# Hi there...Seeking Respect... **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [October 27, 2009, 6:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there-seeking-respect/33626 "2009-10-27T06:38:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 2
**Author:** ![TwistedOstrich](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/twistedostrich/32/627_2.png) [@TwistedOstrich](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TwistedOstrich)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2009, 6:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there-seeking-respect/33626/2 "2009-10-27T06:46:27Z")
Hey johnshaw, Welcome to the forums! I read everything perfectly no need to worry about spelling, I mess up sometimes too lol. One thing thats for certain with pheromones is that while they can help give off the right vibes to get attention you too have to play the part. As you asked for help in this area too, I think your on the right path. But one thing in your mind has to change and its that fear of rejection. I think the root of it comes from the fear of loosing out on an opportunity or fear of humiliation. But once that change in your head happens and you realize that whoever talks to you cant humiliate you and you have only to gain by talking you start to succeed more. I believe the best product for you would be A314. It makes it so your perceived social value increases and at the same time boosts your own confidence. Mix this with Instant Openness to get more people interested in talking to you. You may also want to use Instant Shine to boot your mood and the moods of everyone around you to build even more approachability to yourself. For a cheaper alternative to A314, there is the more subtler [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) that would give you a clam cool confident vibe thats more subtle but like 007. But I think I would really recommend you to get A314 as I noticed in myself a much bigger confidence boost when using it. You can read up on the products available in this list [here](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/mens-pheromone-guide-revised-6-15/12168) All the best! Daset --- _[View the full topic](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there-seeking-respect/33626)._