# how to do it right her first time **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [August 5, 2010, 3:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584 "2010-08-05T15:36:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![theKorean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/90db22/32.png) [@theKorean](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/theKorean)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2010, 3:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/1 "2010-08-05T15:36:54Z")
my girlfriend is a virgin. she has told me she wants to have sex with me. awesome, right? but she’s scared. she knows it’ll hurt like a b\*\*\*\* 😛 how do i do the deed right? do it fast and get it over with, or do it nice and slow to reduce pain? or will the pain not be as bad as she thinks? this is her first, and it should be the best, or at least as good as i can do for her. i know the next time will be good cuz i know how to deal with making a non-virgin scream 😉 ---
**Author:** ![MrCowbell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f08c70/32.png) [@MrCowbell](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MrCowbell)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2010, 7:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/2 "2010-08-05T19:50:33Z")
> [@theKorean](#): > > my girlfriend is a virgin. she has told me she wants to have sex with me. awesome, right? but she’s scared. she knows it’ll hurt like a b\*\*\*\* 😛 > > how do i do the deed right? do it fast and get it over with, or do it nice and slow to reduce pain? or will the pain not be as bad as she thinks? > > this is her first, and it should be the best, or at least as good as i can do for her. i know the next time will be good cuz i know how to deal with making a non-virgin scream 😉 I was in your shoes a couple times (many many years ago). You have to go slow and gentle. Don’t put it all the way in the first time or it will hurt her too much, and use a lot of lube. The second time your with her after her cherry is gone, then you can be a little more aggressive and less gentle. I think she should know that the first time is rarely the best time for a woman. The second and third time will be much better for her. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 2:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/3 "2010-08-09T14:49:25Z")
> [@](#): > > she knows it’ll hurt like a b\*\*\*\* Good Goddess, its not as bad as all that LOL Its kinda like stubbing your toe. Quick nauseating pain gone in a few seconds. She may not even have a hymn to worry about. 80% of girls dont now because they use tampons. Some girls just have partial ones because women are more physically active these days then in the olden days. The most important thing is to be sure she is wet (use extra lube if possible especially if your using a condom) and make sure she is relaxed. If she is all nervous she will tighten up her muscles and this can cause pain. Oh dont use just any lube either. Get some ky jelly which wont corrode the condom. If there is a hymn its best to break it fast. (I do not mean have sex fast) I am talking about the actual moment of breaking it. Once your get past the breaking point stop and just sit there for a minute so she can adjust to your size. You will no when to start moving because she will fidget in most cases. You should go slow and less aggressive the first time but take your cues from her. Pay attention to her body language. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 2:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/4 "2010-08-09T14:54:30Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > The most important thing is to be sure she is wet (use extra lube if possible especially if your using a condom) Use a condom lol ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 2:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/5 "2010-08-09T14:57:34Z")
> [@P51Mustang](#): > > Use a condom lol Whats funny about using a condom 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Sidewinderx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Sidewinderx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sidewinderx)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 3:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/6 "2010-08-09T15:02:03Z")
I think he ment " Put on the party hat" 😉 ---
**Author:** ![England](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/england/32/1163_2.png) [@England](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/England)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 4:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/7 "2010-08-09T16:52:45Z")
I think he means that using protection is a given so “if” should be out of the question. Perhaps this is lounge material? 🙄 ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 5:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/8 "2010-08-09T17:41:06Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > Whats funny about using a condom 😕 Crap, you know what I meant, damnit. ---
**Author:** ![tacitus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/6a8cbe/32.png) [@tacitus](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tacitus)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 8:04pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/9 "2010-08-09T20:04:10Z")
Ummmm… if I rightly remember those ancient days when women were virgins… back when they were building the pyramids… it was a good thing to make sure one’s fingernails were clipped very short and buffed smooth and one’s hands were washed squeaky clean with no soap residue whatsoever… a little silicone lube might help… and spend a _long time gently_ loosening her up with one, maybe two fingers (remember: you are not mining for iron ore)… I would definitely suggest spritzing the air in the room with a lot of [P74](https://pheromonelabs.com/product/p74/) if you have it handy… alpha-nol would be absolutely primo in these circumstances… rrrrrrromantic… schveeeet… tender… _would avoid any alcohol._… makes it clumsy and dull… and if you have time invest in an illustrated book of sensuous massage… a good oily massage is catnip for hot girls… did I tell you about the colored lightbulb trick ? No ? OK… remove any nasty white, or worse, fluorescent spiral tube lamps, and replace with an orange incandescent bulb of low wattage, enough to see, not enough to be bright… think fashion photography, _lighting is everything_… don’t look like plates of roquefort cheese in blue green tinged fluorescent, icky, not romantic… if you can get away with it and not create a fire hazard, three or four long burning candles even better… do be careful not to burn down the house…😃 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 8:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/10 "2010-08-09T20:45:46Z")
> [@](#): > > Crap, you know what I meant, damnit. To tell you the truth I dont. 😛 > [@](#): > > Ummmm… if I rightly remember those ancient days when women were virgins… back when they were building the pyramids… it was a good thing to make sure one’s fingernails were clipped very short and buffed smooth and one’s hands were washed squeaky clean with no soap residue whatsoever… a little silicone lube might help. Come on now your not that old LOL That is a important requirement even with women who are not virgins. 😉 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 8:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/11 "2010-08-09T20:55:18Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > To tell you the truth I dont. 😛 I mean it as, he should be wearing protection the first time regardless anyway, the lol was just for the lighthearted effects I wanted to convey, I didn’t want to seem like I was attacking your statement that you said if. That’s all, lol. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2010, 9:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/12 "2010-08-09T21:18:39Z")
> [@P51Mustang](#): > > I mean it as, he should be wearing protection the first time regardless anyway, the lol was just for the lighthearted effects I wanted to convey, I didn’t want to seem like I was attacking your statement that you said if. That’s all, lol. Oh LOL Ok… I thought I was missing a joke or something. 😛 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![theKorean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/90db22/32.png) [@theKorean](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/theKorean)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2010, 6:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/13 "2010-09-13T18:44:13Z")
so… do i mix the two responses? go nice and slow not all the way at first, but once i get to it, break it fast and sit for a sec, then keep it going slow? when do i stop? until i cum or should i not even go that long for her first time? until she cums? her first bf fingered her and she didn’t like it too much “cuz it kind of hurt.” how do you finger a virgin i guess? haha i’m really sorry guys, i guess i’m not to bright and need things spelled out 😛 ---
**Author:** ![rolandcubed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b782af/32.png) [@rolandcubed](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/rolandcubed)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2010, 6:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/14 "2010-09-13T18:50:25Z")
Taking someone’s vcard is always awkward. They have no idea what they’re doing. If this were my situation (i’ve never been with a virgin so forgive me.) I would just try to find something that turns them on and make sure they’re turned on and ready. Might not work so well with a virgin but works on everyone else haha. ---
**Author:** ![Jabez](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jabez/32/2193_2.png) [@Jabez](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Jabez)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2010, 9:13pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-do-it-right-her-first-time/40584/15 "2010-09-13T21:13:07Z")
Do oral on her and spell out the alphabet with your tongue. Some girls love it some don’t try and see what happens.