# I can use a little advice from mature people on here **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [January 20, 2009, 4:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124 "2009-01-20T16:12:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/1 "2009-01-20T16:12:57Z")
Okay I have yet to find a good solid relationship. All the girls I meet I end up in bed with the first or second night and for the most part is them wanting it and forcing it by exp: crying – flirting to extreme and other things that I can really say) of meeting them….but that’s not the issue at the moment. I live alone in a 3 bedroom house and I decided to get two roommate so I posted add on craigslist and I had couple people responded…well I found this two people who are really interested in living with me one lives in Austin Texas and the other in temple Florida but moving to Austin. Now the issue with this is both are girls and my god they are beautiful if I had to rate them 1 out 10 they are a easy 50 lol ……they both are 21 and don’t have many friends in Austin so they probably be hanging out with me and my friends and since we be living with each other that’s a lot time that I get to spend with this girls and I am worry about falling for one of them or them for me or end up hooking up with one and hurting the other and so many other possibilities that I am sure I am over looking. Now I need some advice? btw since lot people have helped me on here I am going to give something back if anyone has a issue with girls and what not I am here to help …I am not proud of this but for past month I been with someone different every two days and I am probably one ugly ass dude so send me a message and ill do my best to help you all out.(everything will be private) ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Feel\_Good](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mr.feel_good/32/1148_2.png) [@Mr.Feel\_Good](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Feel_Good)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/2 "2009-01-20T16:21:54Z")
> [@dss](#): > > Okay I have yet to find a good solid relationship. All the girls I meet I end up in bed with the first or second night and for the most part is them wanting it and forcing it by exp: crying – flirting to extreme and other things that I can really say) of meeting them….but that’s not the issue at the moment. > I live alone in a 3 bedroom house and I decided to get two roommate so I posted add on craigslist and I had couple people responded…well I found this two people who are really interested in living with me one lives in Austin Texas and the other in temple Florida but moving to Austin. > Now the issue with this is both are girls and my god they are beautiful if I had to rate them 1 out 10 they are a easy 50 lol ……they both are 21 and don’t have many friends in Austin so they probably be hanging out with me and my friends and since we be living with each other that’s a lot time that I get to spend with this girls and I am worry about falling for one of them or them for me or end up hooking up with one and hurting the other and so many other possibilities that I am sure I am over looking. > > Now I need some advice? > > btw since lot people have helped me on here I am going to give something back if anyone has a issue with girls and what not I am here to help …I am not proud of this but for past month I been with someone different every two days and I am probably one ugly ass dude so send me a message and ill do my best to help you all out.(everything will be private) Well now, looks like you’ll be living fine here in just a little bit. The best advice i have to give is a warning, i’m afraid. Remember that you will be living with these people for the next couple months and that if anything goes sour, there will be no escape from it. I’ve seen this happen more than once with people around my campus and it can get QUITE nasty. Now if one of them proposes sleeping with you, make it quite clear that this is a “no strings attached hookup” to begin with. Unless you hit it off the bat and have been going on dates left and right, then by all means, go for the gusto. But by keeping it unattached, you can always get closer if you’d like, or bail if you need to with much less bad juju on each side. Also, keep in mind that guys aren’t the only ones who talk about the other sex behind their back. Most likely the new girls will establish a pecking order instead of fighting desperately over you. One will back off and leave the other free to pursue you. ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/3 "2009-01-20T16:24:14Z")
You need to know what do you want in life, at least at this moment. Are you thinking of flirting with them? If you intend to flirt with them, be prepared to hurt one or both of them. If you are looking for a relationship, let it be natural. By natural, if you fall for one of them, let it be. Why worry about the other girl? Just my thought though ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 4:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/4 "2009-01-20T16:36:34Z")
ya well all I want is a good solid relationship…thats what I been saying since the start. but ya it be hard because for starters I fall easily and let my self get hurt. ---
**Author:** ![Whitehall](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/whitehall/32/1087_2.png) [@Whitehall](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Whitehall)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/5 "2009-01-20T17:24:57Z")
Love is dangerous! But there are patterns that encourage “falling in love” and there are ways to avoid it. First the problem of two unrelated female room mates. They don’t know each other so they will have to relate to each other too, as well as with you. Females are generally cleaner than males but clutter up the bathrooms with their junk. They will probably synchronize their periods so get some [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) for such times. As to falling in love, you gotta do it to learn about it - like a kid touching a hot stove. Sounds like you’ve been there. First, see each other no more than once a week. That’s hard if you’re sharing a house. One supplement you can take to reduce your proponsity is 5-HTP. That’s a metabolic precursor to serotoin and has properties like Prozac but not as nasty. Take a little before bed (it makes one sleepy.) It will one make up less likely to get that obsessive/compulsive effect one gets from falling in love. Another amino acid supplement is L-phenylanaline which is a precursor for dopamine. As to finding a REAL solid relationship, I’d say hold off until you get your life in order and you really are ready to start a life together. As a college student, you will go through many transitions before you become a fully functioning adult. Get those behind you first. Sounds like now you’re a poon hound. reduce your shirt chasing and get out with the boys and get some heavy exercise. there is too much of a good thing. ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/6 "2009-01-20T17:30:39Z")
well I graduated form college and have a stable job and everything so my life is set but that one little part that involves relationship and sharing life with. ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:37pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/7 "2009-01-20T17:37:10Z")
now this **doesnt** apply when you are looking for a one-nighter, but i dont see there being an issue here when you take into consideration that someone who is looking for something **long-term** isnt going to be content with only the outside appearance. i wouldnt sweat this, because in the process of getting to know either of them one will open their mouth and you will not resonate with what they have to say. its not likely that both will be a perfect long-term gal-pal. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![jankren](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f0a364/32.png) [@jankren](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jankren)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/8 "2009-01-20T17:45:51Z")
Please tell me this is not some kinda personal fantasy of yours. LOL ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/9 "2009-01-20T17:45:52Z")
see the reason I am worry is the fact that they both are making it clear that they are single and hate it … and the one who lives in Austin keeps saying that she wants to make time and see her place and move in next week and blah blah blah. ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 5:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/10 "2009-01-20T17:49:07Z")
and the reason I ask advice from someone mature was because of the comment that was made. and reply to it no its not fantasy of mine. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Feel\_Good](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mr.feel_good/32/1148_2.png) [@Mr.Feel\_Good](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Feel_Good)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:03pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/11 "2009-01-20T18:03:47Z")
> [@dss](#): > > see the reason I am worry is the fact that they both are making it clear that they are single and hate it … and the one who lives in Austin keeps saying that she wants to make time and see her place and move in next week and blah blah blah. Ok, so i think i have a much better idea of what you meant when you were writing this. I’m afraid i got a bit off-track when i noticed the part about women always coming on to you and demanding sex. The trouble for me is, LTR are what i do best, whereas ONS are pretty rare for me… so trying to explain what i always do seems a bit weird. Let me try… First off, talk with them and get to know their personalities. If you don’t mesh (after a while, not just on first impression), then give up. What they look like really doesnt matter (to a point), but once the initial “heated rush” wears off, you need to be able to be around this person ALOT and love it, not get sick of each other. Of course some friendly tips for making a good first impression… offer to help move them in when they get to your place, offer to cook a dinner for the three of you (assuming you can cook decently) or even get them involved in helping you cook. Fun, non-sexual activities that show you can care and protect for someone, that you’d be a good candidate for a LTR. Seems you produce a lot of -none naturally, so you may want to go light initially on adding any -none products. Don’t come off strong, just send the vibe that you’re willing to go out. And try to keep it light to begin with if they do want to go out. Take the florida girl around to your favorite cafe, etc. Talk over a cup of joe. Be charming, not flirtatious. Yes, there is a difference. Hope that helps some. ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/12 "2009-01-20T18:16:28Z")
thank you good point I am a good cook so I guess I can cook something to welcome them or something like that…and use the advantage and show the Florida girl around but I think I am more interested in the one in Austin well see. I just have to not hit on them and see how it plays out. ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/13 "2009-01-20T18:19:41Z")
dss, I know from previous discussions that you are getting fed up with ONS and are desperate for an LTR. You also know that I am (relatively) sensible when I need to be 😉😉. Simple solution, make it plain to the girls and yourself FROM THE OUTSET that you are off limits to each other. Think of it as sharing with your two sisters, good friends who know each other’s secrets, whatever. Get the idea that they are hot out of your head. At the same time, use them to your advantage. Take them out to meet your friends and introduce them to the area. Imagine the social proofing of walking into a club with these two hotties on your arm, girls find blokes like that interesting. Look for some of the posts from the PUAs on how to get the hot girl and reverse the process. Buy IFM by the gallon, you will rapidly become their best guy friend ever, try it on with either of them and, soon enough, they will both think you are a complete sleaze. I imagine Xiphoid will be around later, she shares a flat with another girl and a guy with little problems, perhaps she can share some of their ground rules with you! Have fun ( you lucky bastard!😛) ---
**Author:** ![So\_Musky](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/so_musky/32/290_2.png) [@So\_Musky](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/So_Musky)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/14 "2009-01-20T18:28:24Z")
> [@diamond](#): > > At the same time, use them to your advantage. Take them out to meet your friends and introduce them to the area. Imagine the social proofing of walking into a club with these two hotties on your arm, girls find blokes like that interesting. Look for some of the posts from the PUAs on how to get the hot girl and reverse the process. > > Buy IFM by the gallon, you will rapidly become their best guy friend ever, try it on with either of them and, soon enough, they will both think you are a complete sleaze. > > I imagine Xiphoid will be around later, she shares a flat with another girl and a guy with little problems, perhaps she can share some of their ground rules with you! > > Have fun ( you lucky bastard!😛) Yea dude, you got a good thing here. Become their closest guy friend. They will screen the girls you bring home in a way you can’t. And like Diamond said, the status they can provide you because they will want to help you out and see you succeed is gold. Just remember to return the favor. ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/15 "2009-01-20T18:30:22Z")
hey thanks lot for the help so your saying both girls are off limit ☹ man thats going to be hard as hell. ---
**Author:** ![So\_Musky](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/so_musky/32/290_2.png) [@So\_Musky](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/So_Musky)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/16 "2009-01-20T18:31:42Z")
> [@dss](#): > > hey thanks lot for the help so your saying both girls are off limit ☹ man thats going to be hard as hell. Ahhh, but think of all the girls you will meet through them. ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/17 "2009-01-20T18:41:33Z")
Like Musky says, think of the possibilities! Two hotties who know no-one locally are bound to have lots of hot friends come to visit 😉 Sorry to focus on the negative but this is a situation where a guy has to think with the brain in his head, not the one in his shorts. If, as you have already thought about, you fall for one of them, or just into bed with one of them then it is going to ruin the dynamic for the three of you. If you then split, the fallout is going to be horrendous, with the added pressure of still living under the same roof. I got divorced 6 years ago, relatively friendly but after 6 weeks living seperate lives under the same roof, we hated each other. Yes, it will be tempting, I doubt if there’s a guy reading this who isn’t a little jealous right now. It’s up to you to decide what to do, we can only offer an opinion. ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/18 "2009-01-20T18:46:34Z")
you all are right ill try my best and if something does happen ill make sure its going to last or I wont risk it. ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 7:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/19 "2009-01-20T19:20:20Z")
> [@dss](#): > > you all are right ill try my best and if something does happen ill make sure its going to last or I wont risk it. DSS…you are playing with fire here 🙄 I have a black belt in flatsharing (well over 10 years of doing it) and if it’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s this: NEVER SHIT IN YOUR OWN BACKYARD! Don’t get involved with flatmates, it can get soooo messy! Just of the top of my head…this is what can easily happen… 1. You get together with one of them & things don’t work out… 2. Both girls had a thing for you =\> catfight & not in a good way… 3. None of them have a thing for you, but fancy getting it on with one of your mates… 4. The one you fall for brings home a boyfriend & you get to hear them go at it at night… 5. You have thing for 1 or 2 of them, they don’t reciprocate & things get really akward… Should I continue? I have personally had experience of both example 3 and 5… With example 3 I moved into a flat, the guy fancied me, I met & got together with his mate…they are nolonger mates… With example 5 it was even worse…we were both on the lease, and once I realised he had a thing for me, things got really akward…and we were stuck with a 12 month lease… When ever I look for flatmates & ask to meet up with them to get a feel for what they are like, if we’d get along living together etc…If I find that I’m at all attracted to one of them, they’re off my list of potential flatmates… BUT that doesn’t have to be a bad thing…Keep the number and put them on the potential date list instead. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 7:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124/20 "2009-01-20T19:25:57Z")
okay number 4 would most defiantly piss me off to a point that there is a chance ill kick that dudes ass lol. [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-can-use-a-little-advice-from-mature-people-on-here/25124.md?page=2)