# I Hit My X-Wife **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [March 4, 2009, 4:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729 "2009-03-04T16:14:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![galydrum](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/galydrum/32/5181_2.png) [@galydrum](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/galydrum)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2009, 12:33am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/21 "2009-03-06T00:33:26Z")
For everyone who is saying that there MUST be some problem in this relationship other than sex, I disagree. It’s _possible_ that there might be other issues, but from how Jesse has described his current relationship with his ex, it sounds less than likely. How old is your daughter Jesse? Having a baby can wreak HAVOC on a woman’s hormones and directly affects the sex drive by lowering testosterone levels. On top of that, if she was breast-feeding, that also messes with the sex drive because it blows prolactin levels through the roof. I suggest checking out the book, [_The Alchemy of Love and Lust_](http://www.amazon.com/Alchemy-Love-Lust-Theresa-Crenshaw/dp/0399140417) to get an in-depth look at how this stuff works. It’s been an eye opening book for me. Anyway, your daughter looks maybe a couple years old or younger, so her hormones should be stabilizing. Which might be why you’re having such success at this point (besides the pheros, of course). Keep at it, man. And good luck. ---
**Author:** ![SCoupe](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/scoupe/32/2101_2.png) [@SCoupe](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SCoupe)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2009, 2:16am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/22 "2009-03-06T02:16:17Z")
Jess … You have created one of the most interesting threads I have ever seen on this forum. The way both guys & gurls are responding & offering comments is just awesome. So it’s time for my .02 - go for it bro. If you needa inject some pheromones into your mix to crank things back up then do it. IMO, you’re paying attention to not only the effects of the mones but her as well. That’s going to work. Genuinely hope the two of you can bring it back together and that you both come to understand just exactly what it was that caused her to fall out of attraction. That - among other things - will & should be part of the conversations when the time is right. Just piece that puzzle together a bit at a time. It took a while to get there and will likely take a while to get back . . . . rooting for you. ---
**Author:** ![Tigerlilly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tigerlilly/32/2257_2.png) [@Tigerlilly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Tigerlilly)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2009, 3:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/23 "2009-03-06T03:52:49Z")
> [@SCoupe](#): > > Jess … > > You have created one of the most interesting threads I have ever seen on this forum. The way both guys & gurls are responding & offering comments is just awesome. > > So it’s time for my .02 - go for it bro. If you needa inject some pheromones into your mix to crank things back up then do it. IMO, you’re paying attention to not only the effects of the mones but her as well. That’s going to work. > > _ **Genuinely hope the two of you can bring it back together and that you both come to understand just exactly what it was that caused her to fall out of attraction. That - among other things - will & should be part of the conversations when the time is right. Just piece that puzzle together a bit at a time. It took a while to get there and will likely take a while to get back . .** _ . . rooting for you. Very well said! Rooting for you too! Best of luck! Keep us updated! ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2009, 10:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/24 "2009-03-06T10:09:48Z")
Jesse… You didn’t use to much anone. There was no indication of a anxiety attack. Escalating arousal by its very nature causes a certain amount of tension. All tension is not bad, sexual tension makes for good sex. You had 10 mcg’s on and you are 31 years old. You hit on a good dosage for the situation. Anone worn by a women is different then worn on a man. Just because a women can only use a few dabs on her self without becoming bitchy doesn’t mean that men have to wear that amount around them. You did great and she re-acted as she should have. The body language your described is sexual arousal and not anxiety or irritation. You don’t wear that amount daily so build up should not be a issue, You wore it in the perfect environment to. I agree with GW and you made her rethink her position. She has told you that she is not sexually interested and suddenly she feels highly aroused by you. Its a lot to process. TUTH can not only be arousing but cause a sense of urgency to get that arousal taken care of which may be why she high tailed it home fast. From what you have mentioned your split is due to sexual attraction and not from something either of you did to each other. Sexual arousal can decline after the birth of a child for women. Yes I agree talking about your relationship is important. Its important for any relationship but increasing her sexual interest is important as well. I work in a office with over 70 men and a lot of them have tested out TUTH for me at various dosages and in various environments. Yes to much can cause irritation. I have never seen anxiety though. Even when I Oded on it myself I wouldn’t call it anxiety. I was just a horny bitch. This is not to say that anxiety cant happen. 10 mcg really isn’t a lot of anone for a man your age in the correct environment with a person who has a comfort level with you. Would I suggest wearing that much out and about. No I wouldn’t. I think you used it perfectly. As far as telling her you used mone my advice is don’t. She is not going to start having sex with you if she truly doesn’t want to or feel a connection to you no matter how aroused TUTH makes her. People have misconceptions about mones and telling her would just cause conflict. Mones do not take away feel will. Yes I am for open honest relationships but women do not share every enhancement we make to ourselves with the men in our lives. Some things are just better kept to ourselves. Great report, I nominated it 😉 Men should be cautious with TUTH or anone products not afraid of them. TUTH did exactly as it was supposed to do. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![mahalo\_silver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8dc957/32.png) [@mahalo\_silver](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mahalo_silver)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2009, 11:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/25 "2009-03-06T11:36:48Z")
LOL dude, can i borrow the opening line? that is GOLD, classic stuff!!! here i was thinking i was gonna be reading something sinister 🙂 haha …legendary ---
**Author:** ![Interviewman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/76d3ee/32.png) [@Interviewman](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Interviewman)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2010, 8:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/26 "2010-04-20T08:03:28Z")
This thread is really interesting to me. I’m in a similar but very different situation. I’ve been left by my girlfriend of 7 years because that new and exciting sexual attraction is gone. It’s fun to sleep with new people. period. I get that. But I’m desperately in love with this girl and I know she still loves me too. I’m new to mones and was thinking of trying exactly what you’re doing to see if I can re spark something. I see that the last post in this thread was last year. I’d like to get an update on the progress since? ---
**Author:** ![tbbaot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ed8c4c/32.png) [@tbbaot](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tbbaot)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2010, 7:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/27 "2010-04-27T19:18:23Z")
This is a very interesting post indeed…but unfinished. Please return and update us on the outcome. ---
**Author:** ![Whitehall](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/whitehall/32/1087_2.png) [@Whitehall](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Whitehall)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2010, 3:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/28 "2010-04-28T03:02:12Z")
I can second Galydrum’s recommendation of the book “The Alchemy of Love and Lust.” As the ladies here have noted, if she doesn’t want to be interested in sex with you likely she won’t be. Pheromones can help with her motivations though but there is no magic bullet. ---
**Author:** ![jessejester](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jessejester/32/1683_2.png) [@jessejester](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jessejester)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 12:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/29 "2010-05-02T00:48:44Z")
Well, since there has been a renewed interest in this thread, i will offer somewhat of an update. The reason I didnt keep this thread going was because I was receiving some nasty comments (via PM and rep box)from people about what an asshole I was for trying to manipulate my ex. It bothered me back then, but I so dont give a shit at this point. Also, I just want to say that as I was reading through this thread, I was saddened by the fact that alot of the amazing people who took part in this thread are no longer posting in the forum. Its quite a shame. I miss some of these folks. **Results** … If you are hoping to hear that I have once again bedded my ex wife…your going to be dissapointed. It never happened. Nor will it ever happen again. There is no amount of -none, or anything else for that matter, that will ever make her change her mind. She, to this day, is still not sexually attracted to me. We have had that talk a few times over the past year. She claims that she wishes it was there because I have every other quality she wants in a man, she just no longer sees me as a sexual being. I have watched her many, many times become aroused by a phero mix. I mean, I literally felt her subconsiously pushing her crotch forward toward my hand because she had become so sexually aroused. So your probably asking yourself “so why didnt you fuck her Jesse?” The fact of the matter is, SHE IS NOT SEXAULLY ATTRACTED TO ME. She may be thinking “Holy shit I am fucking horny”. But what she isnt thinking is “holy shit, Jesse is really making me horny” The sexual feeling may be there, but she does not look at me as someone to act on it with. As time has passed, I can see where it all came from. There were events and situations in our marriage that lead her to falling out of love with me. Even resent me. THERE IS NO PHERO THAT WILL CHANGE SOMEONES MEMORY! They cant put a possitive spin on the rememberance of PPD, 2hr commutes to and from a fulltime thankless job, stuck at home with a newborn all alone with no help while I was gone for months at a time working, no help, no family around, no friends. I would have left me too. So, her memory of me and the life we shared is nothing but negatives. Im sure thats what she thinks about everytime she considers sleeping with me. If she even does. You know, maybe I should have been bathing in TAA, P79, A1 and Anol so she would have been happy every time she was around me instead of beating her over the head with -none every night. 😃 She is still my best friend, and still spends a decent amount of time with me. She is actually one of my best tells for when I wear Putatives because I know her so well. She still does not know of my phero use. It was a good theory, but it did not work. No Phero is going to change a womens mind once it is made up. Im not sure what else to add. ---
**Author:** ![CoolKat](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/coolkat/32/501_2.png) [@CoolKat](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CoolKat)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 1:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/30 "2010-05-02T01:53:09Z")
In sum, do you think she PURPOSELY blocked her sexual feelings for you? She was feeling sexual, but didn’t want that to be associated with you? ---
**Author:** ![jessejester](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jessejester/32/1683_2.png) [@jessejester](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jessejester)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 7:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/31 "2010-05-02T19:36:07Z")
> [@CoolKatDC](#): > > In sum, do you think she PURPOSELY blocked her sexual feelings for you? She was feeling sexual, but didn’t want that to be associated with you? No, and yes. She just strait up is not attracted to me sexually. I dont think she puposly blocks them, i just dont believe she has sexual feelings toward me. She maybe feeling sexual but will not act upon those urges with me because there is no atraction ther for her. ---
**Author:** ![CoolKat](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/coolkat/32/501_2.png) [@CoolKat](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CoolKat)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2010, 1:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/32 "2010-05-03T01:04:00Z")
> [@jessejester](#): > > No, and yes. She just strait up is not attracted to me sexually. I dont think she puposly blocks them, i just dont believe she has sexual feelings toward me. She maybe feeling sexual but will not act upon those urges with me because there is no atraction ther for her. Hmm… so potentially, I can arouse someone like crazy with TUTH but she would dismiss that feeling with me? ---
**Author:** ![jessejester](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jessejester/32/1683_2.png) [@jessejester](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jessejester)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2010, 4:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/33 "2010-05-03T16:24:32Z")
> [@CoolKatDC](#): > > Hmm… so potentially, I can arouse someone like crazy with TUTH but she would dismiss that feeling with me? It is possible. Ive seen it not just from her, but out in the field when I first started testing phero’s. I saw lots of signature stealing at bars before I realized how to truly be congruent with the products I was wearing. ---
**Author:** ![fishdude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/4bbf92/32.png) [@fishdude](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/fishdude)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2010, 5:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729/34 "2010-05-03T17:44:47Z")
I would say that she is sexually attracted and is conflicted in her mind. That’s why the sudden pull aways. I get that too from attatched women at work. When they look me in the eye their pupils explode (dilate from excitement) but they back away abit and sometimes appear nervous. So your ex has convinced herself(her mind) that she is not attracted to you but physically is and is hiding the fact. Have fun. [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-hit-my-x-wife/26729.md?page=1)