# Hi!! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [May 30, 2009, 1:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/29411 "2009-05-30T13:36:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![katlinxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5e925/32.png) [@katlinxx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/katlinxx)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 1:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/29411/1 "2009-05-30T13:36:47Z")
Hi, I’m from Asia. I’ve been married for 5 years now. We married young, just a year out of high school. In the last year I fell out of love with my husband. He wants to make things work out, but I’m not sure if I do. I joined the forum to learn more about phermones and possilby order some. Who knows maybe we will be able to save marraige somehow. But it’s not the marriage mainly I’m here for. I like to meet new people and I’ve always been kinda manipulating with people. So phermones would help. hehe. 🙄 ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 1:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/29411/2 "2009-05-30T13:41:32Z")
Hi there, Welcome. I am also from Asia. WHich part of Asia are you from? For married couple, I recommend IH and IS. IH will make your husband closer to you. He will talk in more personal and eeper. It will build the relationship. Instand Sexiness can make you more sexy and attractive again. Ther are 2 versions of IS. IS A will make you tougher and more dominant type, like Angelina Jolie. IS B will make you more feminine and softer, like Monroe type. Good luck to you ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 1:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/29411/3 "2009-05-30T13:47:49Z")
Hi Katlinxx, welcome to the forum! This is a really friendly community with lots of useful and fun info to read in the treads and heap of great people to chat to and get advice from. 🙂 You say you’ve fallen out of love with your husband yet you want to salvage the marriage? Are you sure that you have actually fallen out of love with him and not just hit a bit of a rut? Phero’s can’t make you fall in love with someone, but they can help spice things up and put the spark back if you still have feelings for each other. If you want to boost your sex appeal **Instant Sexiness** is a fabulous phero! It comes in 2 versions; IS/a and IS/b. IS/a gives a confident, dominant alpha type sexiness vibe, like Angelina Joli. IS/b has a softer, more feminine or girly sexy vibe, like Marilyn Monroe. Both are great and you can choose the one that most closely matches your personality or go the other way and pick the one that is more unlike you to add that vibe to your personality. The could help you feel more sexy and attractive as well as make your husband see you in a new sexy light 🙂 If you feel like you guys could use a little help to improve communication, and make it more intimate I’d suggest **[Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/)**. IH is great in that it helps increase the _quality_ of communication. It’ll make you and the person you’re talking to feel more comfortable and it gives a sense of closeness to the conversation. It’s not the choice for quick chats though…IH tends to make conversations last longer too 🙂 If you tell us a bit more about yourself and your personality it’s easier for us to help point you in the right direction when choosing phero’s to try. Would you mind telling us a bit more about how you relate to others, if you’re shy, outgoing etc? ---
**Author:** ![AlexanderG](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alexanderg/32/891_2.png) [@AlexanderG](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/AlexanderG)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 2:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/29411/4 "2009-05-30T14:17:57Z")
Welcome Kat, where in Asia are you from? Xiphoids suggestions are very good. I also suggest you spend some time viewing the womens forum here. When you get time, have a read of [The Womens Guide](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/womens-pheromone-guide/4258)and let us know if you have any more questions. If you don’t mind, can you tell us more about what changes you would like to see from [pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) use? Also, what do you mean that you are “manipulating with people”? Thanks ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 11:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/29411/5 "2009-05-30T23:51:33Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk. 🙂 Hmm Mones wont make you love him if you don’t. Is there a reason you think you don’t love him. Not that he did something but like… Perhaps you thought what you were feeling was love when you were young and have now discovered it was more a infatuation. Or Things just seem sort of stall and less exciting then they were in the beginning. I am one who believes you really cant fall out of true love. That doesn’t mean you cant have other emotions though. There are people I love but don’t particularly like. Mones can help you socialize more and attract attention. They wont manipulate anyone they signal people and make them feel certain emotions and its the emotion they respond to. Now if they consciously choose to not respond to it they wont. They just give you a edge. Can you tell us more about your personality and how you interact with others ? Do you want mones to make you more attracted to your husband or him more attracted to you ? I look forward to your reply Tisha Hostess/Guide ---
**Author:** ![katlinxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5e925/32.png) [@katlinxx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/katlinxx)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 8:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/29411/6 "2009-05-31T08:23:52Z")
Thanks for replies. A few months ago I went on a study aborad ([Psychology & Self Help Forum - Uncommon Knowledge](http://www.uncommonforum.com/viewtopic.php?p=194898))trip and became close to another international student. We are both from different countries. He is not married and never has been. We fell in love at first sight. We instantly bonded and its like we were meant to be, minus the fact that I am married and we live in different parts of the world. We never had sex, only kissed. But we became very close emotionally. Even now that we are both back at home, we are keeping in touch with phone calls and email. He says he’ll wait for me until I decide if I will divorce my husband or not, and if not, we will remain friends. He’s been my best friend for months now, and I’ve never felt like this with anyone. My husband knows that I have not been in love with him since months before the study abroad. He wants to make things better in our relationship. I do not know if I want to make things work or not. I’ve never been one to support divorce, but at what point is it right to divorce? Should I stay with my husband even if I have no attraction to him? I still care for him dearly, but I am not in love with him. I graduate in May and will be able to move after if that’s what I decide. I didn’t expect the phermones to light up the love. I’ve always wondered if those work or not, I would just test them out of curiosity. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 10:40am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/29411/7 "2009-05-31T10:40:33Z")
Thank for providing more information 🙂 > [@](#): > > Should I stay with my husband even if I have no attraction to him? I still care for him dearly, but I am not in love with him. I graduate in May and will be able to move after if that’s what I decide. Your in a tough situation. Attraction is a important part of Love and mones can create attraction but not to the extent that you fall in love with someone you cant love. Marriage on the other hand is not just about attraction or Love its about Passion trust commitment compatibility and connection. Building a strong foundation together. This student you met when away was a new and exciting experience for you and sometimes that newness can be mistaken for love. You want to be sure your not mistaking just passion and excitement for love because at some point those things will calm just like with your hubby now and if you do not have the basic foundation to a good lasting relationship then you will end up in the same boat again.. I have seen it happen time and again. He says he will wait, my advice would be to give your marriage one last all out try and then if it doesn’t work out and you feel you cant find that connection or create some attraction for both of you, you know you did everything you could to save it but it wasn’t meant to be. I defiantly suggest some IH so that you can connect with how you feel as well as have a deep discussion with your hubby. [Instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/), Its hard to say B or A so get the one that matches your personality closest. A is strong confident independent sexy female and B is more soft sweet girly sexy female. You may want to consider getting him a bottle of ammo to help get your attention more. Just keep in mind while mones will arouse and can create passion in a relationship its the rest of foundation the two of you have built that you need to take careful consideration of. I been married a long time and I married young and its hard work. I do have passion for my husband but there are times when that ebbs and you have to work at keeping the passion alive. I cant say I have never been attracted to others or met someone who is exciting and different. I always look at that foundation. Its not our Passion alone that bonds us its our mutual respect, commitment and compatibility that does that. If you had the passion once with him that can be ignited again with a little work as long as your foundation is good. If its not then you need to consider building it or moving on. **Your GC is on its way** Tisha Hostess/Guide