 😉 Hi, I’m Jwlz, 29 years old, and I currently reside in Oregon. I came across this site while searching for reviews of different [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) and became hooked instantly after reading through the posts here. I’m very interested in experimenting with pheromones, however I’m completely confused and at an utter loss when trying to decide where to begin. There are so many products and they all sound so wonderful! It’s a little overwhelming, so I thought maybe I would post with the hope that someone could suggest or recommend something great for me. (Many thanks in advance, by the way) 🙂 I suppose I should supply a little more information about myself, so here goes! I have multiple reasons for wanting to try pheromones. Initially, it was because I wanted to experience more of a spark between myself and my boyfriend of five years. But as I read more posts, I began to realize that you can use pheromones for so many other things, which is fascinating to me! I would describe my personality as shy (until you get to know me), quiet, caring, and friendly; but not particurlarly approachable. From what my boyfriend says, I often appear unhappy. I would love to be one of those fun, outgoing girls (the kind who are on the dancefloor at the club, instead of just sitting at the bar), who everyone loves, but it’s never come to me easily. Because I’m quiet, people sometimes think I’m stuck-up. It’s very difficult for me to make friends and hold (let alone start) conversations with people. I’m also rather insecure. In the five years that my boyfriend and I have been together, I’ve gained some weight and my self-esteem has all but diminished. I’ve always considered myself to be fairly attractive and used to turn quite a few heads. It still happens once in a while, but most of the time, it’s my boyfriend’s head that’s turning to look at other girls. I know he loves me and he is just looking, but it does bother me and I want to feel the way I did when guys gave me attention like that. I guess I’m also having a bit of an issue with my age. I’ll be 30 in August and although I’m constantly told I look much, much younger, I just don’t feel as young and attractive as I used to. I haven’t achieved many of the things in life that I thought I would by this age, which also bothers me. I guess I kind of want to feel younger to go along with looking younger. So basically, I’m a mess and you guys have got your work cut out, thinking up an amazing concoction for me! 😉 No really, I guess what I’m looking for (in a nutshell), is something that would help me be happier and regain some of my lost confidence, to become unbelievably sexy and desirable to my boyfriend (and it wouldn’t hurt if other men noticed as well), and it would be nice if I could also attract females, as I would love to have some close female friends. Thank you so much to those who took the time to read this and any advice would be helpful! ---
**Author:** ![celerytree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/47e85d/32.png) [@celerytree](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/celerytree)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 4:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there-im-a-newbie-who-needs-lots-of-help-but-beware-i-wrote-a-book/39724/2 "2010-06-30T04:58:51Z")
Welcome to the forums, Jwlz! I would suggest trying Instant Shine and [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/). Instant Shine gives off a fun, happy vibe and most people who use it experience an inexplicable increase in mood. It is one of my personal favorites! It works great as either a standalone or as a finishing touch to nearly any other pheromone combo. Instant Openness is a fantastic conversational lubricant and can help make conversations between yourself and people you don’t know flow a little easier. It may help with your shyness. You might also want to give Instant Sexiness a try. This does exactly what it’s name implies! However, there are two different types - A and B. A makes you seem like more of an alpha, dominant female while B makes you seem like a more submissive female. Since you are already shy, I would suggest trying Instant Sexiness A. If you experience that people are afraid to approach you while wearing Instant Sexiness A because you just seem THAT sexy, try pairing it with Instant Openness. One final note, give these a read before you start using pheromones. They’re super useful: (1)[How to Find Your Sweet Spot](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-find-your-sweet-spot/22146) (2)[Snooks Big Book of Pheros for Rookies](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-snooks-big-book-o-pheros-for-rookies/5879) (3)[Muskcloud’s Phero Color Chart](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/phero-color-chart-by-muskcloud/1833) Good luck with your pheromone journey! celerytree ---
**Author:** ![falcos](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/falcos/32/1189_2.png) [@falcos](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/falcos)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 12:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there-im-a-newbie-who-needs-lots-of-help-but-beware-i-wrote-a-book/39724/3 "2010-06-30T12:20:48Z")
Hi Jwiz, welcome to the forum 🙂 . Reading your post I realise I more often give philosofy advices than mones. And thats what I am giving it to you. Of course I will also give mones advice but ear me out first 🙂 . First basic rule of attraction and sexyness, For you to look sexy you have to feel sexy. If you dont feel conforatble with your body, you have to do something abou that. It must dastical measure for it to work. Really start a weight managing program, buy a new bracelet to remind you that you are doing the program and never take it off until you are in the desrable weight. Go to the gym as often as you can, you will realise that doing exercise will make you happier, and gain some new found confidence. Mentalise yourself that you are beautifull and belive in it. Do thngs that make you happy, and open up to strangers when a opportunity presents. Do this and your life will turn for the good. About the mones. I suggest you start wearing [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) for the boost in happyness and confidence, IO for opening up, and take out to stuck up air around you. Instant sexiness B for more romantic ocasions were you want to be tended and Instant Sexines when you go to disco and want to dance and also for the turning the heads effect 🙂 This is my advice hope some girl will drop in here to give her more accurate advice, although with mine I think you cant go wrong 🙂 . Any other questions just ask. Falcos ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 11:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there-im-a-newbie-who-needs-lots-of-help-but-beware-i-wrote-a-book/39724/4 "2010-06-30T23:30:10Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk J! Yes, we certainly do have our work cut out for us. 😛 Ladies let’s surround J and give her a big hug and a warm Androtics welcome. Most of us go through insecurities and I guess your introduction was so long because you just need to vent and you did. Exhale boo exhale! The guys gave you some nice pheromone recommendations. The first thing I want you to know is that pheromones enhance and bring out what is already there so once you start getting hits remember it’s all you baby. IT IS ALL YOU! The second thing is reading the stickies in the women’s section if you haven’t already and getting familiar with what pheromones can and cannot do and your sweet spot. Now, the stickies are just guidelines and if you want to take this pheromone testing far and have some real fun you need to push the envelope and think outside the box. \*Silly where are you , she needs some help with this 😃 To make you feel confident , almost like you want to say : “I’M WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR” I suggest [Instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/)/ a Instant sexiness/B is going to make you feel soft and tender and is great to attract the Alpha male CTTM 2 is a all around great communication product for men and women. It encourages intimacy and when used with the instant sexiness products it just seals the deal. Instant shine will give that youthful glow and make you feel great. It always draws others to you. I would concentrate on getting my confidence back if I were you and doing your thing. That guy of yours will come around soon enough once he starts to sense you are : THA SHIT! Your gc will be issued soon!