# I meet a horrible girl last night & my night ruined...... **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [March 7, 2009, 7:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817 "2009-03-07T07:34:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2009, 7:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/1 "2009-03-07T07:34:34Z")
Yes i meet a really horrible/terrible/nasty/worst girl last night & my night was ruined thanks to her ☹ Never in my life i meet a girl this bad like her 😮 I’m very pissed up now 😠😠😠 Anyway to those using [MX203](https://a314.com/product/mx203/), i would like to tell you guys that be wary of your doses of it as it contain traces of **none** in it based on my tests on it. I leave it to you guys to decide there & see ya 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![douche](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/douche/32/1144_2.png) [@douche](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/douche)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2009, 7:51am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/2 "2009-03-07T07:51:55Z")
so what happened? why why was she so horrible? ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/3 "2009-03-13T04:00:17Z")
> [@douche](#): > > so what happened? why why was she so horrible? Are you sure you want to know it? The situation was ugly like hell 😮☹ I’m still feeling angry & sad just thinking about it until now 😠☹ I don’t care if she is a lady/girl there as the way she acted was just so horrible & beyond any guy patience 😠 One thing is for sure things will turn around & she will get what she deserved triple the damage that she have done to me… ---
**Author:** ![dapg01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b3f665/32.png) [@dapg01](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dapg01)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 7:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/4 "2009-03-13T07:36:04Z")
PhatSounds, sorry you went through a bad episode, but don’t worry, these things happen to everyone, the important thing is not loose hope and keep on trucking! Remember that most times when a girl does this kind of thing, she most likely took out other frustrations on you. Most likely you just were the unlucky one that got to be the there when she blew up. Anyways don’t even worry about it, it’s really no big deal since if she really was this horrible she isn’t worth your troubles. If you still feel bad about it in a few days, there’s a simple NLP excercise that works wonders. I can’t find the exact one I like, but this one is pretty good too: **[How to ruin a bad memory](http://nlpbangalore.blogspot.com/2009/01/how-to-ruin-bad-memory.html)** Ever have something happen to you that you wish had never happened? Something you feel bad about regularly? Something you can’t get over? This post is for you. The method I’m going to describe ruins the neuropathways you’ve built to feel bad in whenever you think of that situation. So that you can actually see the humour in it. This can also work with anything you want to stop thinking about in the same way. First test the memory. think about this thing and see if it’s triggering bad feelings in you immediately. See the picture and hear the sounds, run the movie of this bad experience. Now if you’re feeling bad that’s great, this is exactly what I’m talking about. EXERCISE To ruin a bad memory 1. Start at the very end of the memory. The part that really makes you feel bad. blow up the still image and turn up the volume. 2. Now start to play it backwards, everyone walks backwards, things fall up instead of down, bread pops into the toaster instead of out, you know what I;m talking about right? Just run it in reverse all the way back to the beginning before you had the event and all was well in the world. Below is an example of a backwards movie. 3. Even if it’s a long movie run it backwards till the point in your life, back in time, when you were happy or laughing before this event happened. 4. As you run it backwards also run a circus music soundtrack 5. Do this several times until you feel better 6. Now test the memory, you won’t be feeling so bad anymore, because you’d have ruined your ability to feel lousy with this memory Enjoy your freedom and spread the cheer. ps. I know very little about NLP so if you have questions, Steve is quite knowledgable ont he subject. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2009, 5:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/5 "2009-03-16T05:29:42Z")
Hmm, what you have said there is right dapg01 🙂 It make sense & i’m happened to be at the wrong place at the wrong time when she blew up. Anyway thanks for that link, that blog on the NLP exercise was very interesting there 🙂 I appreciate the help plus your opinion there 🙂 Well that girl will get what she deserved another time as i’m sure things will turn around there. Just to let you all that she also hit me with her hands too together with 2 of her female friends which is downright ridiculous 😮 I’m ok now, i’m just thinking about how another guy would feel being treated like that. Just imagine if you are in my situation at that time how do you guys feel. ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2009, 5:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/6 "2009-03-16T05:47:24Z")
You know I’ve just got to step in here and say that wishing her to get what YOU think she deserves does not shed a great light on you PhatSounds. Do you really want to wish bad things on someone that you don’t even know and have no idea what’s going on in their head or what she may be going through, because **YOU** let her ruin your day or evening? Nobody can ruin your day or hurt your feelings, unless **YOU** give them the power to do so! Everybody has bad days and we all get shot down, and more often than not we get shot down more often than we succeed. It’s all part of the game! You let things get to you to easily, and then come and tell us how badly things went. But, have you ever stopped to think about what the other person might be going through? What if that girl just had a knock down drag out fight with her parents, or roommate, or boyfriend? Then you came along and tried to talk to her, or showed an interest. And, she was feeling so down and depressed that she just didn’t want to be around anybody other than the girls who were there for her, and who she was best friends with and trusted completely. What if she just found out she was pregnant by her ex-boyfriend who beat the crap out of her and put her in the hospital? Or, what if the guy that talked to her right before you was rude and nasty toward her because she wouldn’t sleep with him, and then you came along? Unless and until you can get inside the other perrsons mind and see what they are going through, you need to learn to let that kind of stuff roll off your shoulders and not bother you. If I’d let every little thing get to me, I would not have a girlfriend now. ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 2:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/7 "2009-03-20T02:36:09Z")
Ok Mark so you say that wishing her to get what she deserve does not shred a great light on me, well so be it. I’m like that as this is my character & my thinking won’t change there. Yes i wish for bad things to befall her as what give her the right to ruin my night there. I just went out to chill out & have fun & i get this crap load of shit from her plus her terrible friends 😠 So you are saying that i have the power to not make people ruin my day or hurt my feelings, what are you saying there? Ok so i can’t tell how do i feel bad is it? & all things must be good is it in this forum? Face it, there is good & bad times in everyone of us. I don’t give her a damn about how she is going through as she is the one who started the fight in the first place. Btw Mark, you can tell anything that you think is right but you don’t even know the full story that happened there, so don’t go gunblazing on me there. And you say i should learn to let that kind of stuff roll off your shoulders and not bother you, never i will have my grudge against her as this is my character. The thing is i went out to have fun & relax, she create a fight & ask her friends to join in & it end up a big fight which ended the bouncers trying to calm both me & her & her friends down & she ruining my night\>THE END, what did i get to deserved this? Think!!! And for the others who supported Mark theory, it is up to you to decide but think if this type of thing happened to you, you can’t just ignored it right? You need to make a stand for yourself & get back to that person that hurt you. I will get even with her one way or another as i will not let anyone mess up my day just like that. Sorry i have to say what i think is right. ---
**Author:** ![M\_P](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/m_p/32/1633_2.png) [@M\_P](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_P)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 3:12am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/8 "2009-03-20T03:12:57Z")
With respect to what mark said…this doesn’t sound like the type of situation where she had a bad day. It sounds more like her and her friends being immature and starting shit for no reason, so I’d say that I have sympathy for Phat here. However, Phat, I don’t think that you should continue holding a grudge against her and especially, planning some kind of retaliation. That would just be immature on your part and you’d be acting no better than her. After all, it was only one bad night, and the best thing to do would be forget about it and go have a good time instead. ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 4:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/9 "2009-03-20T04:43:42Z")
> [@M\_P](#): > > With respect to what mark said…this doesn’t sound like the type of situation where she had a bad day. It sounds more like her and her friends being immature and starting shit for no reason, so I’d say that I have sympathy for Phat here. However, Phat, I don’t think that you should continue holding a grudge against her and especially, planning some kind of retaliation. That would just be immature on your part and you’d be acting no better than her. After all, it was only one bad night, and the best thing to do would be forget about it and go have a good time instead. Ok M\_P, thanks for your opinion there 🙂 So you think that i should not hold a grudge against her or i’m acting no better like herself & just ignore her, well ask yourself this if this type of thing happened to you again, will you just keep quiet & ignored it again? ---
**Author:** ![Wrlprchnx](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wrlprchnx/32/1360_2.png) [@Wrlprchnx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wrlprchnx)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 6:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/10 "2009-03-20T18:40:51Z")
Phat - You attach yourself to those negative feelings created by her actions by holding a grudge against her. The primary source of unhappiness is attachment where it doesn’t belong. Let it go - this doesn’t mean go make nice with her and forgive her - it simply means let HER and what she did go. Think about it - if you continue holding all these negative feelings that were created by her actions that night (in the form of a grudge against her) the next time you see her what will happen? All those negative feelings come back and suddenly YOU have allowed her previous actions to ruin ANOTHER NIGHT. Let go of your attachment to what happened… remember that she is a negative person, do no associate with her (as long as not associating does not cause yourself more suffereing), but don’t hold all these negative feelings for her within yourself (you never know when they will come spilling out) Google “Bad Buddhist Radio” and listen to his podcast series ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 10:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/11 "2009-03-20T22:24:39Z")
Exactly! In other words fuck her! Shrug her off, and that night like if it was nothing but a cakewalk of just another day in life. Shit like this will always happen, and you letting her make you stay mad days and weeks after this even happened is you showing her just how much power she had/has against you. You really want her to have that kind of “power?” Fuck her. You letting this go will just show her and yourself that you’re not weak, and that shit like that won’t phase you. You still being angry about this situation is just making you seem weak; do you want to seem weak? If not, then forget her and the night like it never happened and just continue living your life as best as possible. > [@Wrlprchnx](#): > > Phat - You attach yourself to those negative feelings created by her actions by holding a grudge against her. > > The primary source of unhappiness is attachment where it doesn’t belong. > > Let it go - this doesn’t mean go make nice with her and forgive her - it simply means let HER and what she did go. > > Think about it - if you continue holding all these negative feelings that were created by her actions that night (in the form of a grudge against her) the next time you see her what will happen? All those negative feelings come back and suddenly YOU have allowed her previous actions to ruin ANOTHER NIGHT. > > Let go of your attachment to what happened… remember that she is a negative person, do no associate with her (as long as not associating does not cause yourself more suffereing), but don’t hold all these negative feelings for her within yourself (you never know when they will come spilling out) > > Google “Bad Buddhist Radio” and listen to his podcast series ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 10:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/12 "2009-03-20T22:30:22Z")
> [@mikotorocks714](#): > > In other words fuck her! You really want her ? Fuck her. I’m sorry Mikoto…you know I love you but I couldn’t resist… Oh, and Phat…I’m only joking in general, not making fun of you personally 😉 ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 10:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/13 "2009-03-20T22:46:29Z")
Ha, ha quoted that way it does sound like if I was meaning for him to literally, ahem, you know… Great, I didn’t think it was possible to make someone blush over the net, but Xiphoid you have done it! _Blush._ > [@Xiphoid](#): > > I’m sorry Mikoto…you know I love you but I couldn’t resist… > Oh, and Phat…I’m only joking in general, not making fun of you personally 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 10:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/14 "2009-03-20T22:47:50Z")
> [@mikotorocks714](#): > > Great, I didn’t think it was possible to make someone blush over the net, but Xiphoid you have done it! _Blush._ Aaahhhwww…blowing you some virtual kisses… xxxx 😃 And don’t you dare “misquote” what I just said 😉 ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 10:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/15 "2009-03-20T22:51:58Z")
I don’t think it’s possible to misquote what you just said. 😛 > [@Xiphoid](#): > > Aaahhhwww…blowing you a blow up doll, and some virtual kisses. ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 10:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/16 "2009-03-20T22:53:58Z")
> [@mikotorocks714](#): > > I don’t think it’s possible to misquote what you just said. 😛 Mikoto!!! 😮 You naughty, naughty, married boy!!! ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2009, 11:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/17 "2009-03-20T23:20:10Z")
Ha, ha you started it! _Points at you!_ Ha, ha fixed it! > [@Xiphoid](#): > > Mikoto!!! 😮 You naughty, naughty, married boy!!! ---
**Author:** ![OoohYahhh](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ooohyahhh/32/1274_2.png) [@OoohYahhh](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/OoohYahhh)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2009, 2:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/18 "2009-03-21T02:45:20Z")
> [@Wrlprchnx](#): > > Phat - You attach yourself to those negative feelings created by her actions by holding a grudge against her. > > The primary source of unhappiness is attachment where it doesn’t belong. > > Let it go - this doesn’t mean go make nice with her and forgive her - it simply means let HER and what she did go. > > Think about it - if you continue holding all these negative feelings that were created by her actions that night (in the form of a grudge against her) the next time you see her what will happen? All those negative feelings come back and suddenly YOU have allowed her previous actions to ruin ANOTHER NIGHT. > > Let go of your attachment to what happened… remember that she is a negative person, do no associate with her (as long as not associating does not cause yourself more suffereing), but don’t hold all these negative feelings for her within yourself (you never know when they will come spilling out) > > Google “Bad Buddhist Radio” and listen to his podcast series Wrl is a genius Phats. Listen to him. Take it to heart. I am giving this advice to myself as much as you. I am very much occupied with healing myself from a disastorous situation. Anger and resentment is an acid that will eat away at what is good in us. If there is a way to defend ourselves it is to let go of the memories, let go of the feelings, let it all slip quickly off into the past. Deep into the past, fast. Then go back to building yourself into the man that you choose to become. Defend yourself by becoming a better man. Meditate. Pray. Dream. Create. Study. Write. Create. Choose peace. Choose to forgive yourself. Choose to become a better man. I know it is difficult. I’m having a hard time taking this advice myself. But we _must_ heal ourselves. No one else is going to do it for us. Think. If you allow this to remain as an open wound weeks, months from now, how much will you have suffered? How sick will you be? Heal yourself my friend. ---
**Author:** ![matthie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5ac83/32.png) [@matthie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/matthie)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2009, 2:55am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/19 "2009-03-21T02:55:33Z")
Hi Phat! Our fellow forumners are giving good advice. Take it if you will, maybe you’ll live happier. It doesn’t faze us (or at least me). It’s your own life anyway, it’s your own right if you want to be unhappy and let this girl affect you. ---
**Author:** ![M\_P](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/m_p/32/1633_2.png) [@M\_P](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_P)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2009, 3:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/20 "2009-03-21T03:13:17Z")
^What he said 😛 I didn’t know that this happened more than once…but if it continues like that then you should definitely have a talk with her, outside the club atmosphere…there must be some reason why she continues to do this to you and you need to find out why and try to settle it reasonably. [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817.md?page=2)