# I see the light! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [January 21, 2009, 9:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177 "2009-01-21T21:02:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Merienda](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/merienda/32/1381_2.png) [@Merienda](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Merienda)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 9:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177/1 "2009-01-21T21:02:18Z")
Hey all, my name is Meri, and I’m at 20 year old female residing in California. I was initially against the whole idea of using [pheromones](https://a314.com/) to “attract the opposite” sex, even more so when my newly divorced mother badgered me to research/order pheromones for her online. Grudgingly I did so and stumbled across this forum..and the clouds parted and the heavens opened…lol jk..but in all seriousness, the information in the forum eradicated all negative opinions I initially had on the use of pheromones. I SAW THE LIGHT! And I find it all very fascinating. 😃 Unfortunately, before I actually took the time to read some of these threads I just purchased a bunch of random products for my mother. I don’t know, I guess we’ll see how that works out lol. I’m also considering buying a product for myself. I’m not an approachable person, a few people have told me that I come off as a “b\*tch” or concieted and intimidating and they would NEVER give me a specific reason as to HOW or WHY I come off as the above. And I find that whenever I talk to people (most prevalent in males) they’re very uncomfortable especially when I look them directly in the eye, they tend to fidget, avoid eye contact and look for a reason to get away, sometimes they even stutter. Of course there are the SUPER SUPER SUPER extroverts that are at ease with me, but the majority of people appear uncomfortable. You’d think such a short person (I’m 5’3) wouldn’t bring out that kind of behavior in people, but I do. _sigh_ I thought I should try smiling more but that just made me look like some kind of crazy lady. LOL. So in a nutshell, I’m looking for something that would make me much more approachable. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 9:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177/2 "2009-01-21T21:11:38Z")
Hello Meri Good to have you here in Pherotalk so welcome on board 🙂 Hmm, so you used to have negative thoughts about pheros but now due to this forum it have change your mind, that is fantastic 😃 Ok for your situation there, i would highly recommended IO as this is phero will break the ice in people approach on you plus it make your conversation with the person you are talking to much more better, smoother & longer 🙂 I also recommend [Instant Sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) which come in 2 types A & B as it is a great attraction phero & is a must have among the ladies here 🙂 Hope my info helps & see you 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 9:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177/3 "2009-01-21T21:14:17Z")
> [@Merienda](#): > > Hey all, my name is Meri, and I’m at 20 year old female residing in California. > > I was initially against the whole idea of using pheromones to “attract the opposite” sex, even more so when my newly divorced mother badgered me to research/order pheromones for her online. > > Grudgingly I did so and stumbled across this forum..and the clouds parted and the heavens opened…lol jk..but in all seriousness, the information in the forum eradicated all negative opinions I initially had on the use of pheromones. I SAW THE LIGHT! And I find it all very fascinating. 😃 > > Unfortunately, before I actually took the time to read some of these threads I just purchased a bunch of random products for my mother. I don’t know, I guess we’ll see how that works out lol. > > I’m also considering buying a product for myself. I’m not an approachable person, a few people have told me that I come off as a “b\*tch” or concieted and intimidating and they would NEVER give me a specific reason as to HOW or WHY I come off as the above. And I find that whenever I talk to people (most prevalent in males) they’re very uncomfortable especially when I look them directly in the eye, they tend to fidget, avoid eye contact and look for a reason to get away, sometimes they even stutter. Of course there are the SUPER SUPER SUPER extroverts that are at ease with me, but the majority of people appear uncomfortable. You’d think such a short person (I’m 5’3) wouldn’t bring out that kind of behavior in people, but I do. _sigh_ I thought I should try smiling more but that just made me look like some kind of crazy lady. LOL. > > So in a nutshell, I’m looking for something that would make me much more approachable. > > Thanks! Hi & welcome to the forum Merienda! This is a very friendly forum with plenty of people to ask advise from. It’s great that you told us abit about your personality, it helps us point you in the right direction. What do you hope to get out of usng phero’s (which situation you want them for)? Social situations, romance, work? No matter what, [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) is brilliant. It makes you shine, just like it says on the bottle. It gives you a youthful, happy and approachable vibe. Another favourite of mine is Come Talk To Me2. It makes people more chatty, relaxed around you and more likely to approach you. Both IS and CTTM2 have great self-effects too! Looking forward to hearing about your adventures! ---
**Author:** ![Wrlprchnx](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wrlprchnx/32/1360_2.png) [@Wrlprchnx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wrlprchnx)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 10:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177/4 "2009-01-21T22:06:23Z")
Welcome aboard Merienda! So are you just looking for phero’s to help your social situation from a friend perspective or a romantic perspective? Actually… your answer probably wouldn’t affect my suggestion - Instant Shine Instant Shine Instant Shine! It makes you more approachable everytime + puts you in a great mood If you wanted to boost your sex appeal I would personally suggest IS/b because IS/a gives off a very alpha sexy feel (which I think would feed into that bitchy feeling that people seem to get from you) IS/b should also help make you more approachable (I.E. safe) but in a sexier way then Instant Shine will. Finally [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) is probably a good call - If everyone is chatting all around and with you you will definetly seem more approachable. Hope this helps and have fun! ---
**Author:** ![Merienda](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/merienda/32/1381_2.png) [@Merienda](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Merienda)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 8:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177/5 "2009-01-22T20:31:56Z")
Thanks, you guys have been very helpful. 😃 I think I’ll go and purchase some instant shine. Quick question, the website listed [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) for men, is it alright for women to use? ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 8:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177/6 "2009-01-22T20:35:13Z")
> [@Merienda](#): > > Thanks, you guys have been very helpful. 😃 > > I think I’ll go and purchase some instant shine. > > Quick question, the website listed Instant Shine for men, is it alright for women to use? Yes, that’s fine. They are the same…unisex 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2009, 11:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177/7 "2009-01-23T11:01:25Z")
Hello Meri, Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 My name is Tisha and I am the hostess and Phero adviser here on PT. So what random products did you order for you mom ? If you need any tips and how to use them more effectively we can help with that. Ishine would be what I suggest for you. Its great for any situation. If you need help let me know. **Your GC has been sent** Have fun and see you in the forum 😉 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![Merienda](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/merienda/32/1381_2.png) [@Merienda](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Merienda)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2009, 6:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177/8 "2009-01-24T06:03:18Z")
Thank you everyone for your suggestions! Well, I bought [Instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) A and instant openess/honesty/shine something for my mom (can’t remember which). If it’s instant shine, I may just have to “borrow” it from her lol. Quick question, hopefully someone can help me out. If one of products comes in neroli, chocolatini or any other scents they come in by default, can you still spray your own perfume over it to add to the “diffusing”? And would it help mask the smell? ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2009, 12:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/i-see-the-light/25177/9 "2009-01-25T12:47:22Z")
> [@](#): > > Quick question, hopefully someone can help me out. If one of products comes in neroli, chocolatini or any other scents they come in by default, can you still spray your own perfume over it to add to the “diffusing”? And would it help mask the smell? All of the products you purchased come in neroli scent which drys down light and blends well with any cover. Yes you can spray your own perfume over it. The best way to do this if your covering due to smell is apply your mones wait 10 minutes and then cover. This helps reduce bleed through of scent. Chocolitini can not be covered easily but blends well with foody scents. Tisha