# Hi :) **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [July 1, 2010, 5:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746 "2010-07-01T05:49:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![woshishui](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@woshishui](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woshishui)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 5:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746/1 "2010-07-01T05:49:31Z")
Hi I am new to here. I have used one kind of [pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/) called ArouseRX. I started to use it half a year ago when I started to go out with my bf. At that time I was stupidly thinking if I get him attracted in bed, then I get him for all… but I really didn’t know if that thing worked or not, and I don’t know how to find out if it works. But eventually I didn’t care for the effect anymore. I just put it on every morning and feeling confident for the rest of the day… feels like i got some kinda back up. lol. even though most of the time I think of that thing is just some vitamin E oil… 😃 … I guess feeling confident is what it brings to me… but of course it’d be better if it really does have effect! I know it’s not something if I just put it on and whoever I go near will just be attracted, i know it just stimulates what’s there… But how do you find out?? I am glad it makes me feel confident at least. ---
**Author:** ![woshishui](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@woshishui](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woshishui)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 6:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746/2 "2010-07-01T06:14:05Z")
am having a hard time with my boyfriend right now… We are both college students and working almost full time at the same time. I am very young and immature comparing to him. My age and personality makes me more of a college girl that just wants to have fun, which is really untrue… and his age made him more into serious and focus and settlement of life. Things have happened though out the past half a year and he lost trust and interest in me in almost all… misunderstandings and mis-communications I perhaps. Plus we are from very different countries and families and everything is just so different. both of us like to be the best of what we are doing and trying to dominate things.. ☹ I feel he is so offensive and defensive at the same time when we are together. It’s full of sarcasm and talking harsh to each other when we have a conversation, which is not very often anymore.. … I hate this… I found out that there are many different products on this website.. I need something to… perhaps help him to relax and calm down, trust me a little more, forget so many rules and standards of moral in life and be a little more… emotional or tender or sentimental? instead of being so rational and logical… so that we can have a better chance for a better communication. When it comes to sexual desire… I really don’t care about that anymore.. but if would help that’d be great too… I am around him all the time when we are not working or in class. I just want to have a good time with him, which we have had before. Feels better to say this out… Never told my problem to anyone, at all… haha. I am glad I found here. Great thanks for answers in advance.. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 6:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746/3 "2010-07-01T06:19:39Z")
Hi and welcome to the forum! Sorry to hear about your troubles with your bf. If he is being verbally or emotionally abusive, that may well be a red flag. In order to make some recommendations, would you mind sharing some info about your personality and what you hope to accomplish with [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/)? Are you more soft and feminine, or more of an outgoing alpha type? ---
**Author:** ![woshishui](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@woshishui](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woshishui)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 8:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746/4 "2010-07-01T08:03:58Z")
I guess I am the outgoing type, not feminine nor soft.. and I get agitated easily especially towards offensive words… I want something that can keep him interested in me and relaxed, and trust me so that we can have better communication. Not necessarily interested sexually but if it is then it’s good too. I just need him to be interested in any ways so at least we have a chance to start communicating. ---
**Author:** ![woshishui](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@woshishui](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woshishui)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 8:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746/5 "2010-07-01T08:17:55Z")
> [@Sillykitty](#): > > Hi and welcome to the forum! > > Sorry to hear about your troubles with your bf. If he is being verbally or emotionally abusive, that may well be a red flag. > > In order to make some recommendations, would you mind sharing some info about your personality and what you hope to accomplish with pheromones? Are you more soft and feminine, or more of an outgoing alpha type? I guess I am more of an outgoing person. I am neither soft nor feminine, in some cases my bf told me I try to be like a man too much. lol. I just want to get him interested and relaxed, trust me, and be a little emotional, so that we can have a better chance to communicate. Doesn’t necessarily has to have sexual effect but it does it’s ok too. I just need something to get him open up again so we can start even from zero.. ---
**Author:** ![Katalyst](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/katalyst/32/1415_2.png) [@Katalyst](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Katalyst)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 12:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746/6 "2010-07-01T12:40:15Z")
Hey, welcome to pherotalk Its important that you remember that communication and being open about how you feel with your bf is the best way to strengthen things. When you or him feel like they cant share how they feel and be understood, then things will lead to arguments and fights, and the ME vs. You attitude which you know does not feel right and you should be working together as ONE. I think you should look into trying some IH and IO and maybe even some Instant shine for uplifting mood. The instant honesty should help a lot with the communication and it has entrusting effects and the IO helps to have the communication flow better and with less anxiety. I think you really need to communicate this instead of yelling at each other, you know, sit down and have a civil talk about how things are going and how it is not how you want things to go. if both of you value the relationship enough, you will try to work through this and be understanding of each others needs rather than just shouting and being combative. If he gets worked up easy, try to remain calm and keep your voice low, being combative back will only make things worse, even if that may be hard for you since you want to apparently be manly and stick out your chest as well and butt-heads. Im not saying dont stand up for yourself, im just saying to be stern with your words rather than with your tone. Try this approach with the mones and try and get him to understand how you are feeling and try to get him to open up to how he is feeling and show that you both care to make the other happy and comfortable and work towards a brighter future because .. Love conquers all. ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 10:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746/7 "2010-07-01T22:29:59Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk Woo! It is always a good idea that when you get into a serious relationship with a guy you need to understand yourself and a bit about people and personalities. Now , their are persons who are born leaders and have a certain type personality and it seems that you and your b/f have the same type. It is a good idea to allow for him to lead once in a while as it helps build the man’s ego and assists in bed. He has to understand and appreciate you and your personality as well. Knowing that you have the areas where you can assist in the relationship and there is no shame in letting you take the lead role if it calls for it. Persons and thus relationships can be very complicated. I only know your side but it has happened where stress and strain has caused the relationship to become bitter and the partners hurtful. The definition of crazy is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result. Try something new like you started with pheromones and see if that works. A change of environment , something you think he might like and work your way up. It might be that the relationship is headed down disaster lane and it could be that it can be revived again. Instant honesty and CTTM 2 is good for intimacy and communication on a higher level. Use this product to get him to open up and to trust you again but you have to do your part. \*Shawn the appearance of evil…there might be a reason he thinks ur not trustworthy and that will be a good place to start unless he is paranoid and there is no help there. A relationship cannot survive and grow without trust unless u just boning. [Instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/)/B will give you a softer appeal and will attract him since he is an alpha male. Instant shine to lighten the mood and uplift both your spirits. Good luck and keep us updated in the women’s section. Your gc is on it’s way! ---
**Author:** ![woshishui](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@woshishui](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woshishui)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2010, 4:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746/8 "2010-07-02T04:53:55Z")
Thank you so much!! everyone has been so helpful here!!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Katalyst](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/katalyst/32/1415_2.png) [@Katalyst](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Katalyst)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2010, 11:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/39746/9 "2010-07-02T11:48:04Z")
Your welcome ! and best of luck in your testing ! Just a reminder to our new users: Please hit the button to select the best answer, that way credit will be given to the person who you think best answered your needs. And as an additional reminder hit that thanks button when you feel a a post deserved thanks because it helped you out in a special way, from here on out!