# Hiya, I'm curious to be here... **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [April 16, 2009, 1:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hiya-im-curious-to-be-here/28092 "2009-04-16T01:21:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![skittishsynapses](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7ba0ec/32.png) [@skittishsynapses](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/skittishsynapses)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2009, 1:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hiya-im-curious-to-be-here/28092/1 "2009-04-16T01:21:34Z")
I’m a 24 year old male out of Los Angeles, CA. I received a BA in literature and education, but found working with large numbers of kids rather intimidating. I ended up switching to my love of photographer, and am currently trying to become a professional photographer. I’m rather timid by nature, so I’m hoping using some combination of [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) might help with my confidence and wallflower issues. I’m very curious to test out some of these products and see where things take me. I’m curious as to what results other maladapt at socializing have had since using these products? how has it changed your lives? Did using pheromones have an immediate affect on your personalities? ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Feel\_Good](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mr.feel_good/32/1148_2.png) [@Mr.Feel\_Good](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Feel_Good)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2009, 1:27am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hiya-im-curious-to-be-here/28092/2 "2009-04-16T01:27:01Z")
Heya Skittish, welcome to the forums! I wouldn’t really classify myself as being maladept at socializing, but i’ve definitely had issues with being shy and having a hard time with “cold approaching” people. They’ve helped me a lot, actually, making it easier to feel good about talking to people and making them more eager to talk back to me. So yeah, i’d give it a go. Especially when you get $25 off. 😃 You’re still gonna need to get off that wall and approach someone though, just warning ya. They won’t do the work for you, just make it easier. For you i would recommend [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) and Instant Shine. Instant Openness gives off a chatty vibe that, well… makes people more chatty. It helps you break the ice and from my own experience, gives YOU more of a chatty feeling, making you want to go talk to people more as well. Very good for the club scene, in my opinion. Instant shine gives off a “feel good” kinda vibe (pun intended) that makes the people around you more positive and energetic. It also gives most people a confidence boost for a self-effect. Could help you out there as well. But that’s just my two cents. Others will be along shortly to give theirs. 🆒 Hope you have fun trying phero’s out and make sure to come back and report! Cheers! ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2009, 1:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hiya-im-curious-to-be-here/28092/3 "2009-04-16T01:28:52Z")
Hello and welcome to the forum. The pheros do not have a real affect on your personality. some do have some self-effects but they do not really change who you are. What they do is amplify who you are. Nor will pheros do the work for you. They are not a magic potion that will make women fall in love with you or anything like that. What they do is send a suggestion. But it will always be up to you to make people act on that suggestion. Ishine can amke the people around you feel happy to be near you and may even have some self-effects. But if you frown and do not talk to anyone they will ignore the message from the Ishine and flee. The same goes for IO. It sends the message that people should talk to you. As long as you are friendly and talk to them also. So both of those would be a good place to start. Another great product would be [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/). It will give you a cool, smooth vibe and can make you seem a little older (and perhaps experienced) than you really are which might be a help in your field. Let us know what you think. ---
**Author:** ![LucidDreamer](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/luciddreamer/32/2141_2.png) [@LucidDreamer](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LucidDreamer)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2009, 3:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hiya-im-curious-to-be-here/28092/4 "2009-04-16T03:52:56Z")
Hello and welcome to the forum. For the confidence, I’d also recommend [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/). Maybe add some “Come Talk to Me” to set up instances where you can “shine” 😃 Here’s a good guide for information: [Basic Noob Phero Bootcamp](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/basic-noob-phero-bootcamp/2159) ---
**Author:** ![AlexanderG](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alexanderg/32/891_2.png) [@AlexanderG](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/AlexanderG)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2009, 5:16am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hiya-im-curious-to-be-here/28092/5 "2009-04-16T05:16:30Z")
Hi skit, sounds like you need to relax a little. We’re not supposed to recommend advanced products to new users, but in your case I suggest you try Spaceland pheromones - they will help you to losen up and not be such a wallflower. For your condition I also suggest trying the natural herb kava kava and other anti anxiety herbs. Also read self esteem boosting books and perhaps even try something like the mystery method program. Good luck and let us know how you go 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2009, 7:55am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hiya-im-curious-to-be-here/28092/6 "2009-04-16T07:55:29Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 Well mones can help your personality in some ways but they wont bring about a real change in it. Only yiu can do that. They make it easier for you to bring about that change though. Your shy and most shy people do best when others are more outgoing around them until they can establish a comfort zone. What the mones do is increase interaction with others by influencing them to interact more, ultimately helping you with your shyness and confidence. Mones do tend to boost your own feelings confidence as well because they give you a feeling of well being. So while they wont change you they will aid you in making changes. I suggest IO Ishine ans IH to start. With your GC is can get to of the smaller to-go bottles free to test out the products and see what you think. Of course you need to play around with the dosage to find the amount that works for you best. **Your GC is on its way** 😉 I hope to see you participating in the forum. Its time to break out of the timid mold and interaction here will help with that as well. Dont worry were a great bunch and there are a lot of shy timid people here Tisha Hostess/Guide