# I meet a horrible girl last night & my night ruined...... **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [March 7, 2009, 7:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817 "2009-03-07T07:34:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![M\_P](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/m_p/32/1633_2.png) [@M\_P](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_P)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2009, 3:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/21 "2009-03-21T03:15:23Z")
> [@PhatSounds](#): > > Ok M\_P, thanks for your opinion there šŸ™‚ So you think that i should not hold a grudge against her or iā€™m acting no better like herself & just ignore her, well ask yourself this if this type of thing happened to you again, will you just keep quiet & ignored it again? I didnā€™t know that this happened more than onceā€¦but if it continues like that then you should definitely have a talk with her, outside the club atmosphereā€¦there must be some reason why she continues to do this to you and you need to find out why and try to settle it reasonably. ---
**Author:** ![OoohYahhh](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ooohyahhh/32/1274_2.png) [@OoohYahhh](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/OoohYahhh)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2009, 4:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/22 "2009-03-21T04:58:09Z")
> [@Wrlprchnx](#): > > Phat - You attach yourself to those negative feelings created by her actions by holding a grudge against her. > > The primary source of unhappiness is attachment where it doesnā€™t belong. > > Let it go - this doesnā€™t mean go make nice with her and forgive her - it simply means let HER and what she did go. > > Think about it - if you continue holding all these negative feelings that were created by her actions that night (in the form of a grudge against her) the next time you see her what will happen? All those negative feelings come back and suddenly YOU have allowed her previous actions to ruin ANOTHER NIGHT. > > Let go of your attachment to what happenedā€¦ remember that she is a negative person, do no associate with her (as long as not associating does not cause yourself more suffereing), but donā€™t hold all these negative feelings for her within yourself (you never know when they will come spilling out) > > Google ā€œBad Buddhist Radioā€ and listen to his podcast series Wrl is a genius. Listen to him Phats. Take his advice to heart. Anger and resentment is an acid that will eat away at what is good in you. I am struggling with this right now also. People say forget it, let it go. lol Itā€™s not just that easy. I know. But your life depends on it. If you are not able to let this go it will eat away at you day after day after day. The only way to defend yourself is to become a better man. To find a way to move forward and let this slip into the past. Focus on what is good in you. Grow the goodness that is in you. Meditate. Pray. Create. Share. Love. Imagine if this is still an open wound weeks or months from now. How much will you have suffered? How sick will you have allowed this to make you? Defend yourself by making peace within yourself. Become a better man. ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2009, 9:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/23 "2009-03-21T21:17:20Z")
> [@PhatSounds](#): > > Ok Mark so you say that wishing her to get what she deserve does not shred a great light on me, well so be it. Iā€™m like that as this is my character & my thinking wonā€™t change there. Yes, That is what Iā€™m saying! Unless youā€™re trying to say that this girl walked over to you and started a fight for absolutely no reason and you had not even looked at her, then wishing for bad things to happen to her is outright mean, childlike, vengeful and it casts you in a bad light. At 46 yerars old I canā€™t remember anybody EVER walking up and starting a fight with me for no reason whatsoever! > [@PhatSounds](#): > > Yes i wish for bad things to befall her as what give her the right to ruin my night there. I just went out to chill out & have fun & i get this crap load of shit from her plus her terrible friends šŸ˜  So you are saying that i have the power to not make people ruin my day or hurt my feelings, what are you saying there? Thatā€™s exactly what I am saying: Nobody can make you feel anything and nobody has the power to ruin your nightā€¦Unless you give them that power. Emotions come from WITHIN, and others can only make us feel something when we let them in and give them that power. How hard would it have been to have said that you were sorry for whatever it was that set her off, and then walked away? > [@PhatSounds](#): > > Btw Mark, you can tell anything that you think is right but you donā€™t even know the full story that happened there, so donā€™t go gunblazing on me there. If you think I was gunblazing for saying that I donā€™t think itā€™s right to wish bad things to happen to someone you donā€™t know and have no idea what they are going through, then so be it! I think itā€™s horrible and childish to wish bad things to happen to anybody, and all I can say is that Kharma is a bitch, and the world has a funny way of throwing back at us the energies we put out. I guess itā€™s time to just stop reading your posts and responding or offering advice. Youā€™ve asked me and a number of others for suggestions and advice more times than I could even count, and have never once listened to what weā€™ve said anyway. Sorry but Iā€™m not going to coddle you anymore. I tried for a long time to be supportive and be your friend, but it seems all you want is for people to pity and feel sorry for you anytime things donā€™t go your way and to agree that itā€™s always somebody else who is to blame. Iā€™m done! Lash back again if you want, or wish bad things upon me too. It doesnā€™t matter anymore because talking to you is like banging your head against a wall. > [@PhatSounds](#): > > Sorry i have to say what i think is right. And, itā€™s cost you a friend, but Iā€™m guessing that itā€™s not the first time itā€™s happened. Be as stubborn and hard headed as you want, youā€™re the one that has to live with yourself! ---
**Author:** ![starryillumination](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/starryillumination/32/1086_2.png) [@starryillumination](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/starryillumination)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2010, 9:24am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/24 "2010-04-06T09:24:33Z")
This whole posting seems a bit ridiculous to me. For starts, the situation has not even been described in enough detail for anyone to make a true judgment. As much as I agree to some of the things posted ( such as having control of whether someone can ruin your night, or not), people have to be open to the possibility that this girl had crossed the shit line. I am sure we all have something that would be just too much. On the other hand, either the shit hawk is flying, or it is not. If it is not, and you are not actively doing something about it, then I would rather drown the shit hawk in a shit river, rather than carry him on my back. But if you are doing something about it, you shouldnā€™t tell people anyways. This situation could be any of numerous combinations of events. Some the kind that can be let go, in exchange for the search of better times. Or some could involve a group of big bad-ass Nazi bull dikes. The kind who hold you down while screaming ā€œYOU FUCKING KIKE!!!ā€, and carving swastikas into your balls, using a rusty nail file!! We just donā€™t knowā€¦šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![Wrlprchnx](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wrlprchnx/32/1360_2.png) [@Wrlprchnx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wrlprchnx)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2010, 1:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/25 "2010-04-06T13:18:12Z")
Necropost much? ---
**Author:** ![Olfact\_Amorous](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/olfact_amorous/32/434_2.png) [@Olfact\_Amorous](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Olfact_Amorous)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2010, 1:55am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/26 "2010-04-07T01:55:39Z")
> [@Wrlprchnx](#): > > Necropost much? Theres been a rise of necroposters as of late in the menā€™s section as well XD ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2010, 2:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/27 "2010-04-07T02:53:09Z")
Whats a necropost/necroposter? ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2010, 3:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/28 "2010-04-07T03:23:09Z")
Bringing back old threads from the past when in fact theyā€™ve been dead for a long time! Phats doesnā€™t even post anymore. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2010, 3:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/29 "2010-04-07T03:42:54Z")
> [@mikotorocks714](#): > > Bringing back old threads from the past when in fact theyā€™ve been dead for a long time! Phats doesnā€™t even post anymore. Okay, thanks. They must either: 1. Not look at the dates of the posts, 2. Be really new, and/or 3. Not understand that most forums are chronologically organized from newest to oldest (though I suppose you could probably change it around so you see the oldest ones firstā€¦hey, thereā€™s an idea to make things super interesting!! lol) ---
**Author:** ![seekingadvice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/58f4c7/32.png) [@seekingadvice](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/seekingadvice)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2010, 12:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/30 "2010-04-08T00:19:38Z")
> [@Sillykitty](#): > > Okay, thanks. They must either: > > 1. Not look at the dates of the posts, > 2. Be really new, and/or > 3. Not understand that most forums are chronologically organized from newest to oldest (though I suppose you could probably change it around so you see the oldest ones firstā€¦hey, thereā€™s an idea to make things super interesting!! lol) OR 4) look for drama..lol just like in our everyday life ---
**Author:** ![starryillumination](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/starryillumination/32/1086_2.png) [@starryillumination](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/starryillumination)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2010, 3:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/31 "2010-04-08T03:34:00Z")
> [@seekingadvice](#): > > OR 4) look for drama..lol just like in our everyday life The new partā€¦yes. But everything else is definitely a no. I posted on the dead subject because I wanted to finish it with something good. I am satisfied that my response I s so far the winner. So for all intensive purposes gentlemen, you lose and I win!šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2010, 12:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817/32 "2010-04-09T00:35:01Z")
> [@starryillumination](#): > > The new partā€¦yes. But everything else is definitely a no. I posted on the dead subject because I wanted to finish it with something good. I am satisfied that my response I s so far the winner. So for all intensive purposes gentlemen, you lose and I win!šŸ˜ƒ Thereā€™s absolutely nothing wrong with bringing back old posts. Iā€™ve done it many times myself and I applaud anyone willing to go through the forum and read rather than easily asking the same questions that have been asked a gargantuzillion times. I donā€™t believe anyone meant any ill will either by it, just pointing out something you might have not known. Itā€™s all really just how you look at things.šŸ˜› [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-meet-a-horrible-girl-last-night-my-night-ruined/26817.md?page=1)