# I have her in my reach but she thinks she's too old for me **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [April 12, 2013, 5:06am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723 "2013-04-12T05:06:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![bostonboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@bostonboy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bostonboy)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 5:06am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/1 "2013-04-12T05:06:42Z")
So I’ve been talking to this girl 14 hours a day for the last 2 weeks (I really don’t want to see my phone bill ☹ ) and we have gotten very close. We’ve known each other for a while but just recently became involved, apparently she thought I was in my mid 20’s and when she found out I’m only turning 21 I think it really confused her. In way more words she basically said I want you really badly but I’m too old for you, she is 8 years older then me but I have no issues. I really need some help if anyone has ever dealt with this your incite will be greatly appreciated, if you can think of any combos that would help I’m always game but I’m not looking for a one night stand. ---
**Author:** ![jnoel](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jnoel/32/650_2.png) [@jnoel](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jnoel)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 6:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/2 "2013-04-12T06:30:48Z")
that sounds like a shit test, just be real. doesnt matter your age, let her know a man at any age is still a man ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 6:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/3 "2013-04-12T06:57:54Z")
> [@jnoel](#): > > that sounds like a shit test, just be real. doesnt matter your age, let her know a man at any age is still a man That would be my bet, and it sounds like he’s already failed. 14 hours a day, and she said “I WANT YOU REALLY BAD.” Duhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Hellooooooooooooooooo! You haven’t even gone there, and you’re already worrying about long term? Grab a hold of your balls, squeeze them until you’re sure they’re there, and go for it!!! All face-to-face meetings gets EXTEND hugs, and eye contact!!! As for mones, and being that she’s ONLY 28, any of the basic mones to give you an edge. AMMO, IS, IO, IH … all should do you justice. TREAT HER LIKE A LADY, BUT FOR GOODNESS SAKES! DO HER LIKE A PORN STAR! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 7:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/4 "2013-04-12T07:01:39Z")
That’s a lot of time per day to be talking to her. Is there a possibility of becoming the “confidante” or emotional pillow to her? Which can be a dead cert attraction killer. You have clearly connected on some level but now I would be seriously thinking on reducing the amount of communication (before you bank/phone co does it for you!) and putting more of an emphasis on making each interaction count for attraction. And yes, that is hell of a difficult over the phone - You should be sorting a meet-up - M&M is on the ball there! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 7:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/5 "2013-04-12T07:09:23Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > That’s a lot of time per day to be talking to her. Is there a possibility of becoming **the “confidante” or emotional pillow** to her? **Which can be a dead cert attraction killer.** You’ve been warned, but at 20, you probably haven’t learned, and are blinded by WANT & DESIRE. Take notes as you go through life, it’s a great way to learn. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![dsouza](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dsouza/32/840_2.png) [@dsouza](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dsouza)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 12:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/6 "2013-04-12T12:06:30Z")
> [@bostonboy](#): > > So I’ve been talking to this girl 14 hours a day for the last 2 weeks (I really don’t want to see my phone bill ☹ ) and we have gotten very close. We’ve known each other for a while but just recently became involved, apparently she thought I was in my mid 20’s and when she found out I’m only turning 21 I think it really confused her. In way more words she basically said I want you really badly but I’m too old for you, she is 8 years older then me but I have no issues. > > I really need some help if anyone has ever dealt with this your incite will be greatly appreciated, if you can think of any combos that would help I’m always game but I’m not looking for a one night stand. If you’re talking to her 14 hrs a day you’ve automatically put yourself in the position of a supplicant, a doormat, a talk buddy. I only use the phone to ask women out for dates not to talk like a talk buddy. Over the phone mones can’t work.. Your looks, fashion, body none of that can work.. What must you of been thinking? See her in person and stop using the damn phone unless your already in a relationship with her! Here is a great excuse to not stay on the phone to long… YOu ARE A BUSY MAN.. Really become that! You have to spend time working out, school, jobs, family (parents , siblings, friends) etc. I make it a point to not see a woman more than 1-3 x month if I first date and no more than 1 x week thereafter.. there are guys living with women getting sex who don’t even see them more than weekends there so busy. Do you really think she’ll run away if you don’t chase her 14 hrs a day?? People value what they can’t have.. She’ll have to work harder if she wants you, at the same time you keep busy and initiate interactions with her. Let her know your not one to play games. I had girlfiend once who’d do anything to keep me on the phone.. My excuse was always, not to PICK up the darn phone every single time I saw her number :0 Not to answer emails , text msgs and voicemails immediately unless it’s urgent. All i can say is I feel for you.. it seems you must really be crazy about her to be so blind and believe me whether she has said it or not, yoru value in her eyes as a lover is decreasing and your value as a best friend, confidant, talk buddy, etc is increasing. Hell don’t you tell her phone bills are getting expensive? ---
**Author:** ![bostonboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@bostonboy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bostonboy)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2013, 7:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/7 "2013-04-12T19:21:28Z")
Wow ok that’s exactly what I need to hear I didn’t think for a second that it could be a shit test but it makes sense, the biggest question in my mind was will she let go of the age issue. I’m just going to have to step up my game you guys hit it right on the head. I should mention that when I say talking I meant texting, she texts me a ton I respond about 50% cuz I usually am too busy. In the end I’m not overly worried about the outcome, there are some other prospects (best part of retail is the volume of people you meet) Either way ill talk all of your advice to heart and work on steering this in a more favorable direction. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2013, 12:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/8 "2013-04-13T00:54:32Z")
Holy Crap… 14 hours a day. That would set off warning bells before your age would. It comes off as needy. She put you in the friends box dude and its going to be tough to get out of. As everyone mentioned that’s going to hard to do unless you can start getting together physically and creating some attraction and sexual tension. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![bostonboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@bostonboy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bostonboy)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2013, 4:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/9 "2013-04-13T04:45:43Z")
That’s what I’ve been trying to do I’ve been in the friend zone for the last two years but recently I have built some tension and now she won’t leave me alone, I’m not sure how but I am going to have to find a way to limit all non face to face contact because of what was stated above and it’s just getting annoying. It doesn’t help that I don’t have time to see her between school and work but the summers almost here and I’ll be 21 so it will be a little easier. ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2013, 4:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/10 "2013-04-13T04:57:21Z")
> [@bostonboy](#): > > That’s what I’ve been trying to do I’ve been in the friend zone for the last two years but recently I have built some tension and now she won’t leave me alone, I’m not sure how but I am going to have to find a way to limit all non face to face contact because of what was stated above and it’s just getting annoying. It doesn’t help that I don’t have time to see her between school and work but the summers almost here and I’ll be 21 so it will be a little easier. That SOUNDS GOOD, but you have built up a two year bad habit! You’re gonna find yourself looking at your phone and wanting to text. WITHDRAWAL symptoms AIN’T no joke!!! 😃 “I’M SORRY, BUT I’VE BEEN AS BUSY AS HECK,” needs to make its way into your not responding to text. And two sprays of [Summer Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/) to the side of your neck, and 1 spray of P75 to the throat, COULD do magic at your next face-to-face. When it comes to the opposite sex, there are so many variables. You have to learn your target, and go from there. Nope, not by words … ACTION. 😉 KEEP LEARNING! ---
**Author:** ![JohnM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/848f3c/32.png) [@JohnM](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/JohnM)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2013, 11:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/11 "2013-04-16T11:09:27Z")
> [@](#): > > It doesn’t help that I don’t have time to see her between school and work but the summers almost here and I’ll be 21 so it will be a little easier. I don’t think that waiting will make things easier. It rather puts you more deep into the friend box. If you really like her, find some time in your shedule to ask her out. She might very well find excuses such as saying that you are to young because you don’t take the lead and spent time with her. ---
**Author:** ![bostonboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@bostonboy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bostonboy)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 8:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/12 "2013-04-20T08:47:36Z")
Despite a fucked up week I have made some progress by texting her less an making my self more available, she has been slightly bothered by me texting her less but in the end it’s just made it so she really wants to see me. ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 9:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/13 "2013-04-20T09:17:27Z")
Tis good that you used the suggestion, and you’ve learned something, too. It’s sad that you have to play the game this way, but it appears that everybody wants to play by those rules, so … Keep at it, and take notes! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bostonboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@bostonboy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bostonboy)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 5:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/14 "2013-05-14T05:48:34Z")
Ok little status update, I basically told her that I knew she wanted me and I wasn’t going to play any games. Unfortunately it Worked too well 😃, she started showing up at my apartment randomly and at one point she stayed for five days before I could get her to leave. It actually got to the point where I decided to tell her we should just be friends which not only got me my space back but now she trying to get me back harder than I was in the beginning, lol I love how the table turned. So I guess this should be a tale of caution, if your using a combo designed for fallout you should be ready for some serious fallout. ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 6:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/15 "2013-05-14T06:08:31Z")
> [@bostonboy](#): > > It actually got to the point where I decided to tell her we should just be friends which not only got me my space back but now she trying to get me back harder than I was in the beginning, lol > > I love how the table turned. So I guess this should be a tale of caution, if your using a combo designed for fallout you should be ready for some serious fallout. Well done! I’m always amazed at how well turning the tables like that can work if if you have the courage to just do it! 😃 Many guys don’t, despite it being the best thing they could do in many situations. Yup - Fallout mixes are something you need to be prepared to take seriously and run with. I had a fallout woman (professional mix) from months ago turn-up last weekend and dog my steps the whole time at the event I was involved with! 😮😃 ---
**Author:** ![ryanmercer](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ryanmercer/32/1569_2.png) [@ryanmercer](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ryanmercer)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 6:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-have-her-in-my-reach-but-she-thinks-shes-too-old-for-me/58723/16 "2013-05-14T06:34:50Z")
Next time she says anything like that, joke she’s too YOUNG for you OR Joke that she’s just afraid she won’t be able to keep up with you.