# How to Tell a Woman is Interested In You -- The Master "Indicators of Interest List" **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [January 15, 2008, 11:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333 "2008-01-15T23:07:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![bighead1221](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e8c25b/32.png) [@bighead1221](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bighead1221)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2008, 7:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/21 "2008-01-16T19:55:20Z")
What about when your friends who are girls play with your hair and smelling it when you’re around them??? ( I do spray some of my products on it sometimes though…) ---
**Author:** ![tho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9de053/32.png) [@tho](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tho)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2008, 7:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/22 "2008-01-16T19:58:00Z")
How do you tell if a girl is attracted when: half of the sexy snobbish girls in my entourage know this _“How to Tell a Women is Interested In You”_ list making them hide their reactions to cover how they really feel about you thinking they will get better males? I have talked to many, many males, friends, guys, studs, muscle monsters, soft guys, basically, it all comes down to girls being snobbish in my region and refusing almost all of male offers, hiding their emotions and indicators of interest. It’s so amazing how: the moment i leave my territory and go into any other city, girls are just so amazing and nice, cute and cuddly and just really want to know you, test you and easily accept you after a few hours, hoping to see you again the next day. Girls in my city expect to get some sort of perfect male, even I don’t cut it. It’s amazing considering I’m some sort of guy that is perhaps the most knowledgeable and wisdom rich male in my region, living extreme health from a 100% pure raw (no food is denatured by heat, cooking, pasteurization or any modifications) organic vegan diet making me super mentally quick, very good looking and well proportioned, a guy that speak with a rich vocabulary in all languages and hangs around with the 5 most successful males in a whole province of 7 million people, what the hell is going wrong! Funny to think about that well know correlation’s with hight, head size and intelligence. Basically, I walk around with 5 guys measuring at least 6 foot who actually took part in the resent national assembly, are extreme over achievers. Basically, we have a circle of friends of very large size and we all conclude that little males are fucking or loving (excuse my language) in the 17-21 age group. With confusion, i honestly say that attracting these girls is actually more detrimental to my success with females due to female’s covering up of indicators of interest (what Jasmin was talking about in the start of this thread) thinking they can get better. Me talking to a girls senses: well excuse me little materialist lady, billionaires don’t exist unless you drive down to Montréal or Toronto, well good luck with the guard dogs. (Knowing well the importance of hiding my money because the cash is flowing in the Thomas Lavoie family.) ---
**Author:** ![00greena](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/00greena/32/2065_2.png) [@00greena](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/00greena)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2008, 8:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/23 "2008-01-16T20:14:47Z")
Try changing what you think of these women. know that they cant keep up a barrier all the time. use some seduction techniques like raising the eyebrow and the wink technique to throw the girls of thier guard. dont be put of by thier cold fronts. you should have the extra edge with pheros. that should put them in a mood where they want to show guys intrest. act quickly and dont hesitate. make sure your posture and everything about you is 100% sounds to me like these girls are on the prowl and very alert in lookin for signs that a guy is up to thier standards. ---
**Author:** ![Quicksilver](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/quicksilver/32/1328_2.png) [@Quicksilver](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Quicksilver)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2008, 10:04pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/24 "2008-01-16T22:04:08Z")
> [@Jasmin](#): > > That’s a good start, but there’s plenty more. > > What’d I miss? What can be explained better? Let’s make this exhaustive & awesome! Add to the list here, then when the list gets long enough, I’ll hire a writer to put it all together and clean it up. [https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-you-hear-sex/412/12](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-you-hear-sex/412/12) more of your gems, Jasmin… actually, you were quoting Dancing\_Joker **the _UNAUTHORIZED_, ULTRA COMPREHENSIVE, _STOLEN VERBATIM FROM PERSONAL EMAIL_ [IOI](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-you-hear-sex/412#) CHECKLIST**! - **Yawning** : sudden yawning as if tired or very relaxed, and then resume the other signs of arousal - **Tongue & Lip Action** : Lots of extending tongues and licking lips, especially as after initial exposure (in as little as 5 seconds) - **Biting Lips:** Curling lips inward and tightly due to intense feelings - **Hair Flipping, Brushing, and Tossing:** Spontaneous and wild brushing and flipping of the hair - **Crossing Legs:** Frequent crossing and uncrossing of legs back and forth - **Opened Legs:** Sitting with legs wide open or leaning far forward on the seat - **Squeezed Legs:** Bringing the legs together suddenly and squeezing them shut - **Offset Butts:** Butts shifted excessively to one side of the seat - \*\*Leg Twitching: \*\*Legs and hips/butt twitching suddenly - \*\*Body Twitching: \*\*Body flinches and twitches suddenly (jolts of intense sensations) - \*\*Head Rolling: \*\*Head leaning far back and eyes closed, as if in a sexually intense, relaxed position - \*\*Body Stretching: \*\*Extending the whole body out and stretching - **Skin Flush:** The face, chest or skin become flushed and very red (blushing to outright lobster red) - **Sighing & Deep Breathing:** Heavy breathing as if overwhelmed by intense sensations - **Fluttering Eyes:** Eyes roll back and/or flutter wildly - **Fiddling:** Playing with jewelry or clothing or fiddling their fingers nonstop to distract attention - **Bags on Laps:** Use of bags to cover stirring sensations and reactions in the crotch area - \*\*Make Up: \*\*Suddenly feels the need to put on make up or perfume - **Flexing the Body:** Double handed grabbing of or leaning back from poles in flagrant ways - \*\*Busy Legs: \*\*Rocking back and forth, changing leg stances nonstop, hopping back & forth on legs - **Nervous Legs:** Rocking crossed legs while sitting, standing on toes, shaking up and down - \*\*Supressed Smiles & Grins: \*\*Trying to shyly conceal arousal with a suppressed grin 🙂 - **Running Away:** Several subjects have gotten up from seats or walked away after too much excitement and arousal was built up! - **Thermogenesis** : The subject generates a lot of heat from excitement, and starts removing or loosening layers of clothing to compensate - **Looking Up & Behind:** Really bizarre reaction - women will look up and behind them, as if someone was talking to them from there - \*\*The Blank Stare: \*\*Becoming subdued and quiet suddenly, looking down or forward - **Talking to Oneself:** This is when the subject starts talking to herself as if in disbelief that she is getting so horny 😉 - **Burning the VNO:** This is probably one of the most unusual effects - Some subjects will exhibit a suddenly burning or rushing sensation in part of their nose, yet it has nothing to do with smell. They react suddenly for a few seconds, and then everything is normal again except for the building arousal of course … I think it’s somehow affecting some part of the nose that’s sensitive to [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/). Hope that helps you guys out! 🙂😉 ---
**Author:** ![tweach1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/779978/32.png) [@tweach1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tweach1)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2008, 12:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/25 "2008-01-17T00:56:44Z")
> [@Jasmin](#): > > **Showing flesh**. Lifting up our dress to show you or legs or down to show you our butts. Yoinking on our collars, open our blouses a little. We often do this stuff even more covertly than we cover skin, so you really have to develop the skill to see this. Also, be aware that sometimes what looks like covering skin is actually showing OTHER skin. Keep that in mind. Look for the actual motive. When we cover our skin, we strive to cover all our skin instead covering up some by revealing other skin. I wish girls did that too me, I mean, some of these I have heard, but this one, well, wow. I mean, do you gals really do that? If so i’ll keep my eyes open… very open. Maybe a bit too open… ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2008, 1:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/26 "2008-01-17T01:00:14Z")
> [@](#): > > Wait till you find out what we do with Preperation H LOL Guys use it too–and not on ass–but under the eyes. Makes you look less tired and younger for photo shoots and TV interviews. Stage actors and musicians use it for live shows as well, especially after doing drugs 'n alcohol all night. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2008, 1:07am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/27 "2008-01-17T01:07:12Z")
Bingo! Works like a charm 😉 Just dont get it in your eye. Guess what strawberries can do 😃 ---
**Author:** ![itwow](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/itwow/32/1493_2.png) [@itwow](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/itwow)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2008, 4:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/28 "2008-01-17T04:35:40Z")
Very enlightening guide, highly suggested reading. Covers body language + poise + voice intonation. Flirt away! Source : [http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html](http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html) Download PDF [here](http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.pdf) **SOCIAL ISSUES RESEARCH CENTRE** **What Social Science can tell you about flirting and how to do it** **Why do we flirt?** Flirting is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction. Anthropological research shows that flirting is to be found, in some form, in all cultures and societies around the world. Flirting is a basic instinct, part of human nature. This is not surprising: if we did not initiate contact and express interest in members of the opposite sex, we would not progress to reproduction, and the human species would become extinct. According to some evolutionary psychologists, flirting may even be the foundation of civilisation as we know it. They argue that the large human brain - our superior intelligence, complex language, everything that distinguishes us from animals - is the equivalent of the peacock’s tail: a courtship device evolved to attract and retain sexual partners. Our achievements in everything from art to rocket science may be merely a side-effect of the essential ability to charm. **If flirting is instinctive, why do we need this Guide?** Like every other human activity, flirting is governed by a complex set of unwritten laws of etiquette. These rules dictate where, when, with whom and in what manner we flirt. We generally obey these unofficial laws instinctively, without being conscious of doing so. We only become aware of the rules when someone commits a breach of this etiquette - by flirting with the wrong person, perhaps, or at an inappropriate time or place. Chatting up a widow at her husband’s funeral, for example, would at the very least incur disapproval, if not serious distress or anger. This is a very obvious example, but the more complex and subtle aspects of flirting etiquette can be confusing - and most of us have made a few embarrassing mistakes. Research shows that men find it particularly difficult to interpret the more subtle cues in women’s body-language, and tend to mistake friendliness for sexual interest. Another problem is that in some rather Puritanical cultures, such as Britain and North America, flirting has acquired a bad name. Some of us have become so worried about causing offence or sending the wrong signals that we are in danger of losing our natural talent for playful, harmless flirtation. So, to save the human race from extinction, and preserve the foundations of civilisation, Martini commissioned Kate Fox at the Social Issues Research Centre to review and analyse all the scientific research material on interaction between the sexes, and produce a definitive guide to the art and etiquette of enjoyable flirting. Psychologists and social scientists have spent many years studying every detail of social intercourse between men and women. Until now, their fascinating findings have been buried in obscure academic journals and heavy tomes full of jargon and footnotes. This Guide is the first to reveal this important information to a popular audience, providing expert advice on where to flirt, who to flirt with and how to do it. **Where to flirt** **Parties** Flirting is most socially acceptable at parties, celebrations and social occasions/functions. At some such events (e.g. Christmas/New Year parties) a degree of flirtatious behaviour is not only socially sanctioned, but almost expected. This is because most parties, celebrations, carnivals and festivals are governed by a special code of behaviour which anthropologists call ‘cultural remission’ - a temporary, structured relaxation of normal social controls and restrictions. This might just sound like a fancy way of saying ‘letting your hair down’, but it isn’t. ‘Cultural remission’ does not mean abandoning all your inhibitions, letting rip and behaving exactly as you please. There are rules of behaviour at even the wildest carnival - although they may involve a complete reversal of normal, everyday social etiquette. Flirtatious behaviour which is normally frowned upon may be actively required, and prissy refusal to participate may incur disapproval. **Drinking-places** Flirting is also socially acceptable in some public settings, usually where alcohol is served - such as bars, pubs, night-clubs, discos, wine bars, restaurants, etc. One survey showed that 27% of British couples first met their current partner in a pub, and alcohol was voted the most effective aid to flirting by respondents in the Martini Flirting Survey. Flirting in drinking-places is, however, subject to more conditions and restrictions than at parties. In pubs, for example, the area around the bar counter is universally understood to be the ‘public zone’, where initiating conversation with a stranger is acceptable, whereas sitting at a table usually indicates a greater desire for privacy. Tables furthest from the bar counter are the most ‘private’ zones. As a rule-of-thumb, the more food-oriented establishments or ‘zones’ tend to discourage flirting between strangers, while those dedicated to drinking or dancing offer more socially sanctioned flirting opportunities. Restaurants and food-oriented or ‘private’ zones within drinking-places are more conducive to flirting between established partners. **Learning-places** Schools, colleges, universities and other educational establishments are hot-beds of flirting. This is largely because they are full of young single people making their first attempts at mate selection. Learning-places are also particularly conducive to flirting because the shared lifestyle and concerns of students, and the informal atmosphere, make it easy for them to initiate conversation with each other. Simply by being students, flirting partners automatically have a great deal in common, and do not need to struggle to find topics of mutual interest. Flirting is officially somewhat more restricted in learning-places than in drinking-places, as education is supposed to take priority over purely social concerns, but in many cases the difference is not very noticeable. Taking a course or evening class may in fact provide more opportunities for relaxed, enjoyable flirting than frequenting bars and night-clubs. **Workplace** At work, flirting is usually acceptable only in certain areas, with certain people and at specific times or occasions. There are no universal laws: each workplace or working environment has its own unwritten etiquette governing flirtatious behaviour. In some companies, the coffee machine or cafeteria may be the unofficial ‘designated flirting zones’, other companies may frown on any flirting during office hours, or between managers and staff, while some may have a long-standing tradition of jokingly flirtatious morning greetings. Careful observation of colleagues is the best way to discover the unspoken flirting etiquette of your own workplace - but make sure that you are guided by the behaviour of the most highly regarded individuals in the company, not the office ‘clown’, ‘groper’ or ‘bimbo’. **Participant sports/hobbies** Almost any participant sport or hobby can involve flirting. The level of flirtatious behaviour, however, often tends to be inversely related to the standards achieved by participants and their enthusiasm for the activity. You will generally find a lot of flirting among incompetent tennis players, unfit swimmers, cack-handed potters, etc., but somewhat less among more proficient, serious, competitive participants in the same activities. There are of course exceptions to this rule, but before joining a team or club, it is worth trying to find out if the members have burning ambitions to play in the national championships or win prestigious awards for their handiwork. If you are mainly looking for flirting opportunities, avoid these high-flying groups, and seek out clubs full of happy, sociable under-achievers. **Spectator events** Although they have the advantage of providing conversation topics of mutual interest, most sporting events and other spectator pastimes such as theatre or cinema are not particularly conducive to flirting, as social interaction is not the primary purpose of the occasion, and social contact may limited to a short interval or require ‘missing the action’. The most striking exception to this rule is horseracing, where all the ‘action’ takes place in just a few minutes, the half-hour interval between races is dedicated to sociability, and friendly interaction between strangers is actively encouraged by racecourse etiquette. In fact, our own recent research on the behaviour of racegoers indicates that the ‘social micro-climate’ of the racecourse makes it one of the best flirting environments in Britain. **Who to flirt with** **‘Flirting for fun’** At one level, you can flirt with more or less anyone. An exchange of admiring glances or a bit of light-hearted flirtatious banter can brighten the day, raise self-esteem and strengthen social bonds. Flirtation at this level is harmless fun, and only the stuffiest killjoys could possibly have any objections. Clearly, it makes sense to exercise a degree of caution with people who are married or attached. Most people in long-term relationships can cope with a bit of admiration, and may even benefit from knowing that others find them or their partners attractive, but couples differ in their tolerance of flirtatious behaviour, and it is important to be alert to signs of discomfort or distress. Research has also shown that men have a tendency to mistake friendly behaviour for sexual flirting. This is not because they are stupid or deluded, but because they tend to see the world in more sexual terms than women. There is also evidence to suggest that women are naturally more socially skilled than men, better at interpreting people’s behaviour and responding appropriately. Indeed, scientists have recently claimed that women have a special ‘diplomacy gene’ which men lack. This means that women need to be particularly careful to avoid sending ambiguous signals in interactions with married men, and men need to be aware that married/attached males may misinterpret friendly behaviour towards their wives/girlfriends. Otherwise, light-hearted flirtation is both harmless and enjoyable. **‘Flirting with intent’** But flirting is also an essential element of the mate-selection process, and when you are ‘flirting with intent’, rather than just ‘flirting for fun’, you need to be a bit more selective about your choice of target. In mate-selection flirting, there are two basic rules about who to flirt with that will increase your chances of success and reduce the likelihood of embarrassing rejections. **1. Do initiate flirtation with people of roughly the same level of attractiveness as yourself?** This will give you the best chance of compatability. Most successful marriages and long-term relationships are between partners of more or less equal good looks. There is some leeway, of course, and other qualities are also important, but statistically, relationships where one partner is much more attractive than the other tend to be less successful. Studies have shown that the more evenly matched partners are in their attractiveness, the more likely they are to stay together. But evaluating your own attractiveness may be difficult. Research has shown that many women have a poor body-image, and often underestimate their attractiveness. Some recent studies indicate, for example, that up to 80% of adult women believe that they are too fat, and try to achieve a figure that is around two sizes smaller than the body-size men find most desirable. If you are female, the odds are that you are more attractive than you think, so try flirting with some better-looking men. Men generally tend to be less critical of their own physical appearance than women. This is partly because standards of beauty for males are much less rigid than for females, and a wider variety of shapes and features are considered attractive. But it must be said that some men are also inclined to overestimate their attractiveness. If you are a more honest male, and do not consider yourself good-looking, remember that most men lack expertise in the subtleties of social interaction, so polishing up your flirting skills could give you the edge over a more attractive rival. **2. Don’t flirt with people who are unlikely to return your interest.** Even if you are not looking for a long-term mate, you will enjoy flirting more with someone who is interested in you. So it makes sense to approach people who are likely to see you as at least a possible partner, rather than those likely to dismiss you as unsuitable. Evolution has favoured males who select young, attractive mates and females who select partners with power, wealth and status. Men therefore naturally tend to seek women who are younger than them and place greater emphasis on physical beauty, while women are more likely to favour older males with higher status and earning potential. Women also tend to prefer men who are taller than them. Analysis of thousands of personal ads - where people are more explicit about their requirements, and more obviously conscious of the requirements of others - shows that these are the qualities most frequently demanded and offered by mate-seekers. Short, low-status males and older, less attractive females may therefore be a bit more restricted in their choice of potential partners, although there are many exceptions to this rule, and confidence and charm can outweigh apparent disadvantages. In the How to Flirt section, you will find tips on how to tell immediately, even from across a crowded room, whether someone is likely to return your interest or not. **How to flirt** The first key to successful flirting is not an ability to show off and impress, but the knack of conveying that you like someone. If your ‘target’ knows that you find him or her interesting and attractive, he or she will be more inclined to like you. Although this simple fact has been demonstrated in countless studies and experiments, you don’t really need scientists to prove it. You already know that when you are told someone fancies you, or hear that someone has praised or admired you, your interest in that person automatically increases - even if it is someone you have never met! Conveying that you like someone, and judging whether or not the attraction is mutual, clearly involves a combination of verbal and non-verbal communication skills. When asked about flirting, most people - particularly men - focus on the verbal element: the ‘chatting-up’, the problems of knowing what to say, finding the right words, etc. In fact, the non-verbal element - body-language, tone of voice, etc. - is much more important, particularly in the initial stages of a flirtation. When you first meet new people, their initial impression of you will be based 55% on your appearance and body-language, 38% on your style of speaking and only 7% on what you actually say. Also, their non-verbal signals will tell you much more about their feelings towards you than the words they use. We show attitudes such as liking and disliking not by what we say but by the way we say it and the posture, gestures and expressions that accompany our speech. The customary polite greeting “pleased to meet you”, for example, can convey anything from ‘I find you really attractive’ to ‘I am not the slightest bit interested in you’, depending on the tone of voice, facial expression, position and posture of the speaker. **Non-verbal flirting** When a man and a woman meet for the first time, both are in a difficult, ambiguous and potentially risky situation. Neither person knows what the other’s intentions and feelings are. Because stating intentions and feelings verbally involves a high risk of embarrassment or possible rejection, non-verbal behaviour becomes the main channel of communication. Unlike the spoken word, body language can signal invitation, acceptance or refusal without being too obvious, without causing offence or making binding commitments. Warning: some of the non-verbal flirting techniques outlined in this section are very powerful signals, and should be used with caution. Women should be particularly careful when using signals of interest and attraction. Men already tend to mistake friendliness for flirting; if your signals of interest are too direct and obvious, they will mistake them for sexual availability. **Eye contact** Your eyes are probably your most important flirting tool. We tend to think of our eyes mainly as a means of receiving information, but they are also extremely high-powered transmitters of vital social signals. How you look at another person, meet his or her gaze and look away can make all the difference between a successful, enjoyable flirtation and an embarrassing or hurtful encounter. Eye contact - looking directly into the eyes of another person - is such a powerful, emotionally loaded act of communication that we normally restrict it to very brief glances. Prolonged eye contact between two people indicates intense emotion, and is either an act of love or an act of hostility. It is so disturbing that in normal social encounters, we avoid eye contacts of more than one second. Among a crowd of strangers in a public setting, eye contacts will generally last only a fraction of second, and most people will avoid making any eye contact at all. This is very good news for anyone wishing to initiate a flirtation with an attractive stranger. Even from across a crowded room at a party, you can signal your interest in someone merely by making eye contact and attempting to hold your target’s gaze for more than one second (not too much more, though, or you will seem threatening). If your target maintains eye contact with you for more than one second, the chances are that he/she might return your interest. If after this initial contact, your target looks away briefly and then looks back to meet your gaze a second time, you can safely assume that he/she is interested. If these eye contacts trigger a smile, you can approach your target with some confidence. If, on the other hand, your target avoids making eye contact with you, or looks away after a fraction of a second and does not look back again, you should probably assume that your interest is not returned. There is still the possibility that your target is just a very shy person - and some females may be understandably wary of signalling any interest in male strangers. The only way to find out is by close observation of your target’s behaviour towards others. Does she consistently avoid direct eye-contact with men? Does he seem nervous, anxious or aloof in his interactions with other women? If so, your target’s reluctance to meet your gaze may be nothing personal, and it might be worth approaching, but only with considerable caution. Once you have approached your target, you will need to make eye contact again in order to strike up a conversation. As soon as your eyes meet, you may begin to speak. Once a conversation begins, it is normal for eye contact to be broken as the speaker looks away. In conversations, the person who is speaking looks away more than the person who is listening, and turn-taking is governed by a characteristic pattern of looking, eye contact and looking away. So, to signal that you have finished speaking and invite a response, you then look back at your target again. To show interest while your target is speaking, you need to look at his/her face about three-quarters of the time, in glances lasting between one and seven seconds. The person speaking will normally look at you for less than half this time, and direct eye contact will be intermittent, rarely lasting more than one second. When your target has finished speaking, and expects a response, he or she will look at you and make brief eye contact again to indicate that it is your turn. The basic rules for pleasant conversation are: glance at the other person’s face more when you are listening, glance away more when you are speaking and make brief eye contact to initiate turn-taking. The key words here are ‘glance’ and ‘brief’: avoid prolonged staring either at the other person or away. The most common mistake people make when flirting is to overdo the eye contact in a premature attempt to increase intimacy. This only makes the other person feel uncomfortable, and may send misleading signals. Some men also blow their chances by carrying on a conversation with a woman’s breasts, rather than looking at her face. **Interpersonal distance** The distance you keep from the other person when flirting is important, because it will affect his or her impression of you, and the quality of your interaction. Perhaps even more importantly, paying attention to the other person’s use of distance will tell you a great deal about his/her reactions and feelings towards you. When you first approach an attractive stranger, having established at least an indication of mutual interest through eye contact, try to make eye contact again at about 4ft away, before moving any closer. At 4 ft (about two small steps away), you are on the borderline between what are known as the ‘social zone’ (4 to 12 ft) and the ‘personal zone’ (18in to 4ft). If you receive a positive response at 4ft, move in to ‘arm’s length’ (about 2ft 6in). If you try to approach much closer than this, particularly if you try to cross the 18in ‘personal zone/intimate zone’ border, your target may feel uncomfortable. The ‘intimate zone’ (less than 18in) is reserved for lovers, family and very close friends. If you are close enough to whisper and be heard, you are probably too close for comfort. These distance rules apply particularly in face-to-face encounters. We will tolerate reduced interpersonal distances when we are side by side with someone. This is because when you are alongside someone, it is easier to use other aspects of body language, such as turning away or avoiding eye contact, to ‘limit’ your level of involvement with the other person. You can therefore approach a bit closer than ‘arm’s length’ if you are alongside your target - at the bar counter of a pub, for example - rather than face-to-face. But be careful to avoid ‘intrusive’ body-language such as prolonged eye contact or touching. If you have misjudged the appropriate distance, in either a face-to-face or side-by-side encounter, the other person’s discomfort may show in his/her body language. Your target may attempt to turn away or avert his/her gaze to avoid eye contact. You may also see ‘barrier signals’ such as folded or tightly crossed legs, or rubbing the neck with the elbow pointed towards you. If you see any of these signs, back off! Finally, remember that different people have different reactions to distance. If your target is from a Mediterranean or Latin American country (known as the ‘contact cultures’), he or she may be comfortable with closer distances than a British or Northern European person. North Americans fall somewhere between these two extremes. Different personality-types may also react differently to your approach: extroverts and those who generally feel at ease in company will be comfortable with closer distances than introverts and shy or nervous types. Even the same person may vary in tolerance from day to day, according to mood: when we are feeling depressed or irritable, we find close distances more uncomfortable. **Posture** Most of us are quite good at controlling our faces - maintaining an expression of polite interest, for example, when we are really bored to tears, or even nodding when we really disagree! But we tend to be less conscious of what the rest of our body is doing. We may be smiling and nodding, but unconsciously revealing our disagreement by a tense posture with tightly folded arms. This is known as ‘non-verbal leakage’: while we’re busy controlling our words and faces, our real feelings ‘leak out’ in our posture. When flirting, you should therefore watch out for signs of this ‘non-verbal leakage’ in your partner’s posture - and try to send the right signals with your own posture. Your partner’s ‘non-verbal leakage’ can give you advance warning that your chat-up isn’t working. If only his/her head is turned towards you, with the rest of the body oriented in another direction, this is a sign that you do not have your partner’s full attention. Even just the feet starting to turn and ‘point’ away from you can be a sign that his/her attention is directed elsewhere, or that he/she is thinking about moving away. Leaning backwards and supporting the head on one hand are signs of boredom. ‘Closed’ postures with arms folded and legs tightly crossed indicate disagreement or dislike. More positive signs to watch out for would be a partner’s body oriented towards you, particularly if he/she is also leaning forward, and an ‘open’ posture. These are signs of attentiveness and interest or liking. Experiments have also shown that females are more likely to tilt their heads to one side when they are interested in the person they are talking to. Men should beware, however, of automatically assuming that these signs indicate sexual interest. Women should be aware of men’s tendency to make such assumptions, and avoid signalling interest too obviously. Another positive sign is what psychologists call ‘postural congruence’ or ‘postural echo’: when your partner unconsciously adopts a posture similar to yours. Mirror-image postural echoes - where one person’s left side ‘matches’ the other person’s right side - are the strongest indication of harmony and rapport between the pair. If the position of your partner’s body and limbs appear to ‘echo’ or ‘mimic’ your own, particularly if his/her posture is a mirror image of yours, the chances are that he/she feels an affinity with you. When flirting, you can also use postural echo to create a feeling of togetherness and harmony. Experiments have shown that although people are not consciously aware of someone deliberately ‘echoing’ their postures, they will evaluate a person who does this more favourably. If you ‘echo’ your partner’s postures, he/she will not only feel more at ease in your company, but will perceive you as more like-minded. This technique obviously has its limits. We would not suggest, for example, that a woman in a mini-skirt should ‘echo’ the open-legged sitting posture of her male companion. But if he is leaning forward with his left forearm resting on the table, she could create a sense of common identity by ‘mirroring’ this aspect of his posture - leaning forward with her right forearm on the table. In addition to these ‘generic’ signals of interest, there are specifically male and female posture signals which are often seen in flirtatious encounters. These tend to be postures which enhance the masculine or dominant appearance of the male, and the femininity of the female. Males may adopt postures which make them appear taller, larger and more impressive, such as placing hands in pockets with elbows out to enlarge the chest, or leaning one hand at above shoulder height on a wall to appear taller and more imposing. Females either adopt postures which make them look smaller, such as drawing the knees towards the body when seated, or postures which draw attention to physical attributes attractive to males, such as arching the back to display the breasts, or crossing and re-crossing the legs to draw attention to them. More in the PDF … ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2008, 4:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/29 "2008-01-17T04:56:42Z")
> [@](#): > > Burning the VNO: This is probably one of the most unusual effects - Some subjects will exhibit a suddenly burning or rushing sensation in part of their nose, yet it has nothing to do with smell. They react suddenly for a few seconds, and then everything is normal again except for the building arousal of course … I think it’s somehow affecting some part of the nose that’s sensitive to pheromones. Too bad it’s been repeatedly proven the human VNO is non-functional. Mones are intercepted via normal smell receptors… ---
**Author:** ![Shap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Shap](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Shap)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2008, 5:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/30 "2008-01-17T05:19:53Z")
For the people who think that female can hide their interest, yes they can, but they can’t control their eye dilation. Eye dilation is also the most reliable indication of interest. The reason i’m mentioning this even though i have a test tomorrow, is that i got one today. BIG PUPPY eyes. (combined with hairplay). It is too bad that i don’t like her personality, and to be honest she is overweight. ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2008, 7:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/31 "2008-01-17T07:01:11Z")
Fantastic Jas! i got one… i know a woman likes me when my Ltr hates her for no apparent reason he he he 🙂 Seriously though i recognize all of the ioi’s mentioned in your post and i believe we instinctively register them! Today for example a mid-twenties girl pointed her rather ample breasts right in my face and there were other ioi’s like “multiple looks” …it was so obvious in that moment. When a girl makes an obvious ioi it often makes me uncomfortable.Hmmm don’t know why Iv read lots of body language books but nothing much from a womans perspective. Thanks! . ---
**Author:** ![GoldenForest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c57346/32.png) [@GoldenForest](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/GoldenForest)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2008, 7:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/32 "2008-01-31T07:05:51Z")
Women are generally terrible at hiding their IoI’s its insane! They are far more emotionally driven and it just seems that they can’t help themselves, some do know about these IoI’s and try to watch it but if your being amusing or taking charge (acting alpha) they will slip every time. I wouldn’t say you are limited to your own attractiveness, the majority of that word is just social conditionings, it can change and attractiveness is of relatively low importance A women would be far more happy with an average looking guy that acted attractive then an attractive guy. Many men are attractive looking but that does not mean that they are attractive to women, it is only a small percentage of the process. Actually, all that being hot really does for a man is make it easier to initiate a conversation with a women, they will be more open to meeting you. If your not attractive all you have to do is set yourself apart from your stereotype of an unnatractive guy, they will take interest in you as a possibly interesting person and may go into it thinking about getting a friend or perhaps a lover but it doesn’t matter, you shouldn’t set people above you before you even get to know them! ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2008, 11:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/33 "2008-01-31T11:05:25Z")
> [@](#): > > Women are generally terrible at hiding their [IoI](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333#)’s its insane! They are far more emotionally driven and it just seems that they can’t help themselves, some do know about these [IoI](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333#)’s and try to watch it but if your being amusing or taking charge (acting alpha) they will slip every time. I wouldn’t say you are limited to your own attractiveness, the majority of that word is just social conditionings, it can change and attractiveness is of relatively low importance I have to disagree but only partly, women are masters at the IOI. Its built right in us from birth. Watch a little girl manipulate her father and you will see it. There are certain subtle cues that are unconsious but for a good percentage of women we know the cues and how and when to use them. Its not that we are slipping, we are flirting and know what we are doing. Course this dosnt go for ever single women. Some more unexperienced women still will unconsiously give off IOI’s. Some will be attracted and try to hide it especially if they are involved with someone else. Just be aware that when a women thrusts there boobs out at you, they know exactly what signal they are sending. (snort) 😛 > [@](#): > > Actually, all that being hot really does for a man is make it easier to initiate a conversation with a women, they will be more open to meeting you. If your not attractive all you have to do is set yourself apart from your stereotype of an unnatractive guy, they will take interest in you as a possibly interesting person and may go into it thinking about getting a friend or perhaps a lover but it doesn’t matter, you shouldn’t set people above you before you even get to know them! I agree with this, people all have different tastes and different things attract them. What may be hot to one person wont be to another. Looks dont matter as much as hygiene. If you present yourself well the rest will takes its course. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![Casanova](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/casanova/32/621_2.png) [@Casanova](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Casanova)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2008, 11:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/34 "2008-01-31T11:30:21Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > I have to disagree but only partly, women are masters at the IOI. Its built right in us from birth. Watch a little girl manipulate her father and you will see it. There are certain subtle cues that are unconsious but for a good percentage of women we know the cues and how and when to use them. Its not that we are slipping, we are flirting and know what we are doing. Tisha Well Tisha it’s generally true BUT I have something to add from my experience.See there are some guys , maybe natural [pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/) monsters with great bodies and adorable smiles with total alpha behaviour and this all can make a woman go crazy.I’ve seen how women react when in the presence of such man and to tell the truth they don’t know what they’re doing.Well they realise afcourse that they are flirting but it is so lamish as late middleschool girls.Such guys are not many and the combo of pherosignature, body, behaviour, social status is hard to achieve, but having all that it is impossible for most (not all 'cause there are always exeptions as to justify the rule) women to resist such person.If they are not married or bonded with more that just a relationship they are ready to dump they boyfriend and to be with Mister-Perfect-Alpha. So my point is that while generally true that women are in control of IOI and flirting stuff there are certaing type of guys that can change all this and make women look like little immaturre girls. ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2008, 11:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/35 "2008-01-31T11:42:00Z")
Free Will is overrated 😃😃😃😃 ---
**Author:** ![Casanova](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/casanova/32/621_2.png) [@Casanova](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Casanova)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2008, 11:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/36 "2008-01-31T11:46:40Z")
> [@flaming](#): > > Free Will is overrated 😃😃😃😃 What do you mean by that? ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2008, 11:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/37 "2008-01-31T11:53:49Z")
I just think we tend to attribute too much significance and weight to the concept of “free will” and choice. Can you choose or not choose to be attracted to someone ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phoenix/32/673_2.png) [@Phoenix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2008, 12:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/38 "2008-01-31T12:02:14Z")
> [@flaming](#): > > I just think we tend to attribute too much significance and weight to the concept of “free will” and choice. > > Can you choose or not choose to be attracted to someone Right. I can’t. A woman is either attracted to me or she isn’t. I am attracted to that sexy babe but not to that plain looking crosseyed woman.. sorry.. no offense but it’s the truth! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Casanova](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/casanova/32/621_2.png) [@Casanova](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Casanova)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2008, 12:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/39 "2008-01-31T12:06:42Z")
Oh, that…Well yes u cannot choose to be or not to be attracted.U can choose to act on that or not, but for the feeling of attraction there is no way to avoid it.So if u know what is attractive to some cutie u can use this as to get her.But there is one major rule, the girl must not know that u changed something as to be attractive to her.It’s like on the holliwood spy’s movies what some agent has to seduce a woman.He goes under fake personality, fake name, style selected for the target, attitude and behaviour totally different from his own’s, and the most important thing in all this as the mission to succeed is to make everything naturally, like u were born with it.Like u’ve been such guy all your life. That involves alot of acting witch is one of the most difficult things in the world but if ones really wants to seduce alot of women one should make the efforts and learn the acting. ---
**Author:** ![GoldenForest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c57346/32.png) [@GoldenForest](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/GoldenForest)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2008, 12:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333/40 "2008-02-01T00:43:56Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > I have to disagree but only partly, women are masters at the IOI. Its built right in us from birth. Watch a little girl manipulate her father and you will see it. There are certain subtle cues that are unconsious but for a good percentage of women we know the cues and how and when to use them. Its not that we are slipping, we are flirting and know what we are doing. Course this dosnt go for ever single women. Some more unexperienced women still will unconsiously give off IOI’s. Some will be attracted and try to hide it especially if they are involved with someone else. Just be aware that when a women thrusts there boobs out at you, they know exactly what signal they are sending. (snort) 😛 > > I agree with this, people all have different tastes and different things attract them. What may be hot to one person wont be to another. Looks dont matter as much as hygiene. If you present yourself well the rest will takes its course. > > Tisha Oh I know what your talking about, there is a difference between sending an IoI and having one slip on you though, haha I get voluntary IoI’s all the time but its just funny to see the ones that slip when the girl is getting really flustered and trying to hide it 🙂 [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333.md?page=1) [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-tell-a-woman-is-interested-in-you-the-master-indicators-of-interest-list/8333.md?page=3)