# Hi! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [December 1, 2008, 1:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445 "2008-12-01T01:38:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![alex72](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alex72/32/1752_2.png) [@alex72](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/alex72)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 1:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/1 "2008-12-01T01:38:22Z")
A new user from New York. This seems like a friendly and active community, and I’m definitely very curious about [pheromones](https://a314.com/)…looking forward to getting to know you all. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![magnum](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/magnum/32/1423_2.png) [@magnum](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/magnum)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 1:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/2 "2008-12-01T01:42:16Z")
hi alex72, welcome to the forum! Here is a great place for open-minded people and we all love to share our experiences and knowledge. If you tell us about your personality and where you want to use pheromones we can give you some solid advice about the products. It also helps if you tell us which effects you want to see… have fun here magnum ---
**Author:** ![marty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/marty/32/714_2.png) [@marty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/marty)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 1:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/3 "2008-12-01T01:42:49Z")
Hi Alex. We’re here to help, but we’d like to know a bit more about what you are hoping to achieve with pheromones. Some are great for increasing confidence ( Instant Gentlemen, A314 ). Some are great for increasing your ability to socialize. ( [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), Instant Honesty , Instant Shine ). And some are great for attracting women (Ammo). There are so many different options, so let us know what direction you’re looking to head in. ---
**Author:** ![Robbie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2acd7d/32.png) [@Robbie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Robbie)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 1:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/4 "2008-12-01T01:45:22Z")
Hi Alex, welcome to the forum! As magnum said, we could use some additional info about you if possible. You might wanna read this thread to get an idea of what we need: [https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-do-i-qualify-for-a-25-gift-certificate/19934](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-do-i-qualify-for-a-25-gift-certificate/19934) This way we can help you and you can earn that gift certificate! Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![alex72](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alex72/32/1752_2.png) [@alex72](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/alex72)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 2:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/5 "2008-12-01T02:19:33Z")
Hi everyone, Thanks for the welcome. A bit more about me… I’m a gay male, 36, living in New York. I have a fairly high-powered job (I run a department at a branding/communications agency), so I work in a client-facing and management role. Personally, I’m on the rebound from a 2-year relationship that really didn’t go well and did a lot to erode my self respect. I’m trying to pull things together that I’ve neglected during all the relationship trials–reconnecting with friends, getting back into creative pursuits, getting back in good physical shape. Not ready to start dating _just_ yet (definitely need to feel more upbeat and better about myself) but that’s on the horizon. I’m not looking to pheromones as a “magic bullet” given my low confidence, but I figure they can’t hurt. I generally suffer from some degree of social anxiety and the confidence issues from the relationship have made them worse–I feel “spent” after just the work day and don’t feel like interacting with anyone at all. At my best, I’m upbeat, funny, and get at least a moderate amount of romantic interest, so my feeling is that with the right combination of pheromones I can help recapture that and rebuild my social self. Hope that’s enough for a start…not great at describing myself! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![alex72](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alex72/32/1752_2.png) [@alex72](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/alex72)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 2:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/6 "2008-12-01T02:23:51Z")
PS: from everything I’m reading here (lots of fantastic information!) the following items seem most appealing: Instant Shine: definitely something I think I used to have but don’t feel much of these days… [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/): my interactions with people at work (and definitely socially) have suffered along with my self esteem and general bad mood from the failed relationship–one thing that I used to really like about myself (and which people always noticed) was that I could talk to anyone and most people felt comfortable opening up to me. Another thing I would like to recapture. A314: I don’t feel the need for a lot of this but, as above, my feeling of being authoritative and confident, which was there in much greater measure before, has grown less, so I think this is worth a try. Products I’m curious about: Ammo and Spaceland–both look interesting and worth a try. ---
**Author:** ![marty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/marty/32/714_2.png) [@marty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/marty)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 3:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/7 "2008-12-01T03:15:13Z")
Looks like you’ve made some good choices for yourself. I highly recommend both IO and Instant Shine. Instant Shine always puts me in a pretty good mood, even when I’m feeling really down. [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) definitely helps me be much more outgoing. They combine very nicely as well. ---
**Author:** ![Robbie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2acd7d/32.png) [@Robbie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Robbie)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 3:40am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/8 "2008-12-01T03:40:51Z")
Alex, I like your choices a lot. If you’re not feeling very confident you might want to start out with [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) instead of A314. Instant Gentleman offers much of the same qualities of A314 (such as the appearance of extra charisma), but without the unapproachableness of A314. Later, as your confidence increases, by all means try A314. ---
**Author:** ![alex72](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alex72/32/1752_2.png) [@alex72](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/alex72)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 3:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/9 "2008-12-01T03:43:16Z")
Robbie, Thank you, that’s a great suggestion. [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) seems a bit more my style anyway! ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 3:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/10 "2008-12-01T03:45:58Z")
Hello Alex- You can read the thread in my signature block about the differences between A314 and [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/). I alternate between the two for my “base”. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2008, 1:32pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/11 "2008-12-01T13:32:51Z")
Hi There Alex Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 I think your choices are perfect for the effects your looking for right now. I agree IG would be the better choice. Keep in mind that mones primary function is to effect others. While they do have some great self effects for alot of people dont rely on just that as a indicator they are working. People do tend to get increased confidence from quite a few of the like IG and Ishine. If you have any questions just ask. **Your GC is on its way** 😃 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![alex72](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alex72/32/1752_2.png) [@alex72](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/alex72)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2008, 7:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/23445/12 "2008-12-30T19:09:56Z")
Okay, I just ordered… [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) Instant Openness Instant Shine Thank you everyone for all the great advice. I am going to avoid a “baptism” and try out the products one at a time as suggested. First up: Instant Gentleman. I’ll let everyone know how it goes!