# Hoping you can help **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [January 27, 2007, 8:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793 "2007-01-27T20:10:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![TickingBY](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tickingby/32/2144_2.png) [@TickingBY](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TickingBY)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2007, 7:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793/21 "2007-02-02T19:28:03Z")
Some great advice there 🙂 It is hard to change who I am, but I can do nothing but try…just hoping the pheromones will give me the and the people around me the spark. Hehe ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2007, 7:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793/22 "2007-02-02T19:30:09Z")
_sigh_ you dont ever have to change who you are. your already _everything._ _your confidence is in there, just quit repressing it._ ---
**Author:** ![TickingBY](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tickingby/32/2144_2.png) [@TickingBY](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TickingBY)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2007, 7:34pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793/23 "2007-02-02T19:34:39Z")
It’s hard to just click my fingers and become instantly confident. How can I release the inner confidence? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![saraunne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/saraunne/32/193_2.png) [@saraunne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/saraunne)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2007, 7:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793/24 "2007-02-02T19:39:43Z")
Believe me, I know. I’ve done the whole changing thing, always backfired. And it’s NEVER ever ever about changing yourself. It’s about finding the qualities you like and enhancing them, and finding the things you don’t like about yourself and working on those, and not just physical. And no, confidence is never instantaneous - 😠 . I wish! ---
**Author:** ![nbully79](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c68b51/32.png) [@nbully79](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/nbully79)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2007, 7:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793/25 "2007-02-02T19:52:29Z")
> [@TickingBY](#): > > It’s hard to just click my fingers and become instantly confident. How can I release the inner confidence? 🙂 Use [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) with A314. I know I know the boosts are just temporary, unless you have real success, knowledge and experience to back it up. But, while you are working on improving yourself it’s great to see people appreciating you more along the way. Small incidents of respect and deference add up and provide little boosts which can keep you in the right frame of mind and keep propelling you in the right direction. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![TickingBY](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tickingby/32/2144_2.png) [@TickingBY](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TickingBY)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2007, 7:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793/26 "2007-02-05T19:51:01Z")
🙂 ITS MY BIRTHDAY !!! hehe Can’t wait for my pheromones !!! Waiting is soo difficult when I am so excited 😛 ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2007, 8:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793/27 "2007-02-05T20:02:49Z")
You can never change who you are, but you can change how you think about yourself. Try affirmations they helped me tremendously. [Look into Mind OS from Dr. Paul](http://www.doctorpaul.net/). Amazing stuff that really helped me. Good luck and let me know if I can be of any assistance. I had a horrible self-picture of myself (I weighed close to 300 lbs) and always thought: “If I could only change who I am.” That wasn’t the answer. My answer came after I realized I was the artist and all I did was repaint the picture of what I looked like, while keeping all the good stuff that I liked. Change the picture and the world changes around you. Every one of us has gold inside, it’s just a matter of how we use that gold that makes us who we are. ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2007, 8:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793/28 "2007-02-05T20:06:43Z")
OH yeah, and **HAPPY BIRTHDAY** ---
**Author:** ![TickingBY](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tickingby/32/2144_2.png) [@TickingBY](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TickingBY)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2007, 11:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793/29 "2007-02-05T23:10:26Z")
Cheers! I only have 1hr left of it being my 18th birthday lol [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hoping-you-can-help/1793.md?page=1)