# Hi there **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [June 26, 2012, 10:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there/55971 "2012-06-26T10:29:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Kirov](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Kirov](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kirov)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2012, 10:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there/55971/1 "2012-06-26T10:29:51Z")
Hi there, My name is Alessio, 28, male, and I’m from Italy. While I won’t say I’m a shy guy, I’m definitely a misanthrope preferring beeing alone (or in company of a small number of selected friends). In fact, I’m a good talker, and some said I’m a charismatic person, and always been the gravity center of our group of friend, the one whose they (my friends) always seek advice and confidence. Lately I’ve been interested in [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) to recover my relationship after a painful break up. About last year I’ve been dumped by my now ex girlfriend after 5 year of pain and blood relationship. She’s 30 and unfortunately she has severe health problems. For the first three years we were happy then we faced some serious issues. Her health rapidly dropped, my father died and we were both in deep depression. During this period she totally lacked sexual drive and we had many arguments about it. We parted after two years and preferred to remain in touch. Now we are half together. She includes me in almost every aspect of her life, romantic dinners, massages, hugs and the thought of coming back together. But no. She has bad memories about those arguments and she still lacks her sexual drive. And so I’m here. After weeks of googling and reading I’ve placed an order for a TUTH (TO GO version) just to give it a shot and to see if it can help to spark again the intimacy. Sorry for the long post, and hope to have some good advice from you all. ---
**Author:** ![1Alpha](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/1alpha/32/190_2.png) [@1Alpha](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/1Alpha)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2012, 10:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there/55971/2 "2012-06-26T10:42:08Z")
Hey there, Alessio, bienvenue! 🙂 Sorry for your loss, Kirov. ☹ A death of a loved one is very painful and can be for a very long time. The pain doesn’t heal to a time table and I know it can come roaring back into your life. How’s your ex’s health problems? Has she been able to overcome them? For sparking intimacy and overcoming those type of bad situations that occurred, I’d be more inclined to recommend IShine and IH. IME, using a heavily sexual laden mone such as TUTH could be the Wrong signal to her. She already KNOWS your sex drive is alive and well, thank you very much. By hammering it home with TUTH could make things worse. By using socials, such as IShine and IH, and _POSSIBLY_ a bit of AMMO for the sexy confident male vibe, you’ll be focusing on ironing out past differences and having her open up to you, as she once did. To reinforce the relationship aspect, not the physical one. Once the air clears up a bit, you can think about some heavier mones in the sexual department. My 2 Euros… 1Alpha ---
**Author:** ![TwistedOstrich](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/twistedostrich/32/627_2.png) [@TwistedOstrich](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TwistedOstrich)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2012, 11:06am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there/55971/3 "2012-06-26T11:06:57Z")
Hey Kirov, I’d have to agree with alpha in that building a bond with her would be the first step where tuth could be usefull as a second step. I always believe sexual intent starts in the mind. Rebuilding that bond and positive feelings with IS and IH could lead in that direction. Loosing libido could also be from taking certain drugs, see if you can research what shes taking and if so recommend alternatives? 😉 You’d get a gift certificate soon for your intro, maybe use it for the other pheromones 🙂 But if your going to be in a close moment, would hurt to try a little TUTH and see if she reacts positively… ---
**Author:** ![Kirov](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Kirov](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kirov)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2012, 12:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there/55971/4 "2012-06-26T12:06:16Z")
Thanks for the kind words, guys! Well, I’m a totally newbie to 'mones. She unfortunately she has two organ trasplant and, yes, she takes a lot of different drugs for mantaining them and some for controlling panic attacks etc. They all influence her sex drive, but there is no alternatives I can propose. She’s under psychiatric consueling and with my ineducated advice I probably negatively interfere with it. As I see it, we still have a strong bond, as I’m the only one she totally trust. For exaple, she had a major surgery, some month ago. At that time she was dating a guy (and I was dating a girl btw), but when the news of this imminent operation occurred she called me because she wanted me beside her. I’ve spent many days and nights in hospital with her, helping her by any means, washing her, feeding her etc (leading to the inevitable anger of the other guy and girl). But on the other side 1alpha you’re definitely right saying that I might give her the wrong signal and we have to overcome some bad feelings and memories, so I’ll take your advice and will go for instant shine and IH. @TwistedOstrich well, every time we see is quite a close moment. We still spend hours in bed hugging each other, caressing etc. so I thought it might be those moment when I have to use TUTH. So I’ll give a try to the three in sequence. First IS and IH then TUTH in closer moments. The only thing that scares me is the [Neroli](https://a314.com/product-category/scented/androtics-neroli/) scent… She knows very well I hate oranges… 😃 Thanks guys! ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2012, 2:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there/55971/5 "2012-06-27T14:17:08Z")
Welcome Kirov, This special lady in your life is obviously going through a lot in her life and you should be honored that she trusts you and that you can be there for her. Take things slow, relationships is obv the last thing on her mind with all this going on so just be there for her and try rebuilding some good memories and see where it goes. Everything happens for a reason so take things for what they are and go with the flow _ **Your gc was issued!** _ ---
**Author:** ![Kirov](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Kirov](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kirov)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2012, 5:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there/55971/6 "2012-06-27T17:14:31Z")
Thanks Mickaelia. Your words describe perfectly her actual way of thinking. Of course we’re “working” hard on building some good memories. The reason behind my urge to take some steps forward are due to the fact that once she gets better something worse happens… Probably I’m rushing a bit, but I think that if I could somehow make her feel that our relationship may go further, maybe she’ll start thinking more about it, and less about her illness. Anyway, I wish to thank you all for the advices and for the GC. I’ll try to use it wisely! ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phoenix/32/673_2.png) [@Phoenix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2012, 7:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi-there/55971/7 "2012-07-03T07:04:15Z")
Let us know how it went!