# if only pheromones could buy you love **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [January 20, 2009, 6:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/if-only-pheromones-could-buy-you-love/25117 "2009-01-20T06:00:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Saifz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Saifz](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Saifz)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/if-only-pheromones-could-buy-you-love/25117/1 "2009-01-20T06:00:00Z")
I’ve been using [pheromones](https://a314.com/) for a while. Androtics products work perfectly for their job, but its just funny..like Gene and Alladen, Gene told him he can’t make anyone fall in love with him. If you watch the movie perfume, the killer creates the perfect pheromone mix and then hates himself and ends his life because he couldn’t find love in that. I bet if I give some of these products to a couple of my friends who are great with girls I would see crazy shit go down. I just have something I can’t put my finger on that stops me from success, it could be fear or it could be something else. Today I was at starbucks and the barista was so nice, geniuenly nice. She told me she hasn’t seen me in a while and she was so excited wanting to chat, I respond coldly in a very hesitant matter. I am not shy anymore, I can talk to people..but I find it hard to accept people being nice, it breaks me. I have a belief that no one could love me. No girl could love me, I believe I am attractive, I turn heads with or without pheromones..girls can be attracted to me, sexually..but not love me for who I am. So this girl, and I feel bad cuz i can’t even remember her name, she gives me my drink and she tells me that she hopes to see me soon with this beautiful big smile on her face..and I just respond poorly and I don’t know why. I don’t want to pick her up, I just wish I could be geniuenly nice back to her too and connect with another human on a level deeper than surface. Sorry to bother you with my ranting about my disturbing emotions, I just wanted to let it off my chest before I go to sleep. Big day tomorrow, first day of class 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/if-only-pheromones-could-buy-you-love/25117/2 "2009-01-20T06:15:38Z")
At least you see what the problem is. Everybody goes through similar feelings. The best thing is to pretend: force yourself to wear a smile, make small talk and look like you’re on top of the world. Acting is a wonderful skill and, while you’re in character, you might even fool yourself. I do it all the time. ---
**Author:** ![Bonecrkr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/9d8465/32.png) [@Bonecrkr](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bonecrkr)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 12:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/if-only-pheromones-could-buy-you-love/25117/3 "2009-01-20T12:41:39Z")
There are a HUGE number of people, both men and women who are in exactly the same boat as you. The first step in dealing with this is to understand that many of the women you meet have the exact same problem. They have no problem attracting men with their bodies and with a fake personality they built for exactly that purpose. But they are paranoid that no one will ever truly love them for who they are. At best, they will get what they want out of them and then toss them aside. Even more, look the part, but can’t close the deal with a man. They don’t know how to do their part. Big problem with both men and women. Understand though, that, as the man, in western culture, the responsibility to fix this falls on your shoulders. No woman is going to do it, so you must. Part of the problem is signficant negative brainwashing about women and relationships in popular culture (kill your TV). The message is that dating, mating and relating, is grim and serious business where your worth as a person is on the line. The person who dominates (and who often treats the other poorly) wins. People don’t need eachother. Interactions with others are scary. All that is a lie. The fact that it is an intentional manipulation by assholes who want you staying home saturday nights, consuming products they sell, should have you upset. The truth is, dating is fun. The point…the POINT of any and every interaction with the other person is to make them and you happy. It’s a filter you should keep up with your behavior with women you meet. Is what I am saying and doing or have planned with this girl designed to make her and/or me happy. Are we here to have fun. Am I showing this woman compassion as I get to know her more. Am I redirecting her away from negative behaviors towards ones that make her and/or me happy? Are we here to have a good time. That’s the mindset to practice to pull both you and her out of that crap. After awhile it becomes a habit…an important one. When I wear something like alpha - 7, it is incredibly common for a woman move near me and literally snap to attention as she looks at me (if you look closely, there’s a tiny bit of drool you can just barely see) and look all googly eyed. But, so what. She’s just going to walk on by and forget all about me in seconds…until I look her right in the eyes and give her a warm smile. It’s always returned. Then, we can begin. Using the filter above starts me out on the right foot (unless she’s a friggin psycho but those are easy to spot) and keeps me there. Sometimes it goes somewhere, sometimes it don’t. But she’s always happy to have met me. And that’s what is important. > [@Saifz](#): > > I’ve been using pheromones for a while. Androtics products work perfectly for their job, but its just funny..like Gene and Alladen, Gene told him he can’t make anyone fall in love with him. If you watch the movie perfume, the killer creates the perfect pheromone mix and then hates himself and ends his life because he couldn’t find love in that. > > I bet if I give some of these products to a couple of my friends who are great with girls I would see crazy shit go down. I just have something I can’t put my finger on that stops me from success, it could be fear or it could be something else. > > Today I was at starbucks and the barista was so nice, geniuenly nice. She told me she hasn’t seen me in a while and she was so excited wanting to chat, I respond coldly in a very hesitant matter. I am not shy anymore, I can talk to people..but I find it hard to accept people being nice, it breaks me. I have a belief that no one could love me. No girl could love me, I believe I am attractive, I turn heads with or without pheromones..girls can be attracted to me, sexually..but not love me for who I am. So this girl, and I feel bad cuz i can’t even remember her name, she gives me my drink and she tells me that she hopes to see me soon with this beautiful big smile on her face..and I just respond poorly and I don’t know why. I don’t want to pick her up, I just wish I could be geniuenly nice back to her too and connect with another human on a level deeper than surface. > > Sorry to bother you with my ranting about my disturbing emotions, I just wanted to let it off my chest before I go to sleep. Big day tomorrow, first day of class 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![MaChMa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c6cbf5/32.png) [@MaChMa](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MaChMa)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 6:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/if-only-pheromones-could-buy-you-love/25117/4 "2009-01-20T18:11:28Z")
I totally understand where you are coming from. But my philosophy is, You can fall in love with anyone if you are around them long enough. That is why you see so many childhood friends start dating. You may never think of them as a lover, but after a while your personality adapts to them, your dislikes about them turn to a mutual or like about them, and it just slowly bonds into a relationship. The only problem is, that if you don’t want to love somebody, the simple fact is just dont hang around him. There are girls I wouldn’t touch with a 10 foot pole, but seem to be incredibly attracted to me. Which is why I try to avoid them as much as possible, it may be harsh, but its in the best interest for both of us. ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2009, 10:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/if-only-pheromones-could-buy-you-love/25117/5 "2009-01-20T22:33:00Z")
> [@](#): > > The only problem is, that if you don’t want to love somebody, the simple fact is just dont hang around him. Oh come on, hardly nobody has that problem! Sure, sometimes you discover hidden beauty and fall in love. But that’s rare. Most of the time, as you see more of their true essence, it confirms what you already know–no way with her–and you develop increased emotional distance and dismiss them. I hang around with all sorts of women I don’t care for romantically and everything is fine. Sheesh, no worries about falling in love with someone I’m not attracted to. But, yeah, that would be a major problem if you fell in love with anybody you hung around with. You’d have to hide most of the time…