# I need advice **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [March 24, 2007, 11:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715 "2007-03-24T23:48:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![tomboy05](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tomboy05/32/2320_2.png) [@tomboy05](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tomboy05)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2007, 11:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/1 "2007-03-24T23:48:53Z")
Hey everyone! The main reason why I would like to experiment with [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) is because my boyfriend dumped me a couple months ago and I am trying to get him back. I have already read up on a book that helped me become a better person, so I have gotten my confidence back, I know how to be better in relationships, but I want an edge to help me win him back. He is a super sweet guy, he was not originally interested in me because of sex, but we did end up losing both of our virginities to each other, so I’m not positive a sex pheromone will work. He told me he loved me because he felt like he could trust me more than other girls since I’m not at all giddy and girly. We are both very smart people, so we like to have deep conversations. I guess I need something that will make him comfortable talking to me, help him realize that I am not the down and depressed person I once was, and maybe something with a little bit of physical attraction. I need him to remember all the good times we once had. I have never used pheromones, and I have not purchased any yet, so please help! ---
**Author:** ![jpballerina](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jpballerina/32/1004_2.png) [@jpballerina](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jpballerina)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2007, 11:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/2 "2007-03-24T23:57:43Z")
If you were down and depressed, I’d get instant shine—it will help him feel happy when he is around you (and you happy when you’re wearing it!). As for him feeling comfortable, I’d say instant openness or instant honesty. Instant openness will make him more chatty with you (if that’s what you want), instant honesty will make things a little deeper and more connected. I’d go with instant honesty, but I’d get input from some other ladies here first; I don’t own instant openness and haven’t been able to compare. 🙂 Lastly, I might add some [instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/), just to up the appeal. 😉 Good luck!! xoxo jp ---
**Author:** ![Nunya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ac8455/32.png) [@Nunya](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Nunya)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2007, 12:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/3 "2007-03-25T00:13:01Z")
> [@tomboy05](#): > > Hey everyone! The main reason why I would like to experiment with pheromones is because my boyfriend dumped me a couple months ago and I am trying to get him back. I have already read up on a book that helped me become a better person, so I have gotten my confidence back, I know how to be better in relationships, but I want an edge to help me win him back. He is a super sweet guy, he was not originally interested in me because of sex, but we did end up losing both of our virginities to each other, so I’m not positive a sex pheromone will work. He told me he loved me because he felt like he could trust me more than other girls since I’m not at all giddy and girly. We are both very smart people, so we like to have deep conversations. I guess I need something that will make him comfortable talking to me, help him realize that I am not the down and depressed person I once was, and maybe something with a little bit of physical attraction. I need him to remember all the good times we once had. I have never used pheromones, and I have not purchased any yet, so please help! oh hon - i’m sure he’s a great guy - but is he the right guy for you? It worries me that you’ve made all these changes to yourself not for yourself, but for him. Where does it end? I would suggest getting soem mones and getting yourself another great guy who will adore you for who you are now. And consider the ex a lesson learned in how not to act in a relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2007, 12:16am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/4 "2007-03-25T00:16:54Z")
the appeal of fun and upliftment attracts everyone,not just him. its you when you are doing something you love,when you are doing something you are good at, when you are having fun yourself and not thinking about how he is feeling. you will sparkle and shine,and that is your ticket. with that said,pheromones are only a part of your sparkle,they are only a sparkle enhancer 😃 instant shine as jpballerina so effervescently said (😉 ) is a great choice,as well as IH. jpballerina you so got the hang of this! 🙂 also, [instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) will make you feeeeel like a wonderful effervescent pixie of a sex goddess youself, or maybe thats just me ? 😮 i more than highly recommend it 😉 ---
**Author:** ![jpballerina](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jpballerina/32/1004_2.png) [@jpballerina](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jpballerina)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2007, 12:20am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/5 "2007-03-25T00:20:39Z")
Wow, Lor, you have no idea what that means to me coming from you! 😃 Thanks. Go tomboy go!! xoxo jp ---
**Author:** ![tomboy05](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tomboy05/32/2320_2.png) [@tomboy05](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tomboy05)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2007, 12:27am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/6 "2007-03-25T00:27:43Z")
Hey Nunya, don’t worry about me. I did not only make the changes for him, but I mostly made them for myself. Trust me, I feel excellent now compared to the time I felt when I was dating him. These changes are really helping me relate to others. Now I am reaching out to people more than I ever did, and some new friendships are developing because of it. I never used to get along with my mom before, and now I went through spring break without arguing with her once. I would like to get back with him, but I view that more of as icing on top of the cake instead of an absolute necessity. I am also dating around, keeping my options open. Thank you for your concern. It is really good to know that I have people looking out for me. ---
**Author:** ![Nunya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ac8455/32.png) [@Nunya](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Nunya)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2007, 1:06am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/7 "2007-03-25T01:06:13Z")
> [@tomboy05](#): > > Hey Nunya, don’t worry about me. I did not only make the changes for him, but I mostly made them for myself. Trust me, I feel excellent now compared to the time I felt when I was dating him. These changes are really helping me relate to others. Now I am reaching out to people more than I ever did, and some new friendships are developing because of it. I never used to get along with my mom before, and now I went through spring break without arguing with her once. I would like to get back with him, but I view that more of as icing on top of the cake instead of an absolute necessity. I am also dating around, keeping my options open. > > Thank you for your concern. It is really good to know that I have people looking out for me. cool! then yeah definitely add the recommendations above to your arsenal. they’ll help you witht he path you are on. and if he comes back around, he comes back around - if not, another path will present itself. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tomboy05](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tomboy05/32/2320_2.png) [@tomboy05](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tomboy05)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2007, 2:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/8 "2007-03-25T02:25:41Z")
Thanks for the advice! I am very short on funds right now, so I might just start off at buying one, and possibly two, in travel sizes to see if I like them. I’m thinking of [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) and Instant Sexiness to start off with. Now. . . how exactly should I apply these? Should I use some perfume along with them? I have some vanilla scented body spray and some Navy and Adidas perfume. I know this is a little off topic but. . . what are reputation points? ---
**Author:** ![slykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/slykitty/32/1443_2.png) [@slykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/slykitty)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2007, 11:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/9 "2007-03-25T11:42:18Z")
> [@jpballerina](#): > > If you were down and depressed, I’d get instant shine—it will help him feel happy when he is around you (and you happy when you’re wearing it!). As for him feeling comfortable, I’d say instant openness or instant honesty. Instant openness will make him more chatty with you (if that’s what you want), instant honesty will make things a little deeper and more connected. I’d go with instant honesty, but I’d get input from some other ladies here first; I don’t own instant openness and haven’t been able to compare. 🙂 > > Lastly, I might add some instant sexiness, just to up the appeal. 😉 > > Good luck!! > > xoxo > jp That sounds like excellent advice, i might have to add that to the resommendations i got on my own situation 😃 **Tomboy05** might i add to say that although it can be difficult after a break up, sometimes it is nesessary in order for us to develop, we learn a little bit more from each experience, as you are going through self developement, why not have fun with the pheroes regardless of your ex you never know you might come across someone who has different charecteristics but is more suited to you, from my limited personal experience (i only have one product thus far!) enhancements can help situations, but the underlying situation still needs to be dealt with 🙂 have fun…thats the main thing ---
**Author:** ![tomboy05](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tomboy05/32/2320_2.png) [@tomboy05](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tomboy05)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2007, 4:03pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/10 "2007-03-25T16:03:21Z")
Don’t worry slykitty. There are a couple of other guys I wouldn’t mind dating. I’m thinking about experimenting on them first. . . Lol, too bad one of our smiley choices isn’t one of a devil. That one would fit this post only too well. ---
**Author:** ![alseides](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alseides/32/1039_2.png) [@alseides](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/alseides)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2007, 4:13pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-advice/2715/11 "2007-03-25T16:13:55Z")
> [@slykitty](#): > > might i add to say that although it can be difficult after a break up, sometimes it is nesessary in order for us to develop, we learn a little bit more from each experience, as you are going through self developement, why not have fun with the pheroes regardless of your ex you never know you might come across someone who has different charecteristics but is more suited to you, from my limited personal experience (i only have one product thus far!) enhancements can help situations, but the underlying situation still needs to be dealt with 🙂 have fun…thats the main thing I couldn’t have said it better myself, Slykitty. Good luck, though, Tomboy. Just keep her advice in mind. I find that, when going for a specific person who may not be the best for you, the one who truly _is_ in your best interest is right under your nose, and with a little coaching by means of pheromones, may very well fall into your lap. 🙂