# Hi :) **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [March 29, 2014, 3:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/61538 "2014-03-29T15:46:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![calliesu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f17d59/32.png) [@calliesu](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/calliesu)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2014, 3:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/61538/1 "2014-03-29T15:46:12Z")
Hey yall! I’ve always been interested in [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/), ever since high school biology class (I’m 23 now). Well, for no particular reason, I was googling “pheromones” last night and came across this forum. Wow! So many posts to read, I love it. I didn’t go to bed until after 2 am, I just couldn’t stop reading! So, to give you a little background on myself…growing up, I was always pretty outgoing and had a lot of friends. However, as I got older, and by my later years in high school, my anxiety sort of took over my life. Once I got to college, I didn’t really branch out as much as I had wanted to. I had an awesome boyfriend (now my husband) and a small group of friends, but other than my bf, I wasn’t really “me” anymore bc I was just so stressed and anxious all the time (not necessarily social anxiety…I started having panic attacks over small things like exams, etc.), and it was more comfortable to just hang at home or in small groups. (I was a psych major, btw, so you can understand why I am fascinated with the effects of pheromones on human interaction!) Now, we have moved, and I’m self-employed, so I really don’t have many opportunities to meet people except through my husband. His friends are mostly chemistry Ph.D students, and some can be a bit condescending whenever they’re around. 1)So my first question is, in a social setting, what would you guys recommend for me? I do better in social situations when someone else is initiating questions, rather than me having to do most of the work, so I was thinking instant openness would help that on both fronts. I don’t really have much in common at all with these people (they usually talk about chemistry lol, even in purely social situations), but really want to make an effort for my husband so he’s not forced to choose between spending time with me OR his friends so much. I sort of feed off people’s attention…the more attention I get, the more I start to open up and want more haha. What do you suggest? I’m not expecting a miracle, but would like to make these interactions easier and smoother. 2)Also, I’m traveling in May to Canada, and am not really a fan of flying. What combos would yall suggest to make people more accommodating? For ex, make the flight attendants a little nicer, hotel staff a little more friendly, etc. I’m not sure if I want to try instant openness here, as I don’t want my ear talked off by strangers on the plane lol…maybe some instant shine? 3)Finally, my husband has been really buried at work the past month or so, and things won’t let up until about a month from now. I want to attempt to get some of his attention back on me for a weekend…I want him to be focused on me/us, turn things up a little bit, have some fun, 🙂. I also want to try to elicit a protective feeling from him. I did a lot of reading and still don’t really know the real difference between is/a and is/b, could someone with personal experience help me out here? And besides one of those which should I pair with it? I haven’t made my first purchase yet, so I’m hoping to get 2 or 3 to see what I like, so would love any input! And I’m sort of skeptical, but want to put it to the test. I know pheromones won’t do all the work, or magically change someone’s personality, but I want to use them to help guide interactions in the right direction. Thanks, I’m excited!! (Sorry my first post is so freaking long, I’m house sitting in the country with nothing to do!) ---
**Author:** ![monesmadedoit](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/monesmadedoit/32/325_2.png) [@monesmadedoit](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/monesmadedoit)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2014, 4:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/61538/2 "2014-03-30T16:26:21Z")
Hello! I would say your instincts regarding IO and Shine are correct. I think they will help with the social goals you seek. I hope that a female with personal experience using Sexiness will offer her feedback. For obvious reasons, I really haven’t felt the need to wear IS/A. I am familiar with TAL (the central effect in IS/A) and its effect upon women. This below is the thread I use most often. I think it fits, overall, the feedback regarding A vs. B. I don’t think kittenish vs. sexy is quite complete. Maybe a female can amplify the remarks a bit more. Tell us which of A or B is your preliminary fav. There’s not much about either A or B I haven’t read, nor about TAL and TAH. I have both of the latter. [Instant Sexiness A vs B dilemma! :S - PheroTalk Pheromone Research Forum](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-sexiness-a-vs-b-dilemma-s/44483) ---
**Author:** ![calliesu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f17d59/32.png) [@calliesu](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/calliesu)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2014, 8:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/61538/3 "2014-03-31T20:54:05Z")
Thanks! I think IS/B sounds more like “me”, just not sure…maybe I’ll get both and try them out. Speaking of trying things out, does anyone know how to get the $25 gc? I’d like to use it towards my first purchase 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![monesmadedoit](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/monesmadedoit/32/325_2.png) [@monesmadedoit](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/monesmadedoit)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2014, 9:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/61538/4 "2014-03-31T21:57:15Z")
Keep your eye on this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2014, 8:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hi/61538/5 "2014-04-04T20:53:38Z")
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