# I need some advice from the guys **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [August 5, 2011, 6:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640 "2011-08-05T18:41:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![marianinja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/258eb7/32.png) [@marianinja](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/marianinja)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2011, 1:59am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/21 "2011-08-15T01:59:56Z")
> [@RADMAN513](#): > > I have no advice to offer, sorry…I am however curious. What’s changed since the time when he was into you and you thought of him as just a friend? > Is he different in some way from how he was back then? Are you? > I ask because to a degree this is a situation a lot of guys around here are actively trying to accomplish. At least in as much as they have a female friend they have feelings for, but don’t know how to make her see them as more than a friend. So I think a little more detail on the specific how’s and why’s of you developing attraction and romantic feelings for him could help a few of the men around here. Well it’s hard to say why really. I think he just grew on me. Before I didn’t really trust him completely or take him that serious. I think I thought his intention might be a little insincere…or that he just wanted to bone me and that’s it. But I come to find that he is a really nice guy and is not like that at all. Even though I did sorta put him in the friend zone, he didn’t just forget about me. He stuck around, and became the best friend I’ve ever had. I just really got to know him and I trust him now, when before I didn’t. I needed some time to warm up to him that’s all. I think i might have let him slip too far into the friend zone tho, because he does seem a little confused about it all… But at the same time, He’s being respectful and is acting less awkward about it. I am really anxious for him to come back home :/… so we can finally have sex lol…but idk that might not happen…blah anyway… I think the problem is that there are too many girls/women with trust issues out there. I can’t speak for all of them…that’s just what i think. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2011, 9:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/22 "2011-08-15T21:06:03Z")
> [@marianinja](#): > > Well it’s hard to say why really. I think he just grew on me. Before I didn’t really trust him completely or take him that serious. I think I thought his intention might be a little insincere…or that he just wanted to bone me and that’s it. > > But I come to find that he is a really nice guy and is not like that at all. Even though I did sorta put him in the friend zone, he didn’t just forget about me. He stuck around, and became the best friend I’ve ever had. I just really got to know him and I trust him now, when before I didn’t. I needed some time to warm up to him that’s all. > > I think i might have let him slip too far into the friend zone tho, because he does seem a little confused about it all… But at the same time, He’s being respectful and is acting less awkward about it. > > I am really anxious for him to come back home :/… so we can finally have sex lol…but idk that might not happen…blah > > anyway… I think the problem is that there are too many girls/women with trust issues out there. I can’t speak for all of them…that’s just what i think. How old were you at the time and how old was he? You’re not too far into the friend zone. Like I said, “Put on something sexy, and a couple of drinks and he’ll be all over you.” A man’s hormones take over pretty quickly, and we can’t do much to stop it, lol. ---
**Author:** ![marianinja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/258eb7/32.png) [@marianinja](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/marianinja)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2011, 4:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/23 "2011-08-16T04:03:52Z")
I was 21, he was 26. that was almost 3 years ago… Thanks for the advice Castlerock. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2011, 4:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/24 "2011-08-16T04:09:54Z")
> [@marianinja](#): > > I was 21, he was 26. > > that was almost 3 years ago… > > Thanks for the advice Castlerock. So he’s 29 and you’re 24 now. Big time score for him. 🙂 It’s in the bag. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 10:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/25 "2011-10-15T22:00:31Z")
Updates??? What’s the good word? ---
**Author:** ![Universe](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/universe/32/1239_2.png) [@Universe](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Universe)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 10:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/26 "2011-10-15T22:36:26Z")
I didn’t read the entire thread, just your original post, but my advice is this: Tell him how you feel. Put your cards on the table! ---
**Author:** ![marianinja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/258eb7/32.png) [@marianinja](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/marianinja)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2011, 9:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/27 "2011-12-21T09:03:01Z")
update time…sorry guys but the news is not good. When he came back to town, I put one or two sprays of my new pheromones on. then when i saw him he seemed a little timid. I gave him a hug and i felt he had a boner which was cool but… he pushed me away and wouldn’t really talk to me. We ended up getting into a HUGE argument that same night and now we are no longer friends. :/…idk if i used the pheromones the wrong way or what…but this sucks. I been depressed for the past few months that’s why I haven’t been on here lately. Any advice would be great. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2011, 4:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/28 "2011-12-21T16:18:19Z")
> [@marianinja](#): > > update time…sorry guys but the news is not good. When he came back to town, I put one or two sprays of my new pheromones on. then when i saw him he seemed a little timid. I gave him a hug and i felt he had a boner which was cool but… > he pushed me away and wouldn’t really talk to me. We ended up getting into a HUGE argument that same night and now we are no longer friends. :/…idk if i used the pheromones the wrong way or what…but this sucks. I been depressed for the past few months that’s why I haven’t been on here lately. Any advice would be great. [The Sword in the Stone - A Most Befuddling Thing Part 1 - YouTube](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDWnuddCf0E) What was the argument about? You’ve been really that upset about it? He just might be an immature dick. ---
**Author:** ![marianinja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/258eb7/32.png) [@marianinja](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/marianinja)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2012, 3:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/29 "2012-01-07T03:47:56Z")
Yeah…it is what it is. I have to try and move on now. Found out that he’s been having an issue with drugs. Recently he tried to apologize, but I am so emotionally drained. I don’t know what to do with him anymore. ---
**Author:** ![marianinja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/258eb7/32.png) [@marianinja](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/marianinja)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2012, 3:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/30 "2012-01-07T03:58:53Z")
Thanks everyone for the support though. I \<3 u guys. I don’t regret putting all my cards out on the table. It was a good decision. Made me see things I haven’t seen before…It sort of helped him realize stuff about himself too. He has some secret issues that he needs to deal with before we could ever be cool again. I still care for him so hopefully he gets better and we can reconnect some day…But not today. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2012, 10:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640/31 "2012-01-07T22:39:34Z")
> [@marianinja](#): > > Yeah…it is what it is. I have to try and move on now. **Found out that he’s been having an issue with drugs.** Recently he tried to apologize, but I am so emotionally drained. I don’t know what to do with him anymore. Time to move on real quick. Trust me, from personal experience that is train wreck and a plane crash at the same time. I dated a woman who was addicted to pain killers and she was so beautiful and sweet, but couldn’t make it work. As hard as I tried, I knew it was doomed failure. [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-need-some-advice-from-the-guys/51640.md?page=1)